Seductivpancakes
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Anyone playing Heroes of the Storm?
It's like EZmode League, with more objectives and less last hitting, etc.
Only see a friend play it. Looks pretty.
I'm still on League ARAM.
Anyone playing Heroes of the Storm?
It's like EZmode League, with more objectives and less last hitting, etc.
I tell people I'm a Midwest boy, since I've never been to the east or West coasts.
(born in Taiwan though)
This happened about an hour ago. I was with a customer doing my thing and just having a conversation with him. He asks me where I was from. Deep down, I knew exactly what he was trying to say, but I played stupid and said "Queens." He was like, oh yeah, but you're Chinese yes? I was like, oh, you mean country, yeah, I'm from China. He sounded pretty flustered when I told him I was from Queens. He was a nice enough guy, but I was just fucking with him for a laugh.
Eh, most of the time people don't mean any harm so I let them play the guessing game. If it's a cute girl, I usually give them 3 guess and if they get it wrong I get their number (I still try if they win anyways lol). I've been guilty of asking one's ethnicity too.
Eh, most of the time people don't mean any harm so I let them play the guessing game. If it's a cute girl, I usually give them 3 guess and if they get it wrong I get their number (I still try if they win anyways lol). I've been guilty of asking one's ethnicity too.
We're also doing a Chinese Tea Ceremony, and a Paebaek (the Korean ceremony). It's... kinda nuts.
That's awesome. If my grandma was still alive, I probably would've done a traditional Korean wedding as well but probably just gonna do it at a church. I wouldn't have been opposed to one either... it seems super interesting.We're also doing a Chinese Tea Ceremony, and a Paebaek (the Korean ceremony). It's... kinda nuts.
Oh man that sounds crazy fun. Are you guys going to dress appropriately for both ceremonies?
When I got married, we followed my in-laws' Filipino tradition of having a bunch of sponsors, so we had a bunch of people we didn't really know (her parents' friends) in our wedding party. Supposedly the sponsors are supposed to give bigger wedding gifts, but they really didn't (in fact, one pair came in a party of four and gave no gift at all). I can't say I appreciated that.
We also did a second ceremony in the Philippines for her family and family friends. We knew almost no one.
Yep, for the most part. She'll wear a traditional red Chinese wedding dress for the tea ceremony but I think I'm getting away with a suit.
But for the Paebaek, we're both doing Hanbok.
Sorry to go off topic but from my last post I was reminded about traditional Chinese garments worn in weddings and how I find the Cheongsam dress absolutely beautiful and elegant. So for the past 40 minutes or so I fell down the rabbit hole and I learned something new about myself.
I mean that respectfully.
This:
vs. this:
Sorry to go off topic but from my last post I was reminded about traditional Chinese garments worn in weddings and how I find the Cheongsam dress absolutely beautiful and elegant. So for the past 40 minutes or so I fell down the rabbit hole and I learned something new about myself.
Since we're on the topic of Asian clothing... I'm doing something like a personal art project and wanted to study more about the history of Chinese clothing, like from the first dynasty onwards. Anyone know a good resource for that? Would be open to buying/borrowing books, but I'm not sure which one is good. Online resources are a bit scarce in info, or maybe I'm just not looking in the right places. Pictures I find are small or low quality, and I need refs for men as well.
When I get married, I'm going to adhere to my country's most-important tradition - a well-stocked open bar.
^- lol, dang
I wouldn't stand up to my family, but luckily for them/me, I want to get married in a church anyway. Also luckily for them/me, I like the same sort of person they want me to end up with (ethnicity).
Hopefully my parents leave me alone for the wedding and stuff like that. My parents pretty much stopped making decisions for me in middle school. Everything I did from that point on was my own research and my own thoughts-- the classes I picked, the application progress, tests, school, etc. My parents just watched (and criticized) all my choices, but they never gave me any input otherwise.
I'm Korean-American, my fiancee is Chinese-American.
