I don't agree with you I'm afraid. Tone policing is still the ultimate derailing tactic.
Toxic is another fluff word that this board has adopted to criticize anyone who speaks in a harsh, angry tone regardless of the merits of the message. "Oooh, you can't talk that way, that's 'toxic.'"
This is what always bums me out about these kinds of discussions. The tone and rhetoric is absolutely having an effect on how others relate to people and it's creating a sharper divide between people(it's hard not to see how this is reflected on a national and global scale). The fact that we've come to a point where people who want to discuss tone are automatically dismissed as trolls or on the other side of some battle line really sucks. At least for myself, when I use the word "toxic" it's not because I want to feel better, it's because I want the discussion to be more constructive, less combative. More discussion than sabre-rattling/fist-waiving. In the context of arguing the validity of a point, tone absolutely has no place in the discussion. In the context of changing hearts and minds tone is nearly as important. I want to talk about these things and I want to be related to like a normal person, not some internet entity that just waved the red flag of tone troll. If this is somehow derailing the true topic then I apologize and I'll gladly snip this. Tone-policing is always irrelevant to most discussions on this board, but I think it's a relevant discussion worth having(maybe in its own thread?).
Either way it looks to be like a really fun movie.
I strongly disagree that no one has gotten anything to change by being nice. The way social change happens, as I see it, is that as people get to know and empathize with people different from them, they start to understand and accept them. Gay people used to be a deviant 'other', but as we got to know people who were gay through television, over the internet, and as they came out in real-life, they weren't scary 'others' any more. It took court decisions to make gay marriage legal in certain states, but these decisions wouldn't happen without popular support that came from empathy.No one has gotten anything to change be simply being "nice". All maters of social change took effort; people had to be disruptive to get people to listen to you or else why would they? Anger is anything but counter productive. So instead of wasting your energy policing tone why not channel that same passion into something constructive like the concerns of those who you are talking over.
Please read the rest of my post.
The way social change happens, as I see it, is that as people get to know and empathize with people different from them, they start to understand and accept them.
So instead of wasting your energy policing tone why not channel that same passion into something constructive like the concerns of those who you are talking over.
I strongly disagree that no one has gotten anything to change by being nice. The way social change happens, as I see it, is that as people get to know and empathize with people different from them, they start to understand and accept them. Gay people used to be a deviant 'other', but as we got to know people who were gay through television, over the internet, and as they came out in real-life, they weren't scary 'others' any more. It took court decisions to make gay marriage legal in certain states, but these decisions wouldn't happen without popular support that came from empathy.
Anger and passion can be useful. They way you treat your opposition says a lot about you, though.
Holy spoiler alerts. Can we get a warning next time.
If you want to discuss the merits of tone policing in that case we can do so in a thread made for it. We don't have to tone police and then engage in meta discussions on tone policing in every topic concerned oppression and discrimination, telling the marginalized group how they should feel because the way they articulate their points make you feel uncomfortable. That is the derailment.I did and I disagree. Unless you wanted me to address your assertion that anger is anything but counterproductive, which I wholeheartedly disagree with, but that wasn't the point I was trying to address and that's why I didn't address it in the post.
If you want to discuss the merits of tone policing in that case we can do so in a thread made for it. We don't have to tone police and then engage in meta discussions on tone policing in every topic concerned oppression and discrimination, telling the marginalized group how they should feel because the way they articulate their points make you feel uncomfortable. That is the derailment.
you're allowed to think a point is valid while still thinking the method used to make it is cheesy or sophomoric or heavy-handed.
being critical and tone policing are not the same thing. no art is immune to criticism.
I don't think being nice means accepting the status quo. I think being nice is how you challenge the status quo (or interact with people you strongly disagree with in general).Being "nice" means accepting status quo and complying. Being "nice" means that we probably wouldn't have a gay pride movement to speak of.
Anyone who uses "tumblry" "tumblrism" or any other version of that word as a criticism sounds pretty damn stupid.
This thread pretty much proves the need for a movie like this. But let's face it, people (white in this case) are going to be immediately defensive or dismissive when the feel like they're being criticized or put on the spot, no matter how relevant or necessary the issue is.
Something felt off about the trailer, and I think you nailed it. A lot of the racially charged dialogue felt like it was ran through an online post that kind of paints a generalization of many moments like it. It didn't have any subtlety that I would imagine an actual real life conversation like that would have. Makes it sound preachy without really getting across the point. I hope the trailer isn't indicative of the movie as a whole because it has a message that I hope doesn't get lost in people thinking it is pretentious or preachy.
wait are we taking about policing the tone of the thread or policing the tone of the movie trailer?
Last I'll say on this; being nice is not what you mean then as you don't change the status quo by being nice. You do it by being disruptive. Recruiting people to your cause or to see your side requires passion.I don't think being nice means accepting the status quo. I think being nice is how you challenge the status quo (or interact with people you strongly disagree with in general).
I take we are speaking in general on tone policing since it was brought up in this thread about this particular movie trailer. the lame "lol tumblr" criticisms was a catalyst for this side discussion. Also saying the movie is heavy handed is potentially a valid criticism of that film mainly it's script. You can say that about films that cover benign subject matters .wait are we taking about policing the tone of the thread or policing the tone of the movie trailer?
Is it a doc or a fictional story?
It's inspired by true events.Is it a doc or a fictional story?
You can be pleasant and stand up for yourself and what you believe in at the same time.Last I'll say on this; being nice is not what you mean then as you don't change the status quo by being nice.
You can be pleasant and stand up for yourself and what you believe in at the same time.
