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GirlGAF |OT 2| Shall I Compare Thee to a Summer's Eve?
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Earlier this year my lower back was a little sore from my workout -- I probably wasn't careful enough (my lower back is generally a little touchy) -- And hours later I bent down to pick something up, and I guess I did it in just the wrong way, and the pain that shot through my hip/lower back was so extreme it's impossible to describe. I had to very very carefully find the one position laying down on my stomach where I was sort of not in outright agony -- and avoid moving. I would have probably driven to my doctor or maybe even the ER if the idea of moving in any way didn't seem so impossible.
I still don't understand it, but I recovered very quickly. A day later I was pretty much fine. That was the first time in my life I've felt completely physically helpless.
H.Protagonist
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Speaking of joints, I'm on another round of steroids. Which means I'm going to gain another ten pounds. Fuuuuuuuccccckkkkkkkk me.
Sorry for your guyses joint issues
Joints are the devil. My knees feel like they're full of broken glass a little too often these days. I didn't think this shit was supposed to be so prevalent until much later in life.
Sorry you have to do steroids again. Are you able to combat the weight gain at all or is it hard to exercise? I'm lazy, but sometimes the video game method (random squat reps for random reasons/mini-challenges) inspires enough to do stuff. If I didn't take the baby for epic walks every day, I'd probably liquefy happily on the couch for a month or two.
VenomousCoffee
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Mine aren't green 😞
Wouldn't it be good to be without pain though? Or is it manageable?
The pain's not bad; it's the feeling that something is ... going wrong in the joint. It's not even the joint that hurts the most! My shoulder has been screwed up all summer. Well, it's been screwed up for over 20 years, but this summer it's been worse.
Joints are the devil. My knees feel like they're full of broken glass a little too often these days. I didn't think this shit was supposed to be so prevalent until much later in life.
Sorry you have to do steroids again. Are you able to combat the weight gain at all or is it hard to exercise? I'm lazy, but sometimes the video game method (random squat reps for random reasons/mini-challenges) inspires enough to do stuff. If I didn't take the baby for epic walks every day, I'd probably liquefy happily on the couch for a month or two.
Right now it's hard cause I'm in a flare. My hip is really bad.
If you're having joint pain for no reason you should totally get that checked out. Autoimmune disease tends to run in family's, so if anyone you might be related to has one and you experience issues you should look into it
InfiniteBento
Member
edit: nvm
Spoiled Milk
Banned
There's a lot in this story. Themes: sexual manipulation, abuse of positions of power, male privilege, and (legal) drug abuse (which I believe is a pandemic for young women).
Doctor Feelgood Allegedly Got Women Hooked on Pills for Sex
More at the link. I read this and was pretty appalled. I guess my only reason for posting this is... stay safe! Remember that just because someone is a doctor doesn't mean they aren't a bad person.
Doctor Feelgood Allegedly Got Women Hooked on Pills for Sex
More at the link. I read this and was pretty appalled. I guess my only reason for posting this is... stay safe! Remember that just because someone is a doctor doesn't mean they aren't a bad person.
VenomousCoffee
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Jesus Christ.
Also,
Also,
Denny's?
YesNOnoNOYes
Member
omg that's really scary
the abuse of powers from people in position of power is really the worst :<
the abuse of powers from people in position of power is really the worst :<
A Link to the Past
Banned
Well this is certainly horrid
Terrorblot
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Soooo I've only started this year to really start trying my best at makeup (I'm trans, bleh) and switched over from a powder foundation to a liquid and OH MY GOD THIS IS AMAZING. I've had awful skin all my life but today for once I actually feel pretty.
Also all the posts above are sad and horrible yikes :\
Also all the posts above are sad and horrible yikes :\
A Link to the Past
Banned
Soooo I've only started this year to really start trying my best at makeup (I'm trans, bleh) and switched over from a powder foundation to a liquid and OH MY GOD THIS IS AMAZING. I've had awful skin all my life but today for once I actually feel pretty.
Also all the posts above are sad and horrible yikes :\
I'm really happy for you.
I look forward to actually getting into makeup myself.NipplesAndToes23
Member
Finally got my hands on Ms. Marvel #1 I really like it.
Terrorblot
Member
I'm really happy for you.
Thanks! Makeups fun as heck provided you're doing it for you.
Ms Marvel is a BLAST. Love Kamala she's a fantastic and lovable character. Are you reading the #1 from when she first debuted or the more recent #1 (marvel numbers bleck!)?
Soooo I've only started this year to really start trying my best at makeup (I'm trans, bleh) and switched over from a powder foundation to a liquid and OH MY GOD THIS IS AMAZING. I've had awful skin all my life but today for once I actually feel pretty.