I was raised Christian Methodist, she wasn't raised in any sort of religious household. I'm not at all religious, but my fiancee's still converting anyways since my mom's super religious. So because of that, our ceremony's in a church, which is the western Christian ceremony.
We're also doing a Chinese Tea Ceremony, and a Paebaek (the Korean ceremony). It's... kinda nuts.
When I got married, we followed my in-laws' Filipino tradition of having a bunch of sponsors, so we had a bunch of people we didn't really know (her parents' friends) in our wedding party. Supposedly the sponsors are supposed to give bigger wedding gifts, but they really didn't (in fact, one pair came in a party of four and gave no gift at all). I can't say I appreciated that.
We also did a second ceremony in the Philippines for her family and family friends. We knew almost no one.
When I get married, I'm going to adhere to my country's most-important tradition - a well-stocked open bar.
I hope I can pull this off, but I don't know if I want to see my parents drunk.
Brah you needed to keep that hair on your head to keep the warmth in. WE'RE GETTING THE WORST BLIZZARD NEW YORK HAS EVER SEEEN.
Ugh, I don't even want to think about that. Especially since my dad left my mom for another woman. I don't want to think about them even being in the same room, much less drunk.
Maybe I just won't get married and I won't have to worry about it
You always make such funny faces O_O
When I got married, we followed my in-laws' Filipino tradition of having a bunch of sponsors, so we had a bunch of people we didn't really know (her parents' friends) in our wedding party. Supposedly the sponsors are supposed to give bigger wedding gifts, but they really didn't (in fact, one pair came in a party of four and gave no gift at all). I can't say I appreciated that.
We also did a second ceremony in the Philippines for her family and family friends. We knew almost no one.
Girlfriend broke up with me. Made a last ditch effort to try and convince her, but it didn't work out.
Guess dating someone 4 yours your senior doesn't work out very well, especially if they're Asian :/
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You mind me asking what happened? I've been on the fence about breaking up with my own girl these past few weeks.
- I work at a startup, and I put in some greater than average hours. We only saw each other 2-3 days a week, and that wasn't enough for her. I wasn't ready to dedicate more time at the pace she wanted. Coupled with the fact that she... doesn't really move/work/do things at the pace I do, it just lead to a lot of nights where we didn't do much. I'm very fast paced, she doesn't really have that second gear.
Girlfriend broke up with me. Made a last ditch effort to try and convince her, but it didn't work out.
Guess dating someone 4 yours your senior doesn't work out very well, especially if they're Asian :/
heartbroken
Religion isn't that important to me. It's important to my mother which is why she's converting. If my fiancee were dead set against not converting, I wouldn't mind and I'd stick with her anyways. It would definitely be an uphill battle with my family, and her doing this really reminds me how much she cares about me.Merging traditions sounds wonderful. One drawback of having parents who aren't super involved is that I have no idea what cultural traditions are available for me to throw into my wedding.
If your fiancee was against converting, how would you handle that? I've always thought that I would never convert for anyone, because I feel that it would be super disrespectful to their beliefs. And, I don't have the greatest relationship with the idea of God.
I'm 24, she's 28. She had come from Maryland to Chicago, breaking up with her boyfriend in hopes of advancing her career (from just doing secretary work to web design and programming). There was really no intention to stay in Chicago for long, nor was there to get into a relationship.
Sorry to hear BlueSteel. It just sounded like yall were at different stages in life.
My issue is communication. My girl is not confrontational whatsoever and would let everything bottle in only to eventually explode. We talked about it last night and how it's not healthy to avoid problems and not address them.
For instance, last week I had my good friends come in from out of town and we were having dinner. She text me in the middle of it saying she wanted to meet tonight because she just got back from out of town herself from a friend's wedding. I told her sorry babe, I'm already having dinner with my close friends and it's their last night here and if we can schedule for tomorrow. She coldly responded with a resounding "no". After dinner, I tried calling and texting saying we should talk but she refused to talk to me. The next day or two, she explained how she can't talk in the heat of the moment and she was taking issues she had with her family on me.
