Here's a problem with being an in game leader with randoms. Randoms a lot of the time don't like being bossed around. I wouldn't either if I didn't know the guy.
Yeah it is more of a "lets try this", "okay site is clear push and watch connector", if someone says I want to try B this time I'm fine with that. I just sort of take up the position since if I don't no one else will call anything and the lack of communication makes the game worse. Not bossing anyone around, plus as I said, 2 of the other people are my friends and so that is at least 3 of us on the same page.
Forgot to mention, started playing CS beta in late 1999, was maybe the first or second version released, was playing on that 56k modem. I've played every version since with breaks here and there for up to a year (GO) or two (Source). I remember resisting Steam because it sucked when they first released it until they basically forced it on CS players or tempted us with early access to Source or something.