soco said:
i think it depends upon your definitions of bisexuality and are these studies the Kinsey ones?
similar to the definition of homosexual, you have both the identity and then you have MSMs.
yeah mainly the Kinsey studies. Also some things said by Freud.
ZephyrFate said:
But I disagree about your definition of homophobia -- there are a lot of people who are homophobic that just really, really dislike gay people; it's just that in the media we read so much of people who inadvertently are outed when before they were homophobic.
Thats precisely what I was talking about, the stereotype of "homophobes are closet cases" is now even in mainstream culture, but I was referring to the common straight people who can't accept homosexuality, The theory argues they just can't accept their homosexual side, so the have to violently reject it on the outside. And that is because the theory is based on the premise that everyone is bisexual. It's just an attempt to understand homophobia, because it really doesn't make much sense, why would you hate gay people? and not a simple hate, but something so deep that leads people to actual violence.
It sounds very obvious but when you invert the situation it can be hard to accept it, and easier to understand the opposite side. At first I was very hesitant to accept such thing for me, that I had a heterosexual side, but I have to accept I got turned on by giant breasts when I was very young. Now is one thing to accept your own nature and move on without needing to act on it and one thing entirely is to absolutely deny it.
And as some say rather crudely, a hole is a hole, anyone giving you head is going to arouse you, we are humans, we enjoy human contact on every level from hugs to sex, since psychology studies human behavior in that general view, almost everyone is bisexual if you see it in that angle.
Another thing is as you said, being romantically involved and wanting a relationship. I guess thats the difference between the almost medical terms of "homosexual" and "heterosexual" and the more social terms like "gay" and "straight". We know gay people can be in a marriage for years and have kids, and I doubt they would say the sex wasn't enjoyable at some level when they conceived said kids, it doesn't mean they are what we know as "bisexual" people, because they also say they were miserable in the relationship. But I'm pretty sure an orgasm is an orgasm, at any level and with whoever (or whatever) you got it.
tl:dr sexuality is so much more than just genitals and the act of intercourse.