We're also opposites in a lot of ways. It's cute at first, but now it's clashing. I'm relatively laid back and kind I think. Others may tell you otherwise lol. She thinks she's the alpha female and can be mean. She was telling me stories of how she admitted to wrong doing, but never was apologetic about it. I won't go into details, but she put someone on full blast recently in the heat of the moment. Reflecting back, she accepted that she was in the wrong. I asked if she would apologize to that person. She won't. She feels remorse but is not sorry for any of her actions. I'm like, accepting what you did and being apologetic for it is two totally different things. I can recognize I accidentally punched an innocents person's face but if I'm not sorry for it, then I'm an asshole. I pointed out that she's being one by not apologizing for her actions.
Sorry, I made this a relationship-gaf topic now lol. I'm going to give the relationship a little longer and if this keeps up, time to break it off.
My condolences. =(Girlfriend broke up with me. Made a last ditch effort to try and convince her, but it didn't work out.
Guess dating someone 4 yours your senior doesn't work out very well, especially if they're Asian :/
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We didn't. I think the sponsor thing was the only tradition we had to deal with. In the Philippines reception, though, I guess it's customary for the MC to sing. That guy was awful.Same thing with me when I married my wife. Just the sponsor thing, not sure about them giving us better/bigger gifts. Did you also have to drink carbonated water and sugar mixed or something like that before going to the reception?
Wait, what. 2-3 days a week isn't enough for dating, especially as a young urban professional?
Mmm, you have the right idea, I suppose. My friends in high school were all Asian, and predominately Taiwanese-American. It wasn't something conscious; I didn't know what kind of Asians they were until after we were friends. My parents preferred it, I'm sure, but it was a fact of life.
So, I'm always been attracted to Asian men, because I grew up around them. I don't think it was my parents as much as my environment.
I've actually dated more nonTaiwanese men than Taiwanese men, but admittedly only of two colors. I never was the type of person to do something just because I knew my parents would hate it; I only do things I want to do. For that reason, it's not like I went out of my way to date other colors... I dated who was available and interested.
Now, I just like people that speak Chinese with a Taiwanese accent, so that's my own personal preference. I like people who share my viewpoints, not my family, my religion, not my family, and people that are into me. So, I suppose what I look for is a man who meets my criteria, and either meets or understands my family as well, since that's a criteria. I could never date someone, Taiwanese or not, who did not understand my perspective. My current partner does not share in my sentiments towards his own family, as least, not as well pronounced as I do, but he knows how I feel. That's what is important to me. He understands the obligation I have towards my family.
If I fell in love with someone my parents disapproved of, it would probably affect how I saw that person. It would also depend on what they did not approve about him. For the most part, I can't say that I've ever broken up with someone, but I can say that my parents have probably made observations about partners that were both correct and incorrect.
Don't think my parents would ever mistreat my partner, though. They are really nice people with horribly outdated views, but not mean or selfish. If it were my partner, they would show them kindness and not be mean, even if just for my sake.
Yea sure,
I'm 24, she's 28. She had come from Maryland to Chicago, breaking up with her boyfriend in hopes of advancing her career (from just doing secretary work to web design and programming). There was really no intention to stay in Chicago for long, nor was there to get into a relationship.
Somehow, that ended up not happening, and we developed feelings for each other and started dating.
There were several factors that led to this:
- Age gap. She thought we were in two different places and wanted more, and thought I couldn't provide that.
- She was still dead set on moving to Maryland. Her family and her dogs are still there, and she always wanted to go back and help provide for her parents, or at least, ease the burden.
- I work at a startup, and I put in some greater than average hours. We only saw each other 2-3 days a week, and that wasn't enough for her. I wasn't ready to dedicate more time at the pace she wanted. Coupled with the fact that she... doesn't really move/work/do things at the pace I do, it just lead to a lot of nights where we didn't do much. I'm very fast paced, she doesn't really have that second gear.
It wasn't something that was done out of spite. She still loves me, I don't doubt that. I can totally understand why she did it. Doesn't mean I have to be happy about it. I tried to tell her I'd move to Maryland/DC for her, but by then she made her mind. I'm trying my best to move on now.
