The reason I'm giving mixed messages is because maybe I do want something more than platonic, she's cute. I'm not just not sure if she's trustworthy. Also, I'm not sure if it was even a date!
I don't get how it's ridiculous. I like people to be straight forward and not play games. Now I feel like I've been drawn into the game because I don't want to be the one who says "let's date" first, when she could have just done that!
From my position, if I break down and ask her out directly, then I've given in. I need her to be straight forward, then I'll be happy.
Honestly, I've found most of the responses pretty amusing. It seemed super important and difficult in the moment but this thread has let me laugh at myself, which I really appreciate. The only ones I find weird are when people assume I just talk about video games. What gives people that impression?! Just because it's gaf? Everyone here on on gaf...
Okay, I think you need to step back a bit. You're getting into your own head too much with this whole "is she trying to trick me" + "me vs her" thing. Drop all of that for a second.
This is a girl that you're attracted to. She's showing an interest in you, and spending time with you. If you can talk for an hour then you two are at least comfortable around each other.
Do you want to hang out with her? If so, then go hang out with her. Full stop. Stop thinking so hard about whether you're being conned and just go hang out with her. That's all you need to do. You can stop reading right here if you want.
...But if you REALLY want to sort out the tricking thing in your head before you do anything, then let's analyze the shit out of this.
What I think just about everyone in this thread is trying to tell you is that you're second-guessing yourself and overthinking WAY too much about this. Yes, this girl may have said a few things that are not entirely true, but think about WHY she's doing that. You're wary about her being untrustworthy and such because you're afraid she has ulterior motives. Well, in a way that's true - she does have ulterior motives. Her ulterior motive in the way she's acting is to spend more time with you. She's doing and saying these things as excuses to hang out with you more. That's probably all there is to it. She's not trying to trick you into doing something you don't want, and she's not trying to con you into something. She just wants to make more reasons to be around you.
Now, why not just say these things directly to you instead of being so indirect, like you said? She's probably too shy to, or doesn't want to look like she's too forward. It's probably the same reason why you've made this GAF thread instead of asking her to her whether she likes you. It's the approach you're more comfortable with. For the time being, she's probably just more comfortable making up excuses to hang out with you instead of straight up asking you out. That's the approach she was most comfortable with. Some people don't like being that direct, or maybe she's afraid you'll think it's too forward of her. She can't read your mind and go "oh, he wants me to ask him out directly and that's the only thing he'll be happy with."
Speaking of which, being so specific in what you want her to do will torpedo your chances with her. She can't read your mind, and she's her own person. She can't and won't always act exactly the way you want her to. But as long as you're okay with what she's doing and not horribly opposed to it, then don't sweat the small stuff.
She's acting like she's interested in you. It may seem strange to you because she's attractive and you feel like you're out of her league, but all signs show that she's interested in you. Don't be so disbelieving about it because you will shoot yourself in the foot with it and waste the opportunity if you second-guess yourself too hard with all this. Accept it for what it is - as unlikely as you may think it is, this cute girl that you think you have no chance with actually seems interested in you - and go for it.
