Cindi Mayweather
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I think the problem for their SO's is that they're sharing a hotel room. are you sharing the bed? Serious question. Why not stay in a cheap hotel and get seperated rooms. No drama, no fuss.
I think the problem for their SO's is that they're sharing a hotel room. are you sharing the bed? Serious question. Why not stay in a cheap hotel and get seperated rooms. No drama, no fuss.
I'm fine with people having different opinions, but I just don't see a reason to be a massive dickhead about it. The guy's post came off as reasonable, and I thought he was being polite when replying to people he disagreed with. But you weren't, and I guess that's your ~*style*~. There is more to life than being "right and wrong on the internet".Guess you don't like learning that you are a jealous and possessive person huh.
Two beds in the room.
I floated the idea to my gf that I'd be happy to get separate rooms if it makes it any easier for her... her response was
"No, that's just more money and you're going to be hanging out together anyway so there's no point".
I'd never in my life let hubby stay in a hotel room overnight with another woman, unless there were several other people with them. Imo, it's very inappropriate and would make me feel extremely uncomfortable. I just don't see the point, but I can understand some don't mind. I personally would mind. It's all about boundaries. If one doesn't like it, I think that should be respected, and without questions. It's perfectly normal to be jealous of things, especially a situation where it's easy to have your mind run wild with potential outcomes (as the one not in the hotel).
Your gf confuses me
Your gf confuses me
The thing with this whole situation is we both requested 2 tickets at the same time, thinking that if we both got our waitlist's fulfilled, all four of us could go.
I put my request in first and hers was an hour or so after mine, and somehow she got the seats.. Since we only got two, and her and I being the fans, she offered the other ticket to me, since we both wanted to see the show.
And I think what my gf isn't understanding, or maybe people here aren't understanding, it's not about the overnight or having to stay there longer than I have to. If I could get in and out without a hotel stay, I would... because I respect my gf's wishes and concerns completely, but at this point, in order for either of us to attend (me or my friend), its a necessary evil.
I don't think my gf overreacted, nor do I think she's wrong.. I just wish there was some way to alleviate her worries and make everyone happy.
maybe add on something else to the trip and bring your gf and the bf of your friend along to enjoy whichever city that's in?
personally though I don't think I could be in a relationship where something like that is an issue
Doesn't sound confusing to me, just that she's given up.
Well maybe she's finally being reasonable, at least!Two beds in the room.
I floated the idea to my gf that I'd be happy to get separate rooms if it makes it any easier for her... her response was
"No, that's just more money and you're going to be hanging out together anyway so there's no point".
Meh. I'm sorry if you feel I was rude, but it's my ~*opinion*~ that your idea of never ever letting your husband share a hotel room with another woman under any circumstance, reflects a jealous and possessive, or at least very insecure personality.I'm fine with people having different opinions, but I just don't see a reason to be a massive dickhead about it. The guy's post came off as reasonable, and I thought he was being polite when replying to people he disagreed with. But you weren't, and I guess that's your ~*style*~. There is more to life than being "right and wrong on the internet".
You guys are completely fucking crazy, and/or have trust issues, and/or need to find yourselves better SOs if you can't even trust them. ¯\_(ツ_/¯
Irrational jealously is sure an ugly sentiment. So glad I don't have such a possessive SO.
If you cannot trust your SO to share a hotel room with a a platonic friend without getting uncomfortable I really have to wonder why you are even with them.
^^ thanks you two. I was starting to think I was the crazy one (or the only sane one, idk).
Finally sane people lol
I would not be okay with my bf sharing a hotel room with another girl, EXCEPT for a small subset of girls that I know or know of.
without a little bit of jealousy what's the point of being in an exclusive relationship anyway? you should never take your partner for granted. it shouldn't be a topic of discussion 24/7 but tbh I'd be a little hurt if I found out my partner wouldn't care AT ALL if I spend the night with another dude.
Please stop building straw men arguments. Obviously it would be more than a no-questions-asked affair. Obviously. Nobody is saying we don't care at all. It's just that we understand that if there's a good reason for the event, and we know enough about the other person involved, then we can reasonably come to terms with it. Nobody is petitioning for flippant approval of affairs.This is how I feel. If I told my gf I was going on a one on one trip with a hotel stay with a pretty girl (not likely because I'd feel strange about it, but hypothetically if this happened) and she was just like "cool, have fun" I'd stop and wonder why she doesn't care at all. I'd want her to feel strange about it. If she didn't, I'd have to stop and question if the romance was now dead.
Please stop building straw men arguments. Obviously it would be more than a no-questions-asked affair. Obviously. Nobody is saying we don't care at all. It's just that we understand that if there's a good reason for the event, and we know enough about the other person involved, then we can reasonably come to terms with it. Nobody is petitioning for flippant approval of affairs.