Also all the posts above are sad and horrible yikes :
I'm cis and suck at makeup lol, so don't feel bad. What foundation are you using? I keep getting shitty brands that cake up my pores visibly. Or maybe I'm just doing it wrong lol.
I don't wear it that often anyhow. I also have a hell of a time matching my olive skin, ugh.
NipplesAndToes23
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Her debut.
Terrorblot
Member
I'm currently using Too Faced Born This Way. It's only the first day but I'm pretty sure this is a huge game changer for me. I was using Tarte Amazonian Clay powder and it wasn't working for me at all, my skin was drying out real real bad and I think I was breaking out because of it too.
Yeaaaaa! I'm excited for you, stranger!
Terrorblot
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I'm currently buying X-Men 92', Extraordinary X-Men, Uncanny X-Men, and Old Man Logan, but the only one I'm caught up on is Extraordinary :\.
Terrorblot
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Because of the Val D'orazio or was there other stuff? I know nothing about him / her other than that he worked for ComicsAlliance and wrote X-Men 92' and she's a comic book writer he harassed?
Either way haven't read it so ¯\_(ツ
_/¯ can't really comment but by your comment I'm sure whatever he did / how he acts is pretty bad.
Terrorblot
Member
It was a shoulder shrug because I don't know any of the relevant information and can't weight in in any meaningful way, not because I think misogyny / sexual harrassment is OK in any way shape or form. If it's true I'll probably drop the book.
The only thing I know about Sims is I have a friend who enjoys his podcast who typically isn't susceptible to that kind of BS. Sounds like a gross human being though so I imagine the whole debacle probably fell off his radar.
Cindi Mayweather
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Red.
Brian Wood, the guy who wrote the recent all-female X-Men team, is very much a part of this problem too.
weemadarthur
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Ceallach
Smells like fresh rosebuds
Ugh, I feel like a horrible person. I just had the most bigoted outrage.
So the place I work, Mid-Atlantic Regional Maintenance Center, is a military command but has a civilian component. Recently, a trans woman was hired as one of the secretaries and she makes me so mad. She is so stereotypically girly it drives me mad. And she always encourages and relishes inappropriate shit-lewd jokes, stupid hot chick email chains, etc. I went back into my office to talk to my ALPO(also a female E-6) and we both just went in behind close doors. the most transphobic shit. Complaining how trans women arent women because they were never girls, they don't know what we went through, what we go through. Just going over shit like being 13 and getting catcalled by grown men, having to learn where to park to avoid creeps, having to carry mace and knuckle dusters, the "just kidding" harassment, having your opinion shot down for being "just a girl", having your feelings being dismissed as "PMSing", we just went stupid.
And I feel awful. Like a bigot. Logically I understand it isn't their choice, they have problems of their own, their own shit to deal with, etc, but this woman that makes me so mad just drew so much hate out of me for no good reason.
Sorry for this. I just kinda feel like owning up to my shit is necessary for me to stop being dumb.
So the place I work, Mid-Atlantic Regional Maintenance Center, is a military command but has a civilian component. Recently, a trans woman was hired as one of the secretaries and she makes me so mad. She is so stereotypically girly it drives me mad. And she always encourages and relishes inappropriate shit-lewd jokes, stupid hot chick email chains, etc. I went back into my office to talk to my ALPO(also a female E-6) and we both just went in behind close doors. the most transphobic shit. Complaining how trans women arent women because they were never girls, they don't know what we went through, what we go through. Just going over shit like being 13 and getting catcalled by grown men, having to learn where to park to avoid creeps, having to carry mace and knuckle dusters, the "just kidding" harassment, having your opinion shot down for being "just a girl", having your feelings being dismissed as "PMSing", we just went stupid.
And I feel awful. Like a bigot. Logically I understand it isn't their choice, they have problems of their own, their own shit to deal with, etc, but this woman that makes me so mad just drew so much hate out of me for no good reason.
Sorry for this. I just kinda feel like owning up to my shit is necessary for me to stop being dumb.
Cindi Mayweather
Member
Not sure why you're posting details where you work in something like that.
I also don't know why you don't think a trans woman wouldn't have to go through any of that. Do you think all trans women announce they're trans? If a trans woman who passes walks by a group of creeps, do you think they will treat her any different than a cis woman? I have a trans friend. Her male family members went from taking her opinions with consideration to brushing them off the second she started looking like and presenting like a woman. On dates she carries pepper spray, because when she tells them she's trans she doesn't know how they'll reaction. People at work don't know she's trans. She can't be as aggressive in her career because now is she talks up she's seen as a "bitch" and not "confident" or "taking the initiative." She's learned to always try to smile because otherwise some stranger will tell her she needs to smile. The idea that only cis women can experience those things seems really, really naive.
