Gay and Bisexual Coming-out thread |OT|

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Suairyu said:
People like myself are very opposed to the idea of "gay culture". Even the form that does exist, many gay and bisexual people dislike it. Also, gay culture doesn't necessarily include relationships or coming out. It's also a dangerous statement in general and I frown upon the similar "black culture" thread.
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Coming out or being in a relationship with a guy is pretty gay man :D That's all I meant by 'culture', not topless men parading around with flags and that.
 
skype chat is great.


I think a certain replicant needs to join though.



edit: also, i am exceedingly gay and stereotypically fabulous. :lol

I'd apologise but it would be a lie :D
 
Replicant said:
Preston and Trey. Not as good as Marc and Trey though if you want to see a good one. But I just thought it's interesting to see how despite enjoying the sex, Preston seems to have a negative perception of the word 'gay'. It makes me wonder how many like him are out there.
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Although it doesn't really fit with the 'negative perception' bit, I wonder how much of this is caused by the difference between the physical and the emotional? For instance, I'm a really nice guy (with my partners) but I can be inclined toward rough sex on occasion. The SmokyDave that is giving the aggressive pounding is not a guy that I would like to be my everyday persona, he's just a role for a situation that I (and my partners) enjoy in a certain context. Given that, I can comfortably imagine a situation where I'd get a lot of physical pleasure from homosexual sexual encounters whilst shying away from forming any 'emotional bond' beyond the physical. A same-sex relationship might not be compatible with their everyday personas even if their bedroom activities are.

I'm not really making myself clear but I think I might understand what is going on in the heads of 'Preston & Trey'. I guess it gets more complicated when you cross boundaries of sexuality but that's far too complicated for my feeble mind to try and wrap itself around.
 
i_am_ben said:
skype chat is great.


I think a certain replicant needs to join though.



edit: also, i am exceedingly gay and stereotypically fabulous. :lol

I'd apologise but it would be a lie :D
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I keep forgetting about the Skype chat, I should drop by more often.
 
SmokyDave said:
Although it doesn't really fit with the 'negative perception' bit, I wonder how much of this is caused by the difference between the physical and the emotional? For instance, I'm a really nice guy (with my partners) but I can be inclined toward rough sex on occasion. The SmokyDave that is giving the aggressive pounding is not a guy that I would like to be my everyday persona, he's just a role for a situation that I (and my partners) enjoy in a certain context. Given that, I can comfortably imagine a situation where I'd get a lot of physical pleasure from homosexual sexual encounters whilst shying away from forming any 'emotional bond' beyond the physical. A same-sex relationship might not be compatible with their everyday personas even if their bedroom activities are.

I'm not really making myself clear but I think I might understand what is going on in the heads of 'Preston & Trey'. I guess it gets more complicated when you cross boundaries of sexuality but that's far too complicated for my feeble mind to try and wrap itself around.
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This is the coming-out thread, not the trying-to-turn-me-on thread, please stay on topic kthx.
 
badcrumble said:
This is the coming-out thread, not the trying-to-turn-me-on thread, please stay on topic kthx.
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Sorry, I'm all straight and confused and I seem to be lost, could one of you nice men please show me an exit?

;p
 
SmokyDave said:
Although it doesn't really fit with the 'negative perception' bit, I wonder how much of this is caused by the difference between the physical and the emotional? For instance, I'm a really nice guy (with my partners) but I can be inclined toward rough sex on occasion. The SmokyDave that is giving the aggressive pounding is not a guy that I would like to be my everyday persona, he's just a role for a situation that I (and my partners) enjoy in a certain context. Given that, I can comfortably imagine a situation where I'd get a lot of physical pleasure from homosexual sexual encounters whilst shying away from forming any 'emotional bond' beyond the physical. A same-sex relationship might not be compatible with their everyday personas even if their bedroom activities are.

I'm not really making myself clear but I think I might understand what is going on in the heads of 'Preston & Trey'. I guess it gets more complicated when you cross boundaries of sexuality but that's far too complicated for my feeble mind to try and wrap itself around.
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This is a case more of "a hole's a hole, I'll fuck it." Sex is pleasure, regardless of the gender it's with.
 
Rez said:
bitch chinner's been duck long before you
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But is he a bisexual duck? That is quite clearly the pertinent question.

SmokyDave - You're like some straight guys and girls I know except they've indulged it from time to time.
 
Woohoo, came out to my brother today and it went perfectly. First family member to officially know.

It really does get so much easier the more you do it. Parents are next on the list.
 
sublime085 said:
Woohoo, came out to my brother today and it went perfectly. First family member to officially know.

It really does get so much easier the more you do it. Parents are next on the list.
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Well done! Good luck with the parents. Keep up informed.
 
