Sounds like she put the ball in her court. Let her contact you next. In the meantime ask other women out.
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Sounds like she put the ball in her court. Let her contact you next. In the meantime ask other women out.
yeah I'm not calling or texting until the 19th for sure, as for asking other women out, I'll try ^^
Ray Wonder
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I'm prepared to be judged, but I think I just need advice on if I should do this or not.
I think I just committed myself to doing something I don't know if I want to do. I couldn't remember which flowers were this girl's favorite. I asked, she wouldn't tell me, then her friend text me which ones they were and told me I was welcome.. So apparently she told her friend that I was asking, and now I feel like I just committed to buying flowers for her. I haven't responded to the first girls text saying "I know you know what my favorite flowers are, why are you playing mind games?"
Then I just got a snap from her other friend, and I'm not sure if it's her in disguise trying to see if I'm purposely not responding so I haven't opened it.
We're lame, child minded adults, I know, but you think I should buy them now? Also to put in a bit of context, I've text her friends maybe twice ever, and I've known them a while. So them both hitting me up makes this seem like a bigger deal. lmao
I think I just committed myself to doing something I don't know if I want to do. I couldn't remember which flowers were this girl's favorite. I asked, she wouldn't tell me, then her friend text me which ones they were and told me I was welcome.. So apparently she told her friend that I was asking, and now I feel like I just committed to buying flowers for her. I haven't responded to the first girls text saying "I know you know what my favorite flowers are, why are you playing mind games?"
Then I just got a snap from her other friend, and I'm not sure if it's her in disguise trying to see if I'm purposely not responding so I haven't opened it.
We're lame, child minded adults, I know, but you think I should buy them now? Also to put in a bit of context, I've text her friends maybe twice ever, and I've known them a while. So them both hitting me up makes this seem like a bigger deal. lmao
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Da fuck? How old are you again?
And is this the chick that refused to be anything more than fwb?
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
I haven't asked her to be anything more, she implied that she didn't want to be in a relationship, so I'm going to stick with that for now. I like what this is, for now at least.
I bought her flowers. It was dope. I feel good about it.
She witnessed a close family member OD less than a week ago, so I really wanted to cheer her up anyways. This was perfect for that.
Lmao I'm 26 ❤️
Banjo-Kazooie
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It's a good sign she called but ya definitely the ball is in her court now. Good job on the follow up, you've done you're part. She's either interested and will make plans after the 19th or she's not and won't...either way you will know your answer by then. Like others said though don't get hung up on her and wait around!
So you are sleeping with someone and providing emotional support. That sounds like it's getting dangerously close to relationship territory.
FWB in general just seem way too complicated. I couldn't do it.
Hah, this question gets asked a lot, eeeh?
A friend of a friend's GF saw me once and told my friend's GF that she thinks I'm hot. I tell my friend to tell his GF to tell the girl to add me on FB and to start talking to me. She adds me but doesn't talk. I start and we're talking still. Snapchatting, complimenting, etc...
Now, I just found out she's 20. I'm 28... Even though I know I shouldn't care about that age difference, I still kinda do... I want to meet up ('cause she looks bangin') but the age difference is kinda holding me back. I asked her out once, but she declined 'cause she was going out to dinner with her mom that night. I told her that I really wanted to meet her IRL another time. She answered with "good". Guess the ball's back I my park then?
Move to a better country
Here they can drink at 18... or lower but I'm not going there.Royal_Phalanx
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It's cool, I am 28 so 21 is still pretty young to me.
I just matched with a cute girl on tinder, but her profile is so weird. I sometimes can't tell if people are trying to be weird just to be silly and 'funny', or if they are actually super weird. To quote this girl, "My sex drive is nonexistent lately, and I own a really huge black dildo that I don't use vaginally, but I do use it". I feel like she is just trying to bait questions.
I just matched with a cute girl on tinder, but her profile is so weird. I sometimes can't tell if people are trying to be weird just to be silly and 'funny', or if they are actually super weird. To quote this girl, "My sex drive is nonexistent lately, and I own a really huge black dildo that I don't use vaginally, but I do use it". I feel like she is just trying to bait questions.
Count Dookkake
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That rule is for the weak and the cowardly.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
One downside to tinder is that everyone can use it, including people of low intelligence.
Matched with a girl on tinder. She was pretty forward about wanting to come over, hang out, and 'possibly' hook up. She came over that same night. We hung out from 2am to 12 noon. First few hours were video games, movies, and talking about shit. Later we made out and fucked. After, we laid in bed together for a bit playing a game on her phone, then she left. Haven't heard a word from her since then (been about a day or two). That was so weird, I've never randomly hooked up like that before, but I'm not opposed to sleeping with her again.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Jesus don't lie about your age.
You don't have to announce that your age but don't be a creep. Why do you need to ask this?
Don't lie about your age. Being "old" is a selling point. So many girls tell me they like a "mature" man. Little do they know just cuz I'm old it doesn't mean I'm mature 😏
Etrian Oddity
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How the fuck do you guys find matches like this? The times I do get a match, they always flake after what seemed like pretty good banter.