How is she stereotypically girly?
Ceallach
Smells like fresh rosebuds
Sorry. I know some know me as active duty so I was just trying to clarify why I was with a civilian. Incidentally, that command has about hundreds of offices globally, so it'd be like saying I worked at target, without a real detail, it means nothing.
But logically, I do realize they go through it. My point is, we were being awful, with so many dumb biases.
But yeah, it's just her fucking pink everything, stupid signature with a heart in it, her tee-hee laugh, her shit about hard it is to find a good man, terrible blonde dye job, obnoxious fake boobs, her stupid pink car with the eyelashes, it just irritates me. And it's dumb because I know cis women like that too! Who need everything to be Hello Kitty and pink and shit. Like I want her to be more! But it's not my fucking place to decide who should be anything! And it's so damn weak and stupid of me to judge her.
Cindi Mayweather
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Ah. Can't really help there. I know lots of girls like that, cis or trans. Just let her be her I guess. None of those seem to be outrageously annoying things. It's pretty common, so I don't know what to say other than try to empathize. Have you tried talking to her about it? It might help.
Morrigan Stark
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I find girls like that annoying too, but whether they'd be trans or cis wouldn't change a thing. At least you realize it's irrational and try to work on it, I guess...
Also...
At least you realize it's irrational and try to work on it, I guess...Also...
Sorry, I had to
Cindi Mayweather
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Purple is the best color.
That may or may not be my password.
That may or may not be my password.
Morrigan Stark
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I get why you find that annoying. Always feels like overcompensation to me and it feels like they're being a caricature. But the reality is like you said it's not specific to trans girls. It's irrational to assume it's anything but the person expressing their individuality (no matter how obnoxious you find it)
Definitely takes a bit of effort to learn not to think that way and of course recognizing the error is how you get there
(I also had to get through a bunch of self loathing when I was initially trying to figure out how to make feminism and transness go together when I didn't have the best sources)
Also if it helps, I've been ignored for being "too emotional" before
(To add to the experiences already listed)
Cindi Mayweather
Member
What's a good face moisturizer for dry+oily skin?
I've never cared about skin care before and I don't have wrinkles yet, but lately my smile lines look darker. Stress and aging sucks.
Almost any, really. If you want spf go with a facial moisturizer with spf in it like Neutrogena spf 15 facial moisturizer or get some regular Aveeno meant for deep penetration. Put it on right after showering.
timetokill
Banned
If I was a girl I'd be all over cute stuff like constantly
Ceallach would hate me XD
Ceallach would hate me XD
It's easy to lose perspective and hard to gain it, but you were able to check yourself here, so stop beating yourself up. Honestly, I'm trans and I still do the same shit that you were. I meet trans women who's experiences and attitudes are so different from mine that it's difficult to empathize with them. I get frustrated with them for not understanding my experiences(when I don't understand theirs any better), and for all sorts of stupid shit that usually amounts to me being afraid they'll make me look worse.
The truth is, if you're trans and people know it, everything you do starts being scrutinized. If you're too girly, you're overcompensating, and if you're too masculine, then you aren't really trans. As an openly trans woman with passing privilege, it's easy for me to tell when someone was told that I'm trans before they met me. The people I meet that already know I'm trans usually have more trouble seeing me as a woman, while the people that I disclose to later tend to have trouble remembering that I'm trans or thinking of me as a guy in any way.
I don't like hiding that I'm trans, but I also don't like disclosing with new friends until I've gained some trust in them. On the same note, I wouldn't deny that I'm trans if confronted at work, but I have never disclosed that fact either, because I know word would spread quickly and negatively impact too many future interactions. I'm not just speaking from the perspective of the scrutinized, either - I've been on the other side of this and have been guilty of the same things that I'm accusing cis people of doing. Ultimately, cis or trans, we've all been taught the same awful shit about trans people growing up. You recognized those teachings and are at least trying to understand how shit they are, so good on you for that.
NipplesAndToes23
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Yeah she's really sweet and I like how they dealt with racism and identity issues.
VenomousCoffee
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Hello All
Just want to step in and suggest that telling ANY coworker that you don't like them because of how they dress, or talk, or (especially!) their body parts is probably a really bad idea.
Just want to step in and suggest that telling ANY coworker that you don't like them because of how they dress, or talk, or (especially!) their body parts is probably a really bad idea.
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