I really don't see what's wrong with someone who wants an attack order on stuff he is attacking so that he (and you) gets more points..
When I am squad leader I constantly mark everything that is about to be taken. Even if no one in your squad is at a flagged that's being captured, if you have it marked it will still be an extra 100 points for doing nothing for your entire squad.
Orders are pretty much 80% about the points and 20% about where you want your squad to go. If you are playing as a squad you are pretty much always very close to each other and you mark whatever objective you are close to. Then if you want to do some back-capping or whatever you can mark another flag and usually the squad tags along with you to that flag then.
YOu just outlined what's wrong with it. IT's all about pts. Spam orders just so you can get pts even if you aren't there.