Pretty much this, although this post reminded me of the gameplan me and Mrs Sniv came up while chatting about it. Best way to start the next date:
As soon as you see her, go in for the hug. At least one hand must be at the small of her back, but not her arse cos that ain't classy. Then, when you pull out of the hug, hold her at arms length away, look her up and down (classily, just take her in) and then give an appropriate compliment such as "Damn you look beautiful".
We figure this sequence sets you up as being appreciative as well as being in control. You initiate the hug, you keep hold of her, you lead the compliments. I think a lot of girls really like it if a guy steps up and takes control a bit - even the stronger women I know like this every now and then.
But as I say, we haven't really needed to hit on anyone for 13 years so we could be full of shit