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A woman at work never asks you non-work-related questions and generally shows no interest in having a reciprocal conversation. How do you respond?
nush
Gold Member
She doesn't have a story, she swerved him pretty quickly by OPs account.
crisdecuba
Member
cheststrongwell
my cake, fuck off
You creep her out.
GAMETA
Banned
Is it damaging your work in any way?
If it is, just be honest and go with the "Hey XXXXX, can I talk to you for a second?", "Is anything wrong? I mean, I feel like we're miscommunicating and it's taking a toll on the work... maybe we can find a way to make it work better for the both of us? What do you think?"
If it's not making the work harder, just let her be, man. I wouldn't ignore her or anything like, I'd treat her politely and all, but keep it strictly work related only.
Don't be a creep.
If it is, just be honest and go with the "Hey XXXXX, can I talk to you for a second?", "Is anything wrong? I mean, I feel like we're miscommunicating and it's taking a toll on the work... maybe we can find a way to make it work better for the both of us? What do you think?"
If it's not making the work harder, just let her be, man. I wouldn't ignore her or anything like, I'd treat her politely and all, but keep it strictly work related only.
Don't be a creep.
Giallo Corsa
Member
You know what falls into the "incel creep" category ? Your post.
Shit man, you're spending so much energy on "blasting" another fellow member and accusing him for being a "creep" with internet psychology 101 and for what ? Do you gain any satisfaction from it ?Also : you're doing the exact same thing as the person you're accusing of, that is, being a massive "creep" - double standards and all that my man
Jesus Christ there are so many miserable users in here, always dissatisfied, always angry, always judging others, how the fuck can you people actually live in the "real world®" without getting "triggered" by other people's opinions every couple of seconds ? I mean, God damn, it's actually amazing, absolutely zero fucking self-awareness ...
Peggies
Gold Member
You know what falls into the "incel creep" category ? Your post.
Shit man, you're spending so much energy on "blasting" another fellow member and accusing him for being a "creep" with internet psychology 101 and for what ? Do you gain any satisfaction from it ?Also : you're doing the exact same thing as the person you're accusing of, that is, being a massive "creep" - double standards and all that my man
Jesus Christ there are so many miserable users in here, always dissatisfied, always angry, always judging others, how the fuck can you people actually live in the "real world®" without getting "triggered" by other people's opinions every couple of seconds ? I mean, God damn, it's actually amazing, absolutely zero fucking self-awareness ...
Anyway, is OP even still with us? The thread is quite old.
SimpleKindofMan
Banned
I hope the police found her body so her family can have closure.
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Sidney Prescott
Unconfirmed Member
If there's no interest there, I generally put a stop to it pretty fast. That is assuming I even approach the person in the first place. No use trying to force something that isn't there.
Pagusas
Elden Member
The impression I get is she probably thinks you see her as a dating opertunity and she's throwing up every wall possible with a bright blinking sign of "not interested" even if thats not your intent. If someone isnt interested in you at all, your prying questions can just make you look like a creepy stalker dude (again, even if that inst the intent)
nush
Gold Member
You know what falls into the "incel creep" category ? Your post.
Shit man, you're spending so much energy on "blasting" another fellow member and accusing him for being a "creep" with internet psychology 101 and for what ? Do you gain any satisfaction from it ?Also : you're doing the exact same thing as the person you're accusing of, that is, being a massive "creep" - double standards and all that my man
Jesus Christ there are so many miserable users in here, always dissatisfied, always angry, always judging others, how the fuck can you people actually live in the "real world®" without getting "triggered" by other people's opinions every couple of seconds ? I mean, God damn, it's actually amazing, absolutely zero fucking self-awareness ...
LOL, looks like I've triggered another incel. Judging by this guys start date of just 10 days ago I'm putting good money down it's OP's ALT, he also liked the "No U!" responses to being called out.
nush
Gold Member
I think he bailed out, he's deleted his avatar and not posted in a month. He's salty he can't post Daily Mail inks in the former clown World topic that validate his world view that its "Debauchery of modern women" as the reason he can't get laid.
fatty
Member
Jesus Christ there are so many miserable users in here, always dissatisfied, always angry, always judging others, how the fuck can you people actually live in the "real world®" without getting "triggered" by other people's opinions every couple of seconds ? I mean, God damn, it's actually amazing, absolutely zero fucking self-awareness ...