Wasn't sure which topic this would be best asked in, but:

Why is there a stigma against gays who like sports? I profess that I love watching sports where hot, rugged masculine dudes tackle other dudes or men get all sweaty! But seriously, I love college football, NFL, some baseball, a lot of tennis, and on occasion other sports like rugby or soccer (for the hot soccer players), and I've found very few other gays who even love one sport let alone four or five.

:(
 
I know quite a few gays who love sports, didn't think there was a particular stigma about it. If I'm not mistaken, there is a trend of gay sports bar opening all over the country right now.

That said, I have no real interest in any sports :D
 
Alcoori said:
I know quite a few gays who love sports, didn't think there was a particular stigma about it. If I'm not mistaken, there is a trend of gay sports bar opening all over the country right now.

That said, I have no real interest in any sports :D
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I want to be in a town that has a gay sports bar. That would, literally, be my nirvana.
 
sublime085 said:
Woohoo, came out to my brother today and it went perfectly. First family member to officially know.

It really does get so much easier the more you do it. Parents are next on the list.
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Congratulations!
 
Your niche is sport. Try finding people -- nevermind gays, just people -- who are into early 20th century musical composition techniques and video game design theory.
 
Rez said:
Your niche is sport. Try finding people -- nevermind gays, just people -- who are into early 20th century musical composition techniques and video game design theory.
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You're telling me you can't find any on Gaf?
 
Rez said:
Your niche is sport. Try finding people -- nevermind gays, just people -- who are into early 20th century musical composition techniques and video game design theory.
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old man, what are you doing up at this hour?
 
Alcoori said:
You're telling me you can't find any on Gaf?
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In the non-Internet world, my friend

not that I'm complaining, mind you


Edit: Ben, I got addicted to Ghost Trick and ended up finishing it. Now I have heaps of unspent energy I'm wasting by posting on GAF from my iPhone in bed.
 
Rez said:
In the non-Internet world, my friend

not that I'm complaining, mind you
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Oh gotcha. None of my friends IRL play video games, I have never been friends with someone who took it somewhat "seriously" and wasn't socially inept.
 
Alcoori said:
Oh gotcha. None of my friends IRL play video games, I have never been friends with someone who took it somewhat "seriously" and wasn't socially inept.
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I had one. He moved to England. Bastard.
 
Alcoori said:
Oh gotcha. None of my friends IRL play video games, I have never been friends with someone who took it somewhat "seriously" and wasn't socially inept.
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playing video games and not being socially inept? Is that even possible?
 
Yeah, the "problem" (and I say this lightly, I love my mates, some of them like family) is that the people
I run into who are into games are generally COD players and people who spend hours and hours in net-cages playing WoW and DOTA. There's no in-between!

My phone corrected net-cafes to net-cages. I won't change it because it's not entirely inappropriate.
 
Alcoori said:
Oh gotcha. None of my friends IRL play video games, I have never been friends with someone who took it somewhat "seriously" and wasn't socially inept.
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I have tons of friends who play videogames. My best friend/roommate is a big videogame fiend and it's his only vice. Let's just say that works out!
 
Alcoori said:
Oh gotcha. None of my friends IRL play video games, I have never been friends with someone who took it somewhat "seriously" and wasn't socially inept.
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I got somewhat lucky this year. Met someone in the gym who plays game, especially PS3 games. He doesn't look the type either since he's into surfing and outdoor sports. Unfortunately, he's not into online gaming so I can't play anything with him since he lives on the opposite area to where I live. Come to think of it, some of the people I met at gym do play games. But they play PC games not PS3. :|

Still, it's nice to talk about how you get so and so in Dead Rising 2. If it wasn't for him, I wouldn't have bought Dead Rising 2 in the first place. I thought it was just mindless zombie-bashing game (well, you can do that if you want to). I was wrong. It's actually quite fun.
 
I just came in here to say that i've been out for about a year and a half now and I'm getting happier and happier. I've recently learned that the guy I found really attractive is gay and just the other day I introduced myself to him! He seemed pleasantly surprised and definitely happy about it. Ahhhhhhhhh
 
Well GAF, I came out to all my college roommates as bisexual. They were all super cool with it. They had some questions, but regardless, they we're extremely accepting. Admittedly, the copious amounts of alcohol I consumed tonight helped usher me into doing it, but it was a good time to do it.
 
rexor0717 said:
Well GAF, I came out to all my college roommates as bisexual. They were all super cool with it. They had some questions, but regardless, they we're extremely accepting. Admittedly, the copious amounts of alcohol I consumed tonight helped usher me into doing it, but it was a good time to do it.
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Congrats. Coming out as bi can be a bit harder in some ways I think.
 
Yeah, its not as..."simple" as being straight of gay I guess. Some kinda had a hard time wrapping their head around through concept of not being equally attracted to both sexes as they thought being bisexual was. But after that, it was all good.
 
Suairyu said:
Harder coming out to parents, easier coming out to peers, in my experience.
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You must have some good peers. :) I was told so many times it didn't exist I just stopped. Now I just be me.
 
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