What I'm pushing against is the idea presented here that if you ever feel uncomfortable with this then you're crazy and your relationship is bad.
And in the case at the heart of this discussion, his gf is not okay with it. I'm open to the idea that she has some basis for feeling that way other than irrational, over the top possessiveness.
Two beds in the room.
I floated the idea to my gf that I'd be happy to get separate rooms if it makes it any easier for her... her response was
"No, that's just more money and you're going to be hanging out together anyway so there's no point".
That's fine but think about how like Erica trusts you and Lauren to be home alone all the time, so how is that really any different?
When you act like there's absolutely no one you'd trust your SO with it makes it sound like there are underlying trust issues.
Exactly.Please stop building straw men arguments. Obviously it would be more than a no-questions-asked affair. Obviously. Nobody is saying we don't care at all. It's just that we understand that if there's a good reason for the event, and we know enough about the other person involved, then we can reasonably come to terms with it. Nobody is petitioning for flippant approval of affairs.
Exactly.
The stuff about boundaries etc. doesn't make sense. If you don't trust your SO with something so innocuous, there's something deeper going on. Either you are a possessive and jealous person and might need to self-reflect on that or, if there's an actual reason to distrust your SO, well... maybe you should re-examine your relationship.
I mean unless it's a very new relationship maybe and you don't know your new SO all that well? But in an established relationship... yeah.
That's fine but think about how like Erica trusts you and Lauren to be home alone all the time, so how is that really any different?
When you act like there's absolutely no one you'd trust your SO with it makes it sound like there are underlying trust issues.
That's okay. I had a different reading of the situation, but I'm sorry if I contributed to any misunderstanding.That's a fair observation. It's true that who the person is matters.
But the idea that drew me into the discussion was basically that you should okay with it even if you don't know the person well. You trust your partner so they should be able to stay in hotels with *anyone* whether you know the person or not. That was how the argument was framed that most of my posts have been inr esponse to. Clearly DrEvil's girlfriend isn't best friends with this other girl and maybe doesn't even really know her, and quite possibly she has some reason of her own for feeling uncomfortable about it -- but anyone who sided with her was described as crazy.
...you worry about zombie virus outbreaks?
How do you all pick hair salons? Do you just kinda pick one and decide based on how it turns out or is there more to think about?
Ive always just gone wherever my sisters were currently going and it turns out okay but id like better
Are yelp reviews all supposed to have 4 stars? Cause like all the salons that came up on a google search have 4'sAs a kid I went to my mom's hair artist. In high school I had an aspiring friend who hooked me up. Since college, I've just gone to the one with the best Yelp reviews (which fortunately was also the closest one to my house, by some coincidence)
I need to find a new hairdresser too. Some of my friends go monthly but I haven't been for a year... How much do you all spends/allocate for hair salons stuff monthly?
It's a bit hard to swallow for me to go up from zero dollars... But I do want to pamper myself a bit more. Cuz why not. I work hard for the monies 💵💰💸💵 huehuehue
Are yelp reviews all supposed to have 4 stars? Cause like all the salons that came up on a google search have 4's
Last time I spent $55. I only get my hair cut quarterly but that might be different now that I'm not bleaching and dying it blue anymore. (the color was monthly upkeep)I need to find a new hairdresser too. Some of my friends go monthly but I haven't been for a year... How much do you all spends/allocate for hair salons stuff monthly?
It's a bit hard to swallow for me to go up from zero dollars... But I do want to pamper myself a bit more. Cuz why not. I work hard for the monies 💵💰💸💵 huehuehue
I figure since I want to get a new style and such I'm willing to pay more than for like monthly/bimonthly maintenance
Last time I spent $55. I only get my hair cut quarterly but that might be different now that I'm not bleaching and dying it blue anymore. (the color was monthly upkeep)
I live near pittsburghNo, I go to a five-star salon.
Uhhh whatever looks good. My hair is just past shoulders right now so whatever they can do with thatOooooh new style! Very excite!! ... What stoke are you thinking of 😄
I live near pittsburgh
Uhhh whatever looks good. My hair is just past shoulders right now so whatever they can do with that
some nice layers
How do you all pick hair salons? Do you just kinda pick one and decide based on how it turns out or is there more to think about?
Ive always just gone wherever my sisters were currently going and it turns out okay but id like better
I live near pittsburgh
Uhhh whatever looks good. My hair is just past shoulders right now so whatever they can do with that
How do you all pick hair salons? Do you just kinda pick one and decide based on how it turns out or is there more to think about?
Ive always just gone wherever my sisters were currently going and it turns out okay but id like better
*noms on beef *