lol
I'm sure you wouldn't. Actually I am sure there are people who find whacking a stick against the ground fun already.
I wasn't talking about taking it away, I was talking about if it didn't exist.
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I'm sure you wouldn't. Actually I am sure there are people who find whacking a stick against the ground fun already.
I wasn't talking about taking it away, I was talking about if it didn't exist.
*sigh*. Also not a lady here but yeah. I've gotten more comfortable discussing such things with friends. Years ago I was ashamed to admit I watch porn, now I don't give a fuck though.
Arsenic Yellow
Member
It's definitely true. If you open up to friends about these things, it gets easier and easier to talk about it.i used to be painfully shy, never talked about sex. Now, I don't give a damn and have a ton more confidence. Don't get me wrong, I still have a ton of social anxieties, but if I allow myself to feed into them, it only gets worse. Since I quit my job in September, it's been impossible to leave my apartment. Just the thought of it and I start feeling sick, my depression hasnt helped much either...working on leaving my house tonight!
The funny thing is, when I leave,I'm fine, no problems with talking to people. Though last week I went to Walmart for the first time by myself and almost broke down into tears. Walmart never used to make me this depressed!
Femmeworth
Banned
You know what is also "fun"? Meth.
Professor Beef
Banned
You know what is also "fun"? Meth.
I...what?
I think Wal-Mart has that effect on everybody
You know what is also "fun"? Meth.
Let's not lose the plot, Femme.
Prax
Member
If I said "Guys, guys! Everything in moderation~!", you know it would have been male and female inclusive because of how gendered language works. I was doing the same thing but with ladies though, for a change! xD
And I DID also mean life in general! Awkwardness an shame about yourself makes everything in life more complicated, because shame is about how you perceive others perceiving you in a negative way. People would find other things to be insecure about if it weren't for sex, I'm sure. Sex just happens to add an extra layer of physical intimacy that is more hidden, so it's easy for "shame" to pool under there.
I think theoretically, if sex/libido was not a factor, the next thing that would gather shame would be food an eating habits (and seeing how many dietary restrictions there are in different cultures in the world, that seems about right!). Suddenly there would be hatred, jealousy, and anger about how and what people ate--moreso than now!
Yeah, that's the thing! Being able to discuss things like this to friends is such a relief.
I think people would be surprised how non-judgmental others are. I think the majority of people are more worried about how others feel about them than waiting to pounce and down on other people. Sure, there are some jerks out there, but they don't need to be your friend (or maybe they need friends the most lol).
Yeah, I think you just need to find an excuse to leave (decide to try the newest Starbucks flavour~! Buy some computer paper! Grocery shop for something good to eat!) and try to change your mindset about people. People are generally are more interested in themselves than trying to judge you.
Walmart probably just magnifies the feeling of lost aimlessness, because it's so big and kind of oddly empty despite all the stuff. You go there if you don't mind wasting your time browsing or you know exactly where the thing you want is and can hit the target and leave.
If I go, I usually just go to browse.. ... The toy section.
The Anti-Monitor
Banned
You know what is also "fun"? Meth.
I don't understand why you said it as "fun"
Since losing my job I've been at home all day, too
All my friends are at college so I have nothing to do outside the house.
Prax
Member
She probably just meant that not all things that are enjoyable/offer a rush are necessarily worth trying.
It's not a great analogy, but you get the sentiment!
Arsenic Yellow
Member
Actually, I'm not worried about other people. It's just become this weird fear of leaving my house. Once I'm out, I'm fine. I think it's just overall stress from working on grad school applications.
Prax
Member
Well, I think agoraphobia/anxiety related to leaving safe places is kind of related to feeling lost in the big crazy world. xD Which is why I said the same about Walmart being huge and empty seeming. It's usually paired with some kind of social anxiety (feeling unable to get help if you need it), but that's good if you're not on that level!
Maybe the overall stress leads to feeling a lack of control. And then having to step outside in the world only compounds that feeling of being lost, which greatly razzles your feelings. But like you said, it's only some kind of irrational thought loop, because as soon as you do it, it's not such a big deal. It might be triggered every time you have to cross a perceived boundary (like from home to street and street to store). The mind is tricky like that.
I am only guessing what it must be like by relating it to how I might feel, but you'd know better than me.
Femmeworth
Banned
Yeah, it was a poor attempt to encourage critical thinking.
Because banging a stick on the ground was brought into the equation.
Yeah okay. I just meant that, I wasn't really focusing on the sexual act in itself but rather the desire to have sex in the first place. The basic drive to have sex may complicate things regardless of how experienced or confident you are.
FallingEdge
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shanshan310
Member
most of my friends are about to graduate and I've got over 2 more years left ): grass is not greener on the other side I swear!Since losing my job I've been at home all day, too
All my friends are at college so I have nothing to do outside the house.
The only solution is for me to go to college in Australia.
Prax
Member
I tried looking. Seems the sale is over.