Peggies
Gold Member
Mossybrew
Banned
You lost me at the very beginning with "naturally you try to find out more about your coworkers etc" and I stopped reading right there because youre one of those people and I cant relate. No I dont care to learn anything about my coworkers beyond the confines of doing our jobs, sorry dont give a shit about what your kids are doing or what you do or dont like to eat etc etc just please shut the fuck up.
Giallo Corsa
Member
LOL, looks like I've triggered another incel. Judging by this guys start date of just 10 days ago I'm putting good money down it's OP's ALT, he also liked the "No U!" responses to being called out.
Man, kids today, "incel", "likes", gifs etc etc, a generation of Muppets brought up on internet forums with their fucking lingo where everything's a meme, again, how the fuck can you even breath man in the real world without getting "triggered" every couple of secs ? You could make a career out of being outraged all the time, again, zero self-awareness, it's actually amazing
Hope mommy knows you're using a computer
nush
Gold Member
Man, kids today, "incel", "likes", gifs etc etc, a generation of Muppets brought up on internet forums with their fucking lingo where everything's a meme, again, how the fuck can you even breath man in the real world without getting "triggered" every couple of secs ? You could make a career out of being outraged all the time, again, zero self-awareness, it's actually amazing
Hope mommy knows you're using a computer
What's a muppet?
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Sidney Prescott
Unconfirmed Member
nush
Gold Member
Another word for idiot/stupid, basically.
Thanks so
Giallo Corsa
is actually the mupet here. I don't speak "How you doin fellow kids" well.
Virt McPolygon
Banned
I get what you're saying, but come on. It's not like this is the Politics forum(which you should ignore). That place will make you wonder if some of these people even interact with others outside of their own family members that have just learned to tolerate them.You know what falls into the "incel creep" category ? Your post.
Shit man, you're spending so much energy on "blasting" another fellow member and accusing him for being a "creep" with internet psychology 101 and for what ? Do you gain any satisfaction from it ?Also : you're doing the exact same thing as the person you're accusing of, that is, being a massive "creep" - double standards and all that my man
Jesus Christ there are so many miserable users in here, always dissatisfied, always angry, always judging others, how the fuck can you people actually live in the "real world®" without getting "triggered" by other people's opinions every couple of seconds ? I mean, God damn, it's actually amazing, absolutely zero fucking self-awareness ...
Ownage
Member
I've seen this type time and time again in the workplace. Most workplaces have some form of toxic employee. Be glad you're junior and not the boss you spoke with. They and their bosses have huge arrows on their backs.
These awful creatures you encounter at work are looking for a fight. This is common. Ignore them and do your job. Let some other schmuck be team lead. Collect your pay and benefits. Keep all personal emotions and friendships far from work.
Every paycheck is a victory.
These awful creatures you encounter at work are looking for a fight. This is common. Ignore them and do your job. Let some other schmuck be team lead. Collect your pay and benefits. Keep all personal emotions and friendships far from work.
Every paycheck is a victory.
TheContact
Member
Best advice I can give is each person is different, you’re speculating as to why she’s short with you as you mention, and don’t take office drama too personally. Focus on your job, be friendly to everyone, don’t always expect friendliness back. Keys to success
008
Banned
Hes definitely fugly and sucks at communication with women. /thread
Dirk Benedict
Gold Member
Another word for idiot/stupid, basically.
Doing my boi, Animal dirty. FeelsBadMan
Cherry Sonoshee
Banned
Well, you sound like a cringy douchebag so no surprise she doesn't want to talk to you.
Peggies
Gold Member
Man, kids today, "incel", "likes", gifs etc etc, a generation of Muppets brought up on internet forums with their fucking lingo where everything's a meme, again, how the fuck can you even breath man in the real world without getting "triggered" every couple of secs ? You could make a career out of being outraged all the time, again, zero self-awareness, it's actually amazing
Hope mommy knows you're using a computer
You sound cringey.
