Dear Girls Who Are (Finally) Ready To Date Fedoras: We Don't Want You Anymore, M'Lady

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Didn't bother reading all of it, but this is basically just reverse psychology, right?

If so then that's pretty pathetic.
 
We can't fix ourselves until we rid this world of people who don't love another person because of body.

There are plenty of portly men around with pretty good looking women. Tons of women are actually attracted to that.

You either own up to it and do with what you have or sit and whine that the world is against you.

EDIT: Damn that was fast
 
I er... you guys lost me. I never said anything about kudos, just reciprocation of common decency. I think, bad memory. Is that really too much to ask for? Particularly in situations when you have no choice but to socialize with others- school, work.

If people are rude or deceitful towards you then avoid them or call them out. Simple as that.
 
Define normal.

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that pic reminds me that i need to get a good cape for f/w 2014
There's a massive range of what could count as a normal, non-affected, authentic human behavior. I have nothing particular in mind.

But, you know, just not this shit when one thinks of interpersonal romance as an adversarial game involving ploys, and tactics, and tricks, and so on.
i gotta say i agree with this. when 'courting' my wife, i just asked her to do shit with me, no 3 day phone call waits or weird strategies. maybe it's different in college vs the grown up world, i don't know. i'll just say the whole process was pretty casual from the start. but then we're pretty casual chill people.
 
If people are rude or deceitful towards you then avoid them or call them out. Simple as that.

Sure, but there will be repercussions. Particularly in the workplace, where things like favoritism and nepotism can take precedence. It's not always an easy choice.
 
that pic reminds me that i need to get a good cape for f/w 2014

i gotta say i agree with this. when 'courting' my wife, i just asked her to do shit with me, no 3 day phone call waits or weird strategies. maybe it's different in college vs the grown up world, i don't know. i'll just say the whole process was pretty casual from the start. but then we're pretty casual chill people.

I'm guessing this is a genuine post. This is sage advice imo. "Oh we genuinely enjoy each other's company?"..."and we can bump uglies!?"
 
OH there are a BUNCH of these, and most of them are real.

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Which is why you don't shit where you eat, so to speak.

Omg that pimple in the second one. I need to pop it.
 
I'm guessing this is a genuine post. This is sage advice imo. "Oh we genuinely enjoy each other's company?"..."and we can bump uglies!?"
i occasionally let sincerity leak out of my fingers ;)

this isn't to say i was a gift to womankind or some shit; i struck out pretty often and did a lot of awkward shit*.. oddly, the longest relationship prior was only a few weeks. we just kept going, I guess.

*walking a girl back to her apt from a bar when it was pretty obvious from the outside she wanted me to go away lol. you learn.
 
I really wish the guy had a friend to bounce the idea of taking her to a five star restaurant (WHY?!) or at least realize his folly for trying to get with that girl. Maybe he needs a good friend instead of a good girl to knock some social sense into him.

Then again the way he wrote that message feels like the guy you want to walk away from conversations at work.
 
As a matter of fact scooter, i'm sober as hell. But yes, keep making jokes, you see whats happening around the world. You're scared. Its okay, just accept whast going to happen

Our bodies are ready.



Quick someone remind me what was that guy who kept stalking and harassing this girl, buying her stuff, asking if he should do X and hundreds of people would tell him no but he did it anyway? He used a weird emoji.
 
That makes perfect sense.


This. "Nice guy" nonsense are things you do as a normal person, not as a special fedora-wearing flower.



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Yep. You want to be treated as special, then do something special. Being nice is not something to brag about.


I don't expect people to drop to their knees and offer me fellatio. But I seem to be surrounded by assholes. Co-workers who've attempted to assault me for not doing their work for them, college mates who were so in love with themselves that presenting a logical, opposing opinion would cause them to lose their shite. They were so used to yes men. Bosses who I busted my butt for, only to have them treat me like crap for the very people who bullied me. I'm unemployed partly because of others, so I'm very very salty.

You said above that you wanted to be appreciated for not being an ass. Well, you're not going to be appreciated solely for that trait, especially just because you think everyone around you is an ass and this somehow makes you special. If you want to be recognized or taken seriously, then do something worthy of that recognition and stop worrying about them and improve yourself.


Exactly. No one ever chooses to spend time with a person simply because that person is courteous. You seek value in others so you should offer value yourself, and that value cannot be being polite.

Yup. What you seek in others be able to offer in yourself. You want a pretty girl or guy? Work on your fitness, take care in your upkeep, present yourself as best you can. You want to be with someone smart and fun? Enrich your mind by learning something new (cooking highly recommended for men!) and get out there and do stuff that challenges you. You can't just sit back on the bottom and cry that nothing good or worthy comes your way.
 
As H. Pro said, being nice isn't enough. Everyone should be nice. It's sorta expected. Being nice doesn't get you a cookie.

I've been called nice a ton, and people act like its noteworthy, but I think it's just because I'm nice IRL and online. Whatevs. I don't want a cookie.

If you make yourself into a paper Nice Guy in order to get people to like you, it's not going to work. Because...who are you? If your only noteworthy trait is that you are nice, then you have zero personality for anyone to remember you by or connect with you.

Be yourself, be nice because that's literally the least you can do, and don't let people walk all over you.
 
When I was in high school I used to complain that I was a "nice guy" and no one wanted that.

Then when I went on a school trip to Disney I bought a Indiana Jones hat as a souvenir because I love Indiana Jones.


Every day I thank myself for pulling away from the dark, dark path I was on.
 
When I was in high school I used to complain that I was a "nice guy" and no one wanted that.

Then when I went on a school trip to Disney I bought a Indiana Jones hat as a souvenir because I love Indiana Jones.


Every day I thank myself for pulling away from the dark, dark path I was on.
If you had gotten a whip, you would have been fine.
 
You said above that you wanted to be appreciated for not being an ass. Well, you're not going to be appreciated solely for that trait, especially just because you think everyone around you is an ass and this somehow makes you special. If you want to be recognized or taken seriously, then do something worthy of that recognition and stop worrying about them and improve yourself.

Wow. What are you talking about? You're creating your own exaggerated context. I said I'm nice to people, and I kinda sorta maybe hope they'd answer in kind. And yes, I feel that being courteous is often taken for granted. I listed examples why others were unfair to me. (Being bullied at work and having your livelihood threatened is not a joking matter) And... this makes me an entitled prick who has evidenced he has done nothing of value but somehow expects recognition. You just wrongly fedora'd me, bro.

I'm out. I'm getting worked up over nothing. Peace y'all.
 
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