Here's the old page: http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/a-stylish-surprise
clearacell
Member
I used to have crippling anxiety with panic attacks on a daily basis for over a year and I really felt like I was going to die the further I got away from my house...when I was training my mind to become more tolerant of crowded places and sensory overload places, one of places I chose was a wal mart...my heart was pounding from all the lights and the amount of people, I almost fell to my knees because my body felt so heavy. I made it through though, and that experience taught my stupid brain that I can make it through. Helped me become more desensitized to crowded areas and I continued to do more stuff
Bright lights, falling to your knees? Are you sure that wasn't heaven?
CLEAR DONT WALK TOWARDS THE LIGHT D:
Ahh school, the place i'm so glad i'm out of and with any luck never have to go back into ever again. Funny though that I finished school but my masters degree hasn't helped me more than my trade. If i'd had known it was gonna end up like that I wouldn't have even bothered going for more than 2 years, money I could have kept
.BladeWorker
Member
I'm trying to go back
I'm trying to go back
I'm trying to raise my GPA so I can get back into Computer Science. I'm such a horrible student and really bad at studying.
ClassyPenguin
Banned
I want to pay off my student loans before going to take on new ones for grad school. Probably an MBA program.
Seems like cake now, but you'll be paying eventually Kisaya. :O
idlethreats
Member
With 1.5 semesters left to go, this is how I am starting to feel about my law degree. I have hated law school and have an increasingly sinking feeling that being a lawyer is not the right career path for me - sort of wishing I'd never gone back to school now.Ahh school, the place i'm so glad i'm out of and with any luck never have to go back into ever again. Funny though that I finished school but my masters degree hasn't helped me more than my trade. If i'd had known it was gonna end up like that I wouldn't have even bothered going for more than 2 years, money I could have kept
got a question girl GAF about an ex (smh):
If she's still wearing a ring I got her (on her ring finger btw) what's most likely?
1. she's playing games.
2. she's oblivious to its affect on me.
3. she wants me back/never got over me.
If she's still wearing a ring I got her (on her ring finger btw) what's most likely?
1. she's playing games.
2. she's oblivious to its affect on me.
3. she wants me back/never got over me.
3. is least likely to me but friends keep telling me otherwise *shrug*
Prax
Member
School and being a student was such a huge part of my identity. I still have lots and lots of dreams about going to class late and forgetting about deadlines and not studying for tests... Even though it was stressful at times, I was pretty good at it!
As I said in the Dominic thread, I've been through a lot of schooling and it was pretty much all for nought (or mainly.. it was more an intellectual interest and not a career interest LOL).
All that psychology, anthrolpology, linguistics, and occupational therapy knowledge... (I also did a thing where I got certification to sell life insurance and mutual funds! haha).. Yet nothing I wanted to actually pursue when it came down to it.
Nothing's really a waste though, right? I'm going to try to think positive from now on..
Well, maybe it'll somehow just make me a more rounded artist. >_>
Make more.. compelling characters or something. I can only hope.
As I said in the Dominic thread, I've been through a lot of schooling and it was pretty much all for nought (or mainly.. it was more an intellectual interest and not a career interest LOL).
All that psychology, anthrolpology, linguistics, and occupational therapy knowledge... (I also did a thing where I got certification to sell life insurance and mutual funds! haha).. Yet nothing I wanted to actually pursue when it came down to it.
Nothing's really a waste though, right? I'm going to try to think positive from now on..
Well, maybe it'll somehow just make me a more rounded artist. >_>
Make more.. compelling characters or something. I can only hope.
Prax
Member
I dunno. Depends. How manipulative was she in the first place?
How are you seeing this? Does she flash it in your face when she sees you? Or did you just catch a facebook pic of it? Also, why do you care? Do you want her back or something?
Maybe the ring is just nice and she likes wearing it and that's the only finger it really fits well on. <_<
I play games quite a bit and she is just the opposite (adamant about not playing games). As far as the ring goes she never takes it off, in fact one time she lost it, told me and freaked out. Saw the ring in a picture she sent me of her and her family getting ready to attend a wedding. I care, a bit. logically it'd be much better to not care but I find myself still interested.
this is why I'm considering the option of her just being oblivious. however, she's stated in the past about how its something very special to from me when I gave it to her. even still it bothers me because the ring isn't anything special and we're not even together.
idlethreats
Member
Man, I wish that was the case for me! Law school's going to leave me about 100k in debt though, and it's been 2.5 years of cross country long distance with my partner, and that has taken a significant toll on both of us. The experience has also just been really bad for my mental health. /sigh Hopefully it will feel worthwhile once I've got a few years distance from the whole thing.
