Did I just get dated?

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Greddleok said:
Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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How obvious does she need to make it? She's flattering you, asking for your help, giving you her number, arranging to meet again, and still you're wondering if maybe she's into you. Real life isn't porn, she's not going to lick her lips, put her pinkie up to her mouth and gaze suggestively at your cock to express her interest.
 
So yeah today we were all heading out to lunch and everyone got held up in some meeting and it ended up just being me and this guy. He's normally pretty normal but this was fucking weird. I picked up my bag and pulled out my sandwich and this guy - his expression turned to absolute terror, beads of sweat dribbling down his face. After I'd finished my sandwich his face hadn't changed, just sweatier. I dunno I think he has some kinda sandwich trauma. We left and he looked like he was going to hug me but just waved and sprinted off into the distance. I've spent all evening googling sandwich phobias. Haven't found one yet but there is a tupperwareaphobia - maybe it's that. Gonna take some pasta in a bag tomorrow to be safe.
 
Looooove these threads where a gaffer goes out there and tries to interact with people or do stuff. 🍿
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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You got outplayed. More underhanded tactics. She knows it was awkward but was waiting for you to admit it. You're in the doghouse now dude.

Next time you train together you're gonna be surrounded by half a dozen ripped dudes chatting her up. You fucked up, man.
 
Greddleok said:
She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.
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To be honest, if this situation happened to me when I was younger, I'd likely be just as confused as OP about this girl's intentions, but minus the feelings of being offended/violated/tricked.

Some of us really are this awkward and clueless around girls.
 
Akuun said:
To be honest, if this situation happened to me when I was younger, I'd likely be just as confused as OP about this girl's intentions, but minus the feelings of being offended/violated/tricked.

Some of us really are this awkward and clueless around girls.
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Must suck to be awkward around 50-51% of the Earth's population. At the end of the day, it's something that should be improved or helped with. I am a huge proponent of addressing mental illness of any kind, big or small.
 
Akuun said:
To be honest, if this situation happened to me when I was younger, I'd likely be just as confused as OP about this girl's intentions, but minus the feelings of being offended/violated/tricked.

Some of us really are this awkward and clueless around girls.
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This is easy to overcome. Just remember:

Girls/woman/(feeeeeemales) are people too. Just like you! Unless you aren't a person, then yikes.
 
Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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Make it clear next time if she asks that you're not looking to date right now. Just ask next time you're dated without consent whether this is a date and you feel uncomfortable to avoid free kisses and physical intimacy.

That hug thread is definitely on some social anxiety scale.
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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It's okay, dude. Some people won't just jump out and admit it, so they tread water. You bailing awkwardly from the previous encounter may have come off as not being interested.

Reciprocate. When you meet up to help her train, use that time to ask her if she would be interested in a drink/coffee or lunch. If all goes well, go for the hug then when saying bye, and suggest getting together again.
 
Sober said:
This is easy to overcome. Just remember:

Girls/woman/(feeeeeemales) are people too. Just like you! Unless you aren't a person, then yikes.
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Oh yeah, of course. I'm married now, and obviously got a lot less awkward while dating her. I just mean that there was a phase in my life when I was just as awkward and clueless.
 
Akuun said:
To be honest, if this situation happened to me when I was younger, I'd likely be just as confused as OP about this girl's intentions, but minus the feelings of being offended/violated/tricked.

Some of us really are this awkward and clueless around girls.
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You don't really nee to be awkward to be very dense. I'm not awkward but it still takes me days to figure out that someone could be interested in me. The OP sounds a little paranoid and avoidant, that's all.

Well, not a little but you get my point.
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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Dude, you're giving us mixed signals. Why do you care if it's platonic or not? You're not looking to date, that's what you said here. Make that extra clear if she decides to flirt more and you're not up for it. Just ask her why is she spending so much time with you. Is she genuinely needing exercise advice? If yes, continue. If no, and this is her way of flirting, say up front you're not on the market. Stop waffling around.
 
I can't wait for the op thread when she calls him. How is he going to mentally prepare for a random phone call??
 
op you should have kissed on the cheek to say goodbye

At least where i come from that can be a sign of friendship and not neccessarily romantic implications.not sure how it is on other countries
 
Greddleok said:
I'm pretty confident normally. I just need to be in the right frame of mind. Having something sprung on me just put me off balance and I didn't really know how to react.

I wish I was making this up, I feel kinda dumb and I feel like I was tricked.

I'm going to the gym tonight, if she's there I'll bring it up. No idea what I'll say. Haven't I left it too late to ask "where were your friends?"



Nah I eat lunch with women from work all the time. However they don't invite me under the pretence it's going to be lots of people. I usually just ask about the office who wants lunch and sometimes only one is up for it.
However this girl brought her own lunch to the cafeteria also. A detail I forgot to mention. Might be insignificant, I can't tell.
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Wait this was lunch at the office cafeteria? If so, this was not a date lol!
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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