That's like a 1% match. I think 80% of the matches the rest of us get are flakes or no-response girls.
I am starting to think that most girls do not dig long hair. Sucks, because I really dig having long hair. Not cutting this at all.
ZackieChan
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Cut it bro. Join us
Royal_Phalanx
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Short sides, long top brah
Nah son, once in a while I will get an unsolicited message about my hair on OKC. Not so much on Tinder/CMB. It's much longer than it is in my avatar. It all depends on how you're rocking the long hair.
Let's just say I've used tinder for over a year and this is the first girl that wanted to come by to just hang out and have sex NSA. It's rare.
ZackieChan
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Donate it and join the revolution
If a woman can't appreciate such long, smooth flowing hair, then they're unworthy to begin with.
Women be Envious.
I think about that sometimes.
Banjo-Kazooie
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I been rocking the bald look for a while now and have never been more confident or gone out with more girls...id say I'm happy with my lack of hair
Butt play yo
Benzychenz
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Fuck.
GAF was right.
I'll never doubt you again.
After not hearing from her since Monday, she's texted me 3 hours before the date to say she feels weird dating someone from work and she's sorry for not saying anything sooner and just stringing me along.
GAF was right.
I'll never doubt you again.
After not hearing from her since Monday, she's texted me 3 hours before the date to say she feels weird dating someone from work and she's sorry for not saying anything sooner and just stringing me along.
Maybe I'll quit.
ZackieChan
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Don't quit. Be like the shark and never stop swimming.
Benzychenz
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So where do I meet girls?
Like you guys were saying don't wait for her and move onto the next. But who???
Tinder is flake central, my social life is dead, I've obviously tried with girls at work...
Go to a bar by myself and hit on someone? I suck at that stuff. I need to be introduced :/
Like you guys were saying don't wait for her and move onto the next. But who???
Tinder is flake central, my social life is dead, I've obviously tried with girls at work...
Go to a bar by myself and hit on someone? I suck at that stuff. I need to be introduced :/
Lucian Cat
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War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Cut it off. You will look very handsome with short hair.
Hahaha
You dodged a bullet. Never date a coworker, especially one who isn't particularly interested in you.
Banjo-Kazooie
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I've learned the hard way to trust people who have been there before as well
I'm better for it though don't sweat it! Hop back on the horse
What's up dating age gaf! Long time lurker looking for some advice .
I'm a 28 year old male living in NYC. I was at a fashion show last night and I met this beautiful Brazilian photographer. She took a photo of my lady friend (just a friend) and myself, and gave me her business card. Being the timid man that I am I never got a chance to talk to her and she left before I had the courage to do so.
Now what would be the best way to ask this women out? The card only has her name, email and number. With this information one can easily contact her on social media.
Call her? Many people don't talk on the phone anymore but in this case I think this may be my best bet?
Text her? No face to match the number, even though she took a photo of me. A text is easy to just ignore
Contact her on social media? She can remember me based on my photos.
I'm a 28 year old male living in NYC. I was at a fashion show last night and I met this beautiful Brazilian photographer. She took a photo of my lady friend (just a friend) and myself, and gave me her business card. Being the timid man that I am I never got a chance to talk to her and she left before I had the courage to do so.
Now what would be the best way to ask this women out? The card only has her name, email and number. With this information one can easily contact her on social media.
Call her? Many people don't talk on the phone anymore but in this case I think this may be my best bet?
Text her? No face to match the number, even though she took a photo of me. A text is easy to just ignore
Contact her on social media? She can remember me based on my photos.
Well, she was working. My only window was afterwards when she was at the bar having a drink but she was talking to the other photographers
The booking a shooting idea did cross my mind.
Easy way to just talk to her. But will she be receptive to my flirting because she likes me or will she be nice because I'm paying her!? Lol
Fortune favors the bold.
Though you may look better with shorter hair, that hair is just godly.
If you cut it make sure to put it in a ziplock.
Messofanego
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Don't pay for a dumb shoot just for a reason to hang out with her, that's creeper territory. Just be up front on the phone, "hey it's that dude from the fashion show, remember you took a photo of my lady friend and me and handed me this business card. I was wondering, want to go out for a coffee/drink/meal?". Even if you get rejected, you can easily move on with your life rather than stringing opportunities along.
ZackieChan
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Yep. Low investment.
The shoot was a joke. No way I'd do that.
Funny how I play it up like it's complicated in my mind when I know it's that simple.
n64coder
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Personally, I wouldn't bother if you didn't make any sort of connection or have a chat.
Lone_Prodigy
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I think calling up someone who was handing out business cards while working is like messaging a cute waitress on Facebook. Unsolicited and kind of creepy.
EDIT: You're in NYC. There are plenty of opportunities to ask out people you actually talk to.
EDIT: You're in NYC. There are plenty of opportunities to ask out people you actually talk to.
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