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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need

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masud

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Yeah I'd say fuck the meeting and dump her tomorrow. It's not just the profile but she had the nerve to try and flip it on the dude because he wanted to let okcupid know they were a couple. She's probably gonna dump him on Saturday anyway. Preemptive strike that shit.
 

subversus

I've done nothing with my life except eat and fap
I have no idea what this means.

it means that when you want to sell your product there are other offers and there is this girl who hates you and works for the company which organized this tender you won't likely to sell them anything because she REMEMBERS and choose some other company for any bullshit reason.

it's just an example.
 
so Im texting this girl who's fairly attractive (but has a kid) and lives like two hours away. (I dont drive)
the girl's my age (23) we get along well (and she's not looking for any kind of sugar daddy, she has her own agenda),not sure if I should pursue this, it'll be fucking time consuming and costly for me if I do, with no guarantee anything will come of it. (that wasnt a double entree, lol)
 

Minamu

Member
so Im texting this girl who's fairly attractive (but has a kid) and lives like two hours away. (I dont drive)
the girl's my age (23) we get along well (and she's not looking for any kind of sugar daddy, she has her own agenda),not sure if I should pursue this, it'll be fucking time consuming and costly for me if I do, with no guarantee anything will come of it. (that wasnt a double entree, lol)
So many wrongs don't make a right ;)
 

msv

Member
Yeah I'd say fuck the meeting and dump her tomorrow. It's not just the profile but she had the nerve to try and flip it on the dude because he wanted to let okcupid know they were a couple. She's probably gonna dump him on Saturday anyway. Preemptive strike that shit.
Indeed, trying to turn this into him spying, really, that's basically admitting you've done something wrong if you're trying to deflect that hard.

Should just call her up and make her spill it. Waiting for a day is only gonna stress you out.
 
I never had too much trouble getting phone numbers on that site. *shrug*

I'm not having trouble getting numbers. My question is 'When I give out my number, why do the girls give me their number in the response message?' Are they too scared to pursue? Not that interested? Want the man to take lead?
 

kIdMuScLe

Member
So the other day I secretly made out with a friend of mine while we were hanging out with her family but the problem is that she is in a relationship... is been on my mind for a few days if I should ask her why did kiss me and stuff like that. What should I do? =/
 
it means that when you want to sell your product there are other offers and there is this girl who hates you and works for the company which organized this tender you won't likely to sell them anything because she REMEMBERS and choose some other company for any bullshit reason.

it's just an example.

Why give your tender to a company that's not worth your product?

I'm just kidding. I don't know what the hell you're talking about.

I'm not having trouble getting numbers. My question is 'When I give out my number, why do the girls give me their number in the response message?' Are they too scared to pursue? Not that interested? Want the man to take lead?

At least they responded with their number. I've had a few girls ask me for my number and I never once heard from them. It's confusing to say the least.
 

Zyzyxxz

Member
This is probably going to sound pretty pathetic but here goes. So my parents wanted me to talk to this girl that lives pretty far away to get to know her as her parents are apparently family friends and their daughter is single as well.

The only thing is that its communication via instant messenger. At first I had no intention of talking to her since I was too concentrated on trying to find work and make money. Now my parents have been on my back about it so much I finally caved in.

The only thing is what do I talk to her about? So far I just asked about her school life and random shit. She doesn't even have free time for hobbies because of school so I basically I don't even know what she is into. Can someone give me some ideas on what to ask her so I can get to know what kind of person she is? She did not seem that communicative and it was mostly I who was leading the conversation.
 

Oozinator

Banned
Online dating is easy as long as you're decent looking.

You just need to be funny and willing to make some concessions on looks.

Having good comedic timing is hard to learn but you can pretty much perfect anything with practice.

Slightly overweight is great because it's easily fixed. Look for people who could greatly improve their appearance with small changes that others can't so easily see past.

If you're looking for a finished product, you better be perfect yourself because women who 'have it all' either aren't on dating sites or are so incredibly picky that you don't have a shot.

I love slightly overweight women. Their buttocks make nicer sounds when you're shagging them from behind and it feels like you moved a mountain when they cum.
 
This is probably going to sound pretty pathetic but here goes. So my parents wanted me to talk to this girl that lives pretty far away to get to know her as her parents are apparently family friends and their daughter is single as well.

