So how are the initial 4 skills given to the child characters calculated? Also how do you reissue the skills?
Since they're level 10, they have their own 2 class skills (except for Nah/Yarne, since Manakete/Taguel is a 30 level class), plus whatever 2 skills are present on the parent's list as soon as the chapter starts. (You can back out of a chapter and reselect skills if you need to)
There are a few exception, such as Chrom's female kids always getting Aether, and male kids getting rightful king even if Chrom hasn't learned them yet, as well as potential character spoiler:
always giving shadowgift.
IIRC, this means you can have another skill at the bottom, and they will get both skills. Not 100% certain though, that's too far back for me to remember how I did it, lol.
Reissuing skills is a little bit counter-intuitive, you have to 'remove' a skill from the list into the main bank, then put it back in, where it will be last.
Going through nah's mission right now and all she has is tantivy, odd rhythm and sol. Sol is nice but I wish she has aptitude and underdog.
Well, she can't get both of those from Donnel, only one from each parent, so in this case, she's getting Sol from Donny and Tantivy from Nowi. You could put one of Donny's skills you mentioned as his 'last' skill to get Nah to inherit it instead of Sol.
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