This thread pretty much proves the need for a movie like this. But let's face it, people (white in this case) are going to be immediately defensive or dismissive when the feel like they're being criticized or put on the spot, no matter how relevant or necessary the issue is.
We're just going to disagree on this point. It's something I can't stand and it immediately turns me off even when I agree with the person. I understand where Jezebel is coming from and try to be more understanding with people who are clearly emotional, but if I could run everyone's posts through a Mumei filter I'd be much happier.
I honestly don't think they meant to have her be "wrong" with the "weave" correction. I predict the movie is going to parody both sides -- the clueless white people and the overreacting Tumblr rage-aholics. But the movie knows, as we do, that the offended parties are correct - just non-constructive in their apoplectic anger over trivialities like how to refer to a weave.It seems to me that the movie is parodying a lot of things, including those Tumblrs posts, and not endorsing their way of thinking. That part where she goes out of her way to be pedantic with the "weave" line (and still be wrong) kinda gives it away. I don't think there is an angry message in there.
edit: TUMBLR TUMBLR TUMBLR
It's the new Benghazi.
Yeah, I think so, even if it is only a semantics argument. Few people would deny that minorities can be racially prejudiced. Few (well, maybe not few) people would deny that institutionalized racism exists. The big argument is over which of these is actually considered racism.Is the idea that racial minorities can't be racist really that controversial?
It's not controversial in my opinion, just wrong. She's making up a unique meaning for the word and then saying under that definition, black people cant be racist. But that happens a lot with different words. Feminist for example means a lot of different things to different people.
The sociological definition of "racism" isn't something unique that she made up.
Edit: I'm not sure we really need to go down this path, actually. Might drag things even more off course?
Yeah, I think so, even if it is only a semantics argument. Few people would deny that minorities can be racially prejudiced. Few (well, maybe not few) people would deny that institutionalized racism exists. The big argument is over which of these is actually considered racism.
Is the idea that racial minorities can't be racist really that controversial?
edit: TUMBLR TUMBLR TUMBLR
I honestly don't think they meant to have her be "wrong" with the "weave" correction. I predict the movie is going to parody both sides -- the clueless white people and the overreacting Tumblr rage-aholics. But the movie knows, as we do, that the offended parties are correct - just non-constructive in their apoplectic anger over trivialities like how to refer to a weave.
I do hope someone tells her that nouns don't have tenses though because that's annoying the hell out of me. :/
Other predictions: The guy running for class president and the Everybody Hates Chris guy who don't want to acknowledge race at all are going to have to acknowledge race. And the white guy who gets under the radio host girl's skin while talking to her in her bedroom is tooootally going to hook up with her and she'll finally lurve white people after all <3. And many, many white people will have their microaggressions and appropriations called out.
1. a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior...
2. a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
It's hard to address this post. I probably did give the general public way too much credit on their knowledge of racism (institutional or otherwise). If something doesn't effect you directly it's easy to be ignorant of it. In this state of ignorance, it is easy to see something like whiteface being just as bad as blackface. It's also easy to see how someone changing the definition of a word to something that 'advantages' them feels unfair or wrong.Maybe. They seem to go hand in hand, though. In my anecdotal experience, people who reject the academic definition would also say that perceived discriminatory action by minorities is equivalent to systematic oppression and that "racism is racism,"they favor "equality," etc. Like I've seen folks claim that a black guy wearing whiteface is "just as bad" as blackface and minstrelsy.
Can we make "IT'S LIKE A TUMBLR POST LAWL" bannable? It's lazy and dismissive as fuck and it's pretty much just thread shitting.
Of course it's controversial to say minorities "can't be racist." It's going to be argued about in the movie -- the guy calling her a racist in the trailer is black.
Seriously, how mad and defensive are you gonna be, bro? How much nuance are you able to read into the scene where apparently someone speaking in pointed absolutisms is "fumbling?" How many ways are you going to twist what critics have to say in order to try and prove that it's not fair to say it? Are "grammar nazis" really the people who know that nouns aren't verbs? Really?A team of people put this together, as a satire, and I'm sure they're as knowledgeable and fully aware as you are that weave as a noun does not have any tense and that their characters are going to say stupid things. People say incorrect shit IRL all the time, especially when they're a bit foaming at the mouth. More than a few complaints here are about the movie's so-called unnatural language, and yet here we have someone fumbling her thoughts like a real person and you're getting hung up on it like a grammar nazi (or a tumblr person).
Are these complaints? It's a movie on race relations. The number of plot options are finite unless they venture off into unforeseen, off-topic territory (e.g. campus mass shooting). You haven't even seen the thing yet; does the potential of what may come already annoy you?
Seriously, how mad and defensive are you gonna be, bro? How much nuance are you able to read into the scene where apparently someone speaking in pointed absolutisms is "fumbling?" How many ways are you going to twist what critics have to say in order to try and prove that it's not fair to say it? Are "grammar nazis" really the people who know that nouns aren't verbs? Really?
I'm mad and defensive? I'm saying that a full production staff would have caught this if it wasn't on purpose. In a movie full of people (white, black) saying stupid things to each other in obvious satire, this is the one that sticks out to you as an inexcusable accident? I recall a thread some time ago where someone mentioned how people in television/film speak perfectly all the time -- none of the uhhs, umms and misspoken words, phrases and lingustic mistakes you commonly see IRL. I think that's what the "weave" line is here. This is not an unreasonable observation.
Yes. I have read most of your posts in the thread and you have seemed overly defensive against people that have a different opinion of the trailer.
Thank you for your useless observation. How does that invalidate anything regarding the possibility that a team of professionals in the movie industry deliberately inserted that line into the film as a piece of ironic wit?