The only thing is that its communication via instant messenger. At first I had no intention of talking to her since I was too concentrated on trying to find work and make money. Now my parents have been on my back about it so much I finally caved in.

The only thing is what do I talk to her about? So far I just asked about her school life and random shit. She doesn't even have free time for hobbies because of school so I basically I don't even know what she is into. Can someone give me some ideas on what to ask her so I can get to know what kind of person she is? She did not seem that communicative and it was mostly I who was leading the conversation.
This whole entire predicament you're in sounds so forced and artificial. Are your parents and her parents trying marry you guys off or something? Or is this just a classic case of parents treating their kids like play things? "Oh wouldn't it be cute if our son and daughter got together?! Tee-hee-hee-heeee!"

Anyways, I don't think any type of serious relationship is going to sprout from this. Just talk to her like you would a friend (minus any gross or inappropriate statements unless she brings them up first). One thing that you could do is poke fun at your parents for arranging this little play-date of yours. I find that being humorous is a good way to make someone open up more. And once she has opened up, you can pretty much talk about anything.

Now... if she continues to be unresponsive and uninterested then this whole thing is just a big waste of time. Nothing will blossom unless both parties (you and her) contribute something to the conversation.
 
So the other day I secretly made out with a friend of mine while we were hanging out with her family but the problem is that she is in a relationship... is been on my mind for a few days if I should ask her why did kiss me and stuff like that. What should I do? =/

I wouldn't even bring it up. Chances are it didn't even mean anything and she was just looking to have some fun. Probably a one time thing, bringing it up would be overkill.
 

Miguel

Member
I wouldn't even bring it up. Chances are it didn't even mean anything and she was just looking to have some fun. Probably a one time thing, bringing it up would be overkill.

^that

It happened. It may happen again. But unless she breaks up with the boyfriend, she was either looking for a little action on the side, or drunk and made out with the closest person of any interest to her (you)

Let it go. It means nothing, and if it did, she'd let you know soon enough.
 

Sub_Level

wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Is it cool to call a girlon a Friday to hang out on either Saturday and Sunday? Or should I just wait 'till next week and call ahead a few days in advance of getting together? I'm talkin' a date here.
 
Uh, nearing 2 years, but I'm about to end it with my GF I think. She's backed out on me twice the last two days on events that I've had planned for weeks. Not cool.
 
Is it cool to call a girlon a Friday to hang out on either Saturday and Sunday? Or should I just wait 'till next week and call ahead a few days in advance of getting together? I'm talkin' a date here.

I'd probably wait until mid next week. But you can casually text her, see if she's doing anything, and if not, do something casual with her.
 

Blader

Member
Uh, nearing 2 years, but I'm about to end it with my GF I think. She's backed out on me twice the last two days on events that I've had planned for weeks. Not cool.

Unless these events were huge milestones in your life or something, ending it sounds like a bit of an overreaction.
 

Mr.City

Member
Or it could that these are excuses that he is given to hide the bigger issue that the passion has gone of the relationship. Then again, I don't know the entire situation
 

Miguel

Member
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Before we jump to conclusions... yeah, is this the only thing going on? or is there more to the story. Kind of an overreaction to two events I think, depends on the events, and if there are any other actions lately, etc. Care to divulge any more info, Mr.Awesome?
 

soultron

Banned
Gotdamn it. Girl who I got friendzoned by on Wednesday agreed to hang out again this Sunday.

I'm going to try my luck this time, no regrets. I can't honestly be friends with some girl who I'm attracted to. (I'm putting it on the pedestal, fuck.) I'd rather fuck shit up, make it awkward, and then explain myself now rather than forcing myself to hang out with her for months on end while pining for her.

Tell me I'm a moron. This is a dumb idea.
 
Gotdamn it. Girl who I got friendzoned by on Wednesday agreed to hang out again this Sunday.

I'm going to try my luck this time, no regrets. I can't honestly be friends with some girl who I'm attracted to. (I'm putting it on the pedestal, fuck.) I'd rather fuck shit up, make it awkward, and then explain myself now rather than forcing myself to hang out with her for months on end while pining for her.

Tell me I'm a moron. This is a dumb idea.
Sounds like a fun time to me.
 

