-
Hey, guest user. Hope you're enjoying NeoGAF! Have you considered registering for an account? Come join us and add your take to the daily discourse.
Dating a Friend
- Thread starter whytemyke
- Start date
- Status
Groder Mullet
Member
I say it will either end well or end horribly. The safe money is on the latter. I have also said no to being friends with women I am attracted to. Its either hitting it or nothing. Not to say that I am not friendly with hot women, just not friends in the true sense of the word.
AlphaSnake
...and that, kids, was the first time I sucked a dick for crack
It'll end horribly. I'm 3 for 3 with it.
It's usually fraught with peril, but it really depends on the friend. If you have a long history together and you're each pretty stable, then it's possible you have enough emotional reserve to deal with the extra stress that a breakup would bring. More likely, though, the tradeoff would be the potential upside of dating someone that could be a long-term significant other...versus the very real possibility of losing a friend.
I've actually had luck with the "friend with benefits" thing over the years, but I think I was more lucky than good.
I've actually had luck with the "friend with benefits" thing over the years, but I think I was more lucky than good.
Luscious LeftFoot
Member
Depends on the scenario. Generally, I "RESPECT THE THIN LINE".
Maybe I'm just naive, but if you're looking for a long-term relationship, I don't see why you should stay away from a friend. I mean, if you're going to be spending all that time with someone, wouldn't you want them to be a really good friend first of all?
If you're just looking for a quick fix sexually, it's probably a bad idea, but otherwise...I'd go for it.
If you're just looking for a quick fix sexually, it's probably a bad idea, but otherwise...I'd go for it.
the only time its ended well for me was with a girl I knew for a very long time before it happened, and the relationship lasted for two weeks and we didnt do anything other than kiss a couple times.
the other times, bad stuff happened... and the thing is, when the breakup happens its a mad dash to collect as many friends as possible because they *will* choose sides... so, if the other person is the more dominant force in your circle of friends you could lose a huge chunk of them for good. In one of my cases I lost an entire circle of friends (they werent my super close circle or anything, more like a secondary one, but it sucked).
the other times, bad stuff happened... and the thing is, when the breakup happens its a mad dash to collect as many friends as possible because they *will* choose sides... so, if the other person is the more dominant force in your circle of friends you could lose a huge chunk of them for good. In one of my cases I lost an entire circle of friends (they werent my super close circle or anything, more like a secondary one, but it sucked).
D
Deleted member 1235
Unconfirmed Member
It's essentially a "make or break" situation. If you do get it on, then it could be the best thing ever. If it just doesn't work, then you have likely lost a friend.
I'm sure it depends on every single case. I've dated several close friends, and they ended for a variety of reasons, but beyond a short duration of awkwardness and/or bitterness, I've been able to maintain all of those friendships. Took a little work sometimes, but in the long run, I don't regret giving any of those relationships a chance. Besides, we understood the stereotypical risks of those dating-friends scenarios going in, so there was a common understanding.
Still though, I'm sure some of that depends on why such a relationship would end. If one person really hurts the other, yeah, maybe that wouldn't allow for any continued friendship.
Anywho, long story short, I don't think you should actively avoid getting involved with a friend. It might be something the two of you discuss somewhat beforehand though, although probably not too much as over-analyzing anything isn't going to be good, or you'd just end up protecting yourself too much. For me, I need to be pretty close to someone to consider it. I'm not particularly into the whole dating scene, and just meeting people and jumping into a romantic relationship. Doesn't really work for me.
Still though, I'm sure some of that depends on why such a relationship would end. If one person really hurts the other, yeah, maybe that wouldn't allow for any continued friendship.
Anywho, long story short, I don't think you should actively avoid getting involved with a friend. It might be something the two of you discuss somewhat beforehand though, although probably not too much as over-analyzing anything isn't going to be good, or you'd just end up protecting yourself too much. For me, I need to be pretty close to someone to consider it. I'm not particularly into the whole dating scene, and just meeting people and jumping into a romantic relationship. Doesn't really work for me.
Tommie Hu$tle
Member
You can always make new freinds.
- Status
Similar threads
- Locked