Uncompromisable
Banned
I drank quite a bit so I'll share.
Tonight I went to a bar and met this girl. We seemed to click and get along quite well. I dont usually do this but I bought her a few drinks. She then asks me: "What are you doing later tonight?"
I tell her: "I'm having a little afterparty with champagne at my house, feel free to join me."
She agrees.
So she comes over to my house. We listen to music, have stimulating conversation. At some point she says she wants to go to bed. She gets into my bed. Cuddles up next to me and then naturally I go for the kiss.
She resists, "I won't kiss you, I won't have sex with you" I push a little but she's very surprisingly firm on this for a girl who had absolutely no problem coming over alone to my place for champagne at 3 am.
Now I'm a reasonable guy, we have known eachother for just a few hours, I can understand her not wanting to give me sex.
But not kissing? What? Are you going to convince me you've never kissed someone you barely knew? Let along someone you got along with so well and who treated you right?
To me that's STRAIGHT UP playing games. She was gaining power over me by the second, it felt shitty as fuck, as if I have to chase and beg for this. As if I don't deserve it and I need to prove I'm good enough to be kissed after dates and dates.
I was tough but fair: either give me a kiss on the mouth so I know we're something, or leave.
It was raining. She had no money on her for a cab she told me (I know that's bs). When she asked me if I was sure about this, i said: "afraid so...look I dont want you to leave but the way you're being, it's very teasing and not cool, you baited me into thinking something's gonna happen, you come over to my place at 3 am, but then play hard to get to get power: not cool. I like you and I want you to stay, but not under these conditions."
So she storms the fuck out knocking over everything in her path.
What I learned: It was a hard call, but in the end I'd rather feel like an asshole than a loser. Any girl that would rather walk home in the rain than kiss me can't possibly be that into me and is likely just playing games (I'm rather well off and I've learned to sniff out golddiggers real fucking fast, I've been extremely hurt before).
Anyway that's my story. I'm a bit shook. I can't say this is how I wanted it to develop, but I'm glad I put my foot down.
Tonight I went to a bar and met this girl. We seemed to click and get along quite well. I dont usually do this but I bought her a few drinks. She then asks me: "What are you doing later tonight?"
I tell her: "I'm having a little afterparty with champagne at my house, feel free to join me."
She agrees.
So she comes over to my house. We listen to music, have stimulating conversation. At some point she says she wants to go to bed. She gets into my bed. Cuddles up next to me and then naturally I go for the kiss.
She resists, "I won't kiss you, I won't have sex with you" I push a little but she's very surprisingly firm on this for a girl who had absolutely no problem coming over alone to my place for champagne at 3 am.
Now I'm a reasonable guy, we have known eachother for just a few hours, I can understand her not wanting to give me sex.
But not kissing? What? Are you going to convince me you've never kissed someone you barely knew? Let along someone you got along with so well and who treated you right?
To me that's STRAIGHT UP playing games. She was gaining power over me by the second, it felt shitty as fuck, as if I have to chase and beg for this. As if I don't deserve it and I need to prove I'm good enough to be kissed after dates and dates.
I was tough but fair: either give me a kiss on the mouth so I know we're something, or leave.
It was raining. She had no money on her for a cab she told me (I know that's bs). When she asked me if I was sure about this, i said: "afraid so...look I dont want you to leave but the way you're being, it's very teasing and not cool, you baited me into thinking something's gonna happen, you come over to my place at 3 am, but then play hard to get to get power: not cool. I like you and I want you to stay, but not under these conditions."
So she storms the fuck out knocking over everything in her path.
What I learned: It was a hard call, but in the end I'd rather feel like an asshole than a loser. Any girl that would rather walk home in the rain than kiss me can't possibly be that into me and is likely just playing games (I'm rather well off and I've learned to sniff out golddiggers real fucking fast, I've been extremely hurt before).
Anyway that's my story. I'm a bit shook. I can't say this is how I wanted it to develop, but I'm glad I put my foot down.
