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[Quixzlizx]

My freshman year, there was one guy on our floor who was a stick-in-the-mud. He wasn't even in the room next to me or across from me, and he'd do stuff like come over to my room at 9 PM to ask me to turn my speakers down or close my door (one time I was playing Balloon Fight on an emulator, so it's not like I was blasting death metal or anything). I also lived right next to the floor's RA, so it's not like I would've been able to act like a shithead without anyone noticing.

Our floor was full of late-night loudmouths. Not jerks, but just rowdy people. This guy ended up moving to a quieter floor within a couple months. If it's just that one group of people who are being inconsiderate, then you shouldn't have to run away from them, but if everyone around you acts a certain way that's incompatible with you, you may be in for a tough semester. In my case, when I really needed to get some studying done late at night, I'd just relocate to a lounge on one of the floors where everyone was quiet and/or asleep by 10 PM

 

[Enter The 36 Chambers]

What the hell is st pattys Day?

Wannabe Irish Americans can at the very least get the shit right.

Paddy's day. Not patty

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

Be sure to tell this story to the next girl you try to pick up.

 

[cashman]

Ruining a party at 2 AM on a Saturday Night? During Spring Break? On St. Patricks day weekend? Pretty disgusting behavior by the OP imo.

 

[jonno394]

Ruining a party at 2 AM on a Saturday Night? During Spring Break? On St. Patricks day weekend? Pretty disgusting behavior by the OP imo.

Ruining someones sleep, when they're trying to sleep, when they have the right to sleep. Pretty disgusting behaviour by the students.

 

[Dragon]

What the hell is st pattys Day?

Wannabe Irish Americans can at the very least get the shit right.

Paddy's day. Not patty

This seems like something to be upset about .

 

[GremlinFool]

Ruining someones sleep, when they're trying to sleep, when they have the right to sleep. Pretty disgusting behaviour by the students.

And then we have these same posters question the high heavens why they've never kissed a girl or have trouble socializing.

Threads like these truly remind me about the composition of posters on GAF.

On topic note: you could not have been more in the wrong with this situation, OP.

 

[jonno394]

And then we have these same posters question the high heavens why they've never kissed a girl or have trouble socializing.

Threads like these truly remind me about the composition of posters on GAF.

Jumping to conclusions there a bit aren't you? I've kissed plenty, but I know if I was trying to sleep and people were playing loud, obnxoious music then i'd do something about it. Doesn't matter if it's ST Patricks day or not.

What OP really should've done is let them have their fun, then when they're trying to sleep turn your music on exceptionally loud, taste of their own medicine

 

[Orayn]

To those who think 2:00 AM is an unreasonable time to be trying to get to sleep: What should OP have done? Waited until 3:00? 4:00? 5:00? Just pulled an all nighter because BROS GOTTA HAVE FUN AMIRITE?

Fuck that. Going to the room and asking them to keep it down might have lead to a nice compromise where they get their party and OP gets sleep, or it could have exacerbated the situation. Either way, OP's needs win out. Having a loud party in the middle of the night is not a sacred right or a necessary biological function. In a dorm, there is a certain expectation of being able to do the things that a normal person needs to operate as a normal human being. Would you guys be calling OP a snitch, spoilsport, etc. if dudes were throwing a wild party in the cafeteria that made it incredibly difficult for anyone to get dinner, since people could just go eat somewhere else? (Not a perfect analogy since that's easier than going somewhere else to sleep.)

Socializing important, but not so important that it takes precedence over absolutely everything else.

 

[BlackJace]

It's such a fucking selfish opinion to say that OP shouldn't have done anything. Come on, partying is great, but not at the expense of disturbing other people (who have spent damn near a fortune on housing, I'd bet).

Writing OP off as a whiny, bitchmade asocial dude is disgusting too.

If we're gonna get mad at anyone, get mad at the RA; calling the cops is something I found excessive as well, but there was nothing wrong with OP speaking up.

 

[GremlinFool]

It's such a fucking selfish opinion to say that OP shouldn't have done anything. Come on, partying is great, but not at the expense of disturbing other people (who have spent damn near a fortune on housing, I'd bet).

Writing OP off as a whiny, bitchmade asocial dude is disgusting too.

If we're gonna get mad at anyone, get mad at the RA; calling the cops is something I found excessive as well, but there was nothing wrong with OP speaking up.

The OP was the first to make the passive aggressive and overly excessive move of going directly to the RA rather than actually asking the host of the party to settle things down a bit. Avoiding confrontation and then inquiring a video gaming forum whether or not he can continue to avoid confrontation in a tussle he instigated is quite possibly the quintessence of bitchmade.

 

[Esch]

Lol. These threads are always a great reminder of how many unsocialized people visit gaming forums.

OP should have had the common courtesy to walk over and politely ask them to keep it down a little. If they didnt do so, then you can have a talk with your RA. Its a Saturday night, Saint Patricks Day and Spring Break for a lot of people.

 

[RangerX]

It seems that St. Patrick's Day in the US is just an excuse to party. They most likely don't care about whatever Irish ancestry they have any other day.

I'm Irish and it is exactly the same here. Its a holiday to get absoloutly shit faced and to draw tourists in. No one gives a shit where the holiday actually comes from or the history behind it. I'll be absoloutly pissed by 2.00pm tomorrow if all goes well.

 

[AlexMogil]

The OP was the first to make the passive aggressive and overly excessive move of going directly to the RA rather than actually asking the host of the party to settle things down a bit. Avoiding confrontation and then inquiring a video gaming forum whether or not he can continue to avoid confrontation in a tussle he instigated is quite possibly the quintessence of bitchmade.

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[hodgy100]

I don't blame OP. people being noisy while trying to sleep is a massive hate of mine. I'm not a party pooper i Used to go out fairly often with my dorm and would happily put up with being woken up when they got in from a night out i didnt go on. but when it got to being noisy for hours on end ( once they were noisy from 2am to 5 am and I had an exam next day) needless to say, I was pissed. But if you say something you get ripped into for it. So glad I'm out of dorms and in a student house now.

 

[Enter The 36 Chambers]

During the week, absolutely I could agree with op