It really could be all three of the options you offered, but no. 2 seems like the likeliest contender to me. When you say the ring wasn't anything special, it makes me wonder: what was the occasion when you gave it to her (anniversary? birthday? holiday?) and how nice of a ring is it? I wore some jewelry that my ex made me for a while after we broke up (hemp necklace) but it was just because I really liked it, not out of any attachment to her. Otoh, rings tend to carry more significance culturally, depending on why you gave it to her etc. so it's not necessarily the same as the necklace I wore. /shrug How long has it been since you broke up? Could be she's still wearing it because she's used to it and slowly adapting to the change of not being in a relationship with you (ready to not be with you, but not ready to completely change everything in her life that's related to you yet).
there are many possibilities. I mean to narrow it down in the coming weeks. our future together is important to me but my concern of her is no longer my top priority. I gave it to her on her birthday and it is a promise ring (she is celibate) though the words inscribed on it directly talk about her and I. It's been a few months since the break up and I doubt she would have gotten use to it so fast since we broke up a month or two afterward.
shanshan310
Member
Ahh school, the place i'm so glad i'm out of and with any luck never have to go back into ever again. Funny though that I finished school but my masters degree hasn't helped me more than my trade. If i'd had known it was gonna end up like that I wouldn't have even bothered going for more than 2 years, money I could have kept
hm... I'm planning to do a year of honours after I finish my degree, partly because I think the research would be interesting but also because Arts with honours looks a lot better than just Arts. Kinda wondering now if its worth it.
idlethreats
Member
Oh geez, a promise ring with an inscription? That certainly makes it confusing! My first thought is that because it's a promise ring, she could just be wearing it because it serves a purpose/is a symbol of something not related to you at all, but the fact that you had it inscribed...>_< Yeah, idk, it's definitely weird and I'm not sure what to make of it.
Prax
Member
Yeah, I guess lucky to only be about 25k in debt in comparison! Luckily I never did quite get convinced to go to med school! LOL I know for sure I would have bailed out of a doctor career fast even if I did well academically.
But maybe you can graduate and do a few years as a lawyer or lawyer-y thing and get most of it paid off and then be off to do whatever you want! Life's a neverending weird adventure. Maybe you'll end up liking the field after all as long as you find a cushy niche (maybe real estate lawyer? or more immigration? family law..?).
My interpretation is that she wears the ring in a wistful reminder that someone once really cared about her (and possibly still does), enough to respect her chastity. She might even have fantasies about you two one day reconciling and you proving your undying love to her and then you can be married and live happily ever after, but..
DIDN'T YOU BREAK UP FOR A REASON THOUGH?
SPARKNOTES:
- she broke it off but was unsure of the decision.
- it was for a reason that was relevant but easily remedied with time and personal growth (both of us).
- if I get myself together and still want her I can easily rekindle said relationship.
cloudwalking
300chf ain't shit to me
Ah, all this school talk makes me a bit envious! I never took any further education after high school. I actually applied and was accepted to university, but I met my husband and was like... nah, I'm going to Switzerland instead.
I like school though and I'm sure I would have had fun going to university. I guess I could still go (wasn't really possible when I first got here, as I had to learn German), but it doesn't seem like there's much of a point. I'm so used to earning money by now I think I'll just keep working. I haven't had any trouble whatsoever finding a good job.
I like school though and I'm sure I would have had fun going to university. I guess I could still go (wasn't really possible when I first got here, as I had to learn German), but it doesn't seem like there's much of a point. I'm so used to earning money by now I think I'll just keep working. I haven't had any trouble whatsoever finding a good job.
The Anti-Monitor
Banned
Or maybe she just likes the ring.
I went to school, got my bachelor's, and now I'm out with no idea what I want to do. I wanted to go into game programming but the industry sounds like a bad place to work in and business programming is really boring. I have been out of school for almost a year and I'm still indecisive. :/
Yup yup.
Arsenic Yellow
Member
What are you studying?
I got my BA in visual arts, concentration being sculpture. I quit my job in September to work on sculpture and grad school applications but its been so hard to get anything done. My boyfriend moved up here and moved in in march, he finally got a job and will be starting nov. 5th, so hopefully that will give me more privacy to work. its always been impossible for me to work on art around others. Moved from New Orleans to Boston in February to be near where I wanted to go to school.
The sale is very limited quantities so it sold out about 12 hours after my post
. Sorry. Next time they do it, I'll make sure to post way in advance. It had started Monday and I didn't find out about it until Wednesday around 2am. Apparently they do it for shoes, accessories (which are $5) and apartment stuff. I missed out on everything but apparel.This is kind of the feeling I'm getting from my major. I'm just approaching the halfway point and I feel like International Affairs isn't what I want to do, but on the other hand it's such a broad subject that I feel like I want to finish it and get my diploma before moving on to something else.
I'm in my second year of school right now. My college is a bit weird though. They make us go into an associates degree and then readmit if we wanna continue for our bachelors. Right now I'm studying Advertising and Marketing Communications, and when I get my A.A.S. after the spring I'm planning on going for a B.S. in Visual Arts Management or just continue with AMC and get a B.S. in that :B Not sure what I'm going to do yet.
Don't be like me you can do it, and by do it actually make use of your degree unlike me
. If law is something you especially think you'll like doing I wouldn't back out for that reason either.Yes it does.
I would say go for it, but after what happened to me I don't think i'm in a position to give out advice :/.
I got through school on my wrestling scholarship, my moms wouldn't give me the info to get Financial aid anyway. I did make a mistake though, I took a semester off to help take care of my kids and I had to pay back the school back for being on scholarship and taking time off
. Wish someone would have told me that ahead of time before I did that, but yeah fucked up a big one on that.Similar threads
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