Blader

Member
Gotdamn it. Girl who I got friendzoned by on Wednesday agreed to hang out again this Sunday.

I'm going to try my luck this time, no regrets. I can't honestly be friends with some girl who I'm attracted to. (I'm putting it on the pedestal, fuck.) I'd rather fuck shit up, make it awkward, and then explain myself now rather than forcing myself to hang out with her for months on end while pining for her.

Tell me I'm a moron. This is a dumb idea.

I think you're really beating yourself up over this for no reason.
 
Gotdamn it. Girl who I got friendzoned by on Wednesday agreed to hang out again this Sunday.

I'm going to try my luck this time, no regrets. I can't honestly be friends with some girl who I'm attracted to. (I'm putting it on the pedestal, fuck.) I'd rather fuck shit up, make it awkward, and then explain myself now rather than forcing myself to hang out with her for months on end while pining for her.

Tell me I'm a moron. This is a dumb idea.

Not a dumb idea actually, I say go for it. Might as well.
 

Liquid_015

Gold Member
Gotdamn it. Girl who I got friendzoned by on Wednesday agreed to hang out again this Sunday.

I'm going to try my luck this time, no regrets. I can't honestly be friends with some girl who I'm attracted to. (I'm putting it on the pedestal, fuck.) I'd rather fuck shit up, make it awkward, and then explain myself now rather than forcing myself to hang out with her for months on end while pining for her.

Tell me I'm a moron. This is a dumb idea.

Dude. I'm in a similar situation, and I am so damn tempted to tell her that I really like her. But I don't have the balls to, and I'm afraid of what is going to happen next, ie, moment of awkwardness, and shit like that... Fuck. I might as well tell her sometime before the semester is over or something... sigh.
 

soultron

Banned
Dude. I'm in a similar situation, and I am so damn tempted to tell her that I really like her. But I don't have the balls to, and I'm afraid of what is going to happen next, ie, moment of awkwardness, and shit like that... Fuck. I might as well tell her sometime before the semester is over or something... sigh.
Don't confess your feelings. Can you provide some more details?
 
so instead of going a date with a cute girl tomorrow night, she informs me that she got an email from her accounting group saying that they have to get together tomorrow night and do stuff for her project. on a saturday night. freaking sucks. got this awesome outfit and everything. I was so excited to get back into things and now back to nothing.
 
so instead of going a date with a cute girl tomorrow night, she informs me that she got an email from her accounting group saying that they have to get together tomorrow night and do stuff for her project. on a saturday night. freaking sucks. got this awesome outfit and everything. I was so excited to get back into things and now back to nothing.

Just postponed, right? Sucks but not the end of the world. Just go out with some of the guys instead, wear that awesome outfit of yours and see what happens.

And to be fair, finals are coming up for a lot of schools, so that's probably a legitimate excuse and not her trying to blow you off.
 
Gotdamn it. Girl who I got friendzoned by on Wednesday agreed to hang out again this Sunday.

I'm going to try my luck this time, no regrets. I can't honestly be friends with some girl who I'm attracted to. (I'm putting it on the pedestal, fuck.) I'd rather fuck shit up, make it awkward, and then explain myself now rather than forcing myself to hang out with her for months on end while pining for her.

Tell me I'm a moron. This is a dumb idea.

Go for it, brother. The way you described her saying you two were friends didn't really sound cut and dry, "friends only" type-language. Plus you two went on a long walk alone and watched movies in her bed. I may have some bad history with reading signals, but I think she's digging on you too. Give it a shot.
 

subversus

I've done nothing with my life except eat and fap
Why give your tender to a company that's not worth your product?

I'm just kidding. I don't know what the hell you're talking about.

I think you don't know what a tender is and that's hilarious, but I'm sure there are some good online dictionaries for you to look through. Hint: look through economics/business section.
 
How do you guys work around a girl having her own car?

If I offer to pick her up alot of times they just say they they can meet me at what ever place.
 
I think you don't know what a tender is and that's hilarious, but I'm sure there are some good online dictionaries for you to look through. Hint: look through economics/business section.

It's a form of payment. I just don't see what that has to do with anything. Throw in the bad grammar and I was sure you were trying to draw out a drunk metaphor.
 
How do you guys work around a girl having her own car?

