I agree with everything you say here.
Great. I appreciate that!
Hopefully then my perspective becomes more clear, although not necessarily more pleasant.
Given the choice between a winning Democratic Party that pretends the moral failing of voting for Donald Trump was no big deal, and a losing Democratic Party that is willing to assert the moral imperative to oppose white supremacy and sexual assault, I will take the latter.
This may seem crazy, but from my perspective, the government may not believe my family has rights, but at least half of America still does. I prefer that to a world where both major parties are willing to endorse and silently accept white supremacy, because in that world it will simply be unchecked. People tend to follow the societal leaders. I want at least a few societal leaders to be focused on making sure I'm still allowed to live in America.
Obviously I would vastly prefer a winning Democratic Party that asserts the moral imperative but also gives everybody Medicare. That's clearly just better. I'm just not convinced that the people who made such a moral choice will somehow gain moral character when we give them free healthcare.