Giallo Corsa
Member
You sound cringey.
I mean, i get it, you and your girlfriend Noosh have to be occupied with something, right ? Especially now with the Covid and everything, you must be bored out of your Goddamned minds friends.
Tell you what, if you reply with a gif and/or meme once more all will be forgiven, apparently you're pretty good at it being teenagers and everything, bet this shit makes you hard
PS : them double standards again, it's been what, 4 days and you still keep 'em coming - talking about being "creeps" and "cringey", God damn, absolutely zero self-awareness, it's actually fucking amazing, "rules for thee but not for me"
Peggies
Gold Member
I mean, i get it, you and your girlfriend Noosh have to be occupied with something, right ? Especially now with the Covid and everything, you must be bored out of your Goddamned minds friends.
Tell you what, if you reply with a gif and/or meme once more all will be forgiven, apparently you're pretty good at it being teenagers and everything, bet this shit makes you hard
PS : them double standards again, it's been what, 4 days and you still keep 'em coming - talking about being "creeps" and "cringey", God damn, absolutely zero self-awareness, it's actually fucking amazing, "rules for thee but not for me"
Giallo Corsa
Member
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nush
Gold Member
I mean, i get it, you and your girlfriend Noosh have to be occupied with something, right ? Especially now with the Covid and everything, you must be bored out of your Goddamned minds friends.
Tell you what, if you reply with a gif and/or meme once more all will be forgiven, apparently you're pretty good at it being teenagers and everything, bet this shit makes you hard
PS : them double standards again, it's been what, 4 days and you still keep 'em coming - talking about being "creeps" and "cringey", God damn, absolutely zero self-awareness, it's actually fucking amazing, "rules for thee but not for me"
Peggies
don't you hate getting misgendered?
Peggies
Gold Member
nush
Gold Member
Peggies
Gold Member
ArtemisClydeFrog
Banned
Man, kids today, "incel", "likes", gifs etc etc, a generation of Muppets brought up on internet forums with their fucking lingo where everything's a meme, again, how the fuck can you even breath man in the real world without getting "triggered" every couple of secs ? You could make a career out of being outraged all the time, again, zero self-awareness, it's actually amazing
Hope mommy knows you're using a computer
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RJMacready73
Banned
You don't have to be super friendly to everyone, you're adults you're there to work and get through the day with the least amount of shit, small chit chat is fine but if she's not interested move on, stop viewing it as there's something wrong, she clearly doesn't like you or she doesn't like you enquiring about her shit either way, stop it and let her get on with her shit and simply go about your day professionally and keep all interactions with this woman professional and above board.. your comments about her looks also says plenty to me tbh
epicnemesis
Member
Am I the weird one for not talking about non work stuff at work? In this day and age no good can come from it. Just smile, be polite and friendly, and do your work.
Lunarorbit
Member
Serious question, do people not introduce themselves to you at work?
Started a new job in January and there are alot of people to meet. I'm usually good about being friendly but I've had several coworkers, men and women, just totally gloss over introducing themselves and just start asking me to help them with x, y, or z.
Really weird
Started a new job in January and there are alot of people to meet. I'm usually good about being friendly but I've had several coworkers, men and women, just totally gloss over introducing themselves and just start asking me to help them with x, y, or z.
Really weird
CAB_Life
Member
Why does this woman need to be your friend? Why the qualifier that she's kinda homely as if that necessitates that she should be reciprocal to your attempts at conversation? You're seeing this entirely through a personal and subjective lens when in reality you're both there to do a job not to become either bffs or star-crossed lovers.
GHG
Member
Depends on the company.
What you described tends to happen in companies where people come and go quite frequently (or in relatively stable companies where there are notorious poisoned chalice positions where the person in those roles never tend to last long). Over time people realise there's no point in making an effort due to the transient nature of the company.
Either that or there's something about you that's putting people off from even doing the basics.
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