If I offer to pick her up alot of times they just say they they can meet me at what ever place.

There's nothing to "work around," you embrace it. Be glad that you don't have to pick her up/drop her off every time you go out.

Do what Eggo said. Stop bringing it up unless you get into a situation where it really makes sense to pick her up (IE. you are driving by her house on the way to where you're going to dinner). Until then, enjoy not being her personal chauffeur.


Get her to drive you everywhere.

Actually on second thought this is the best answer.
 

Miguel

Member
I don't think I've gotten the chance on any recent date to actually pick my date up, since either we're going somewhere near her place because she lives far away, or we're meeting someplace between the two of us. Last "date" I picked up was an awful night, lol, but it was a few years back.

Although one of the girls I'm talking to appears to not have a car, so if she agrees to go with me to a concert next saturday (Rise Against/Flobots) then I'll have to go pick her up, then back into town for the concert, and back to her place to drop her off/etc.

I'm thinking maybe we stop somewhere near her place before the concert and either have dinner or at least a drink or two before going, make it so I'm not just driving out there and back all in one swoop.
 

Minamu

Member
Just got the "I just got out of a serious relationship and don't want to date" bomb. Fucker.
You probably had a pursuing/dating vibe when she just wants to hook up (God, I sound more like Brent every day xD). Could be salvagable if you're more casual about it.
 
Just postponed, right? Sucks but not the end of the world. Just go out with some of the guys instead, wear that awesome outfit of yours and see what happens.

And to be fair, finals are coming up for a lot of schools, so that's probably a legitimate excuse and not her trying to blow you off.

Yeah that could be. She goes to UNO and I go to UNL, so it's about an hour drive, so I wanted to do it over break. See that's what I thought except she didn't make any comment about going out another time, so I asked her out to lunch tomorrow before I head back to school. I'm not looking for a relationship with her, just jumping back into the dating scene.

There's this other girl who I view as just a friend, but she's going freaking crazy right now. We madeout a week ago, I'd been drinking, but I told her straight up it was just a moment thing and that I was sorry and didn't have those feelings for her. She was cool with that and understood what I was going through. Now she's all like I'm gonna have to move on and I can't wait for you. We can't hangout. wtf. I told you straight up I didn't want to be with you.

Some girls are just insane. Even though I'm 21, it seems like every girl my age is immature and has no clue who they are or what they want. I know there are normal ones out there, but my god. o_O
 

Acid08

Banned
You probably had a pursuing/dating vibe when she just wants to hook up (God, I sound more like Brent every day xD). Could be salvagable if you're more casual about it.

We're already going to go out again this week and since the "dating" pressure is off I think it'll go even better honestly.
 

Miguel

Member
Girl invited me out with some friends to some douchey 18+ club tonight(she's 26, I'm 27...) very much not the clubbing type, but I guess why not. I guess this becomes the 3rd date. She'll likely be pretty liquored up, let's see what happens.
 

Pre

Member
How do you go about hooking up with a girl that works at a store you frequent? There's a Hastings in town and a girl I'm interested in works there, and the few times we've talked while I was in line have gone over well. She's playful and slightly flirtatious and I'd like to get a number or something, but I don't know how to transition from a guy that comes into the store to a guy that's interested in her without being creepy.
 

Acid08

Banned
How do you go about hooking up with a girl that works at a store you frequent? There's a Hastings in town and a girl I'm interested in works there, and the few times we've talked while I was in line have gone over well. She's playful and slightly flirtatious and I'd like to get a number or something, but I don't know how to transition from a guy that comes into the store to a guy that's interested in her without being creepy.
I did this recently actually. I wrote my number down on a piece of paper, handed it to her and just gave a little explanation like "this is so corny but I think you're cute and we should grab a drink sometime." Then what do ya know the next day she called me and we went out.
 

Snowman

Member
One of the guys my girlfriend works with is telling her i've been talking to him and telling him to back off from her when I have never even spoken to the guy. She trusts me and knows i'd tell her if I said something but still, how can I deal with knowing this guy is trying to create tension between us? And she sees him every week and talks to him... i'm gonna worry like crazy that this guy is messing us up :/ She doesn't wanna confront him about it because she has to work with him, i just don't know what to do gaf. Any ideas?
 
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