I'm trying to be logical and tell myself the downsides outweighed the positives... but even having dealt this advice before to others, it's hard to think straight.
Religion isn't that important to me. It's important to my mother which is why she's converting. If my fiancee were dead set against not converting, I wouldn't mind and I'd stick with her anyways. It would definitely be an uphill battle with my family, and her doing this really reminds me how much she cares about me.
Sorry to hear BlueSteel. It just sounded like yall were at different stages in life.
My issue is communication. My girl is not confrontational whatsoever and would let everything bottle in only to eventually explode. We talked about it last night and how it's not healthy to avoid problems and not address them.
For instance, last week I had my good friends come in from out of town and we were having dinner. She text me in the middle of it saying she wanted to meet tonight because she just got back from out of town herself from a friend's wedding. I told her sorry babe, I'm already having dinner with my close friends and it's their last night here and if we can schedule for tomorrow. She coldly responded with a resounding "no". After dinner, I tried calling and texting saying we should talk but she refused to talk to me. The next day or two, she explained how she can't talk in the heat of the moment and she was taking issues she had with her family on me.
We're also opposites in a lot of ways. It's cute at first, but now it's clashing. I'm relatively laid back and kind I think. Others may tell you otherwise lol. She thinks she's the alpha female and can be mean. She was telling me stories of how she admitted to wrong doing, but never was apologetic about it. I won't go into details, but she put someone on full blast recently in the heat of the moment. Reflecting back, she accepted that she was in the wrong. I asked if she would apologize to that person. She won't. She feels remorse but is not sorry for any of her actions. I'm like, accepting what you did and being apologetic for it is two totally different things. I can recognize I accidentally punched an innocents person's face but if I'm not sorry for it, then I'm an asshole. I pointed out that she's being one by not apologizing for her actions.
Sorry, I made this a relationship-gaf topic now lol. I'm going to give the relationship a little longer and if this keeps up, time to break it off.
Girlfriend broke up with me. Made a last ditch effort to try and convince her, but it didn't work out.
Guess dating someone 4 yours your senior doesn't work out very well, especially if they're Asian :/
heartbroken
Sorry to hear BlueSteel. It just sounded like yall were at different stages in life.
My issue is communication. My girl is not confrontational whatsoever and would let everything bottle in only to eventually explode. We talked about it last night and how it's not healthy to avoid problems and not address them.
For instance, last week I had my good friends come in from out of town and we were having dinner. She text me in the middle of it saying she wanted to meet tonight because she just got back from out of town herself from a friend's wedding. I told her sorry babe, I'm already having dinner with my close friends and it's their last night here and if we can schedule for tomorrow. She coldly responded with a resounding "no". After dinner, I tried calling and texting saying we should talk but she refused to talk to me. The next day or two, she explained how she can't talk in the heat of the moment and she was taking issues she had with her family on me.
We're also opposites in a lot of ways. It's cute at first, but now it's clashing. I'm relatively laid back and kind I think. Others may tell you otherwise lol. She thinks she's the alpha female and can be mean. She was telling me stories of how she admitted to wrong doing, but never was apologetic about it. I won't go into details, but she put someone on full blast recently in the heat of the moment. Reflecting back, she accepted that she was in the wrong. I asked if she would apologize to that person. She won't. She feels remorse but is not sorry for any of her actions. I'm like, accepting what you did and being apologetic for it is two totally different things. I can recognize I accidentally punched an innocents person's face but if I'm not sorry for it, then I'm an asshole. I pointed out that she's being one by not apologizing for her actions.
Sorry, I made this a relationship-gaf topic now lol. I'm going to give the relationship a little longer and if this keeps up, time to break it off.
Sorry to hear, man. Tough times ahead of us. I'm still trying my hardest to move on my from my Ex, it'll be a while before it happens..
We were together for 3 years, 6 months. We broke up in the beginning of November. I know it's already been a long time, but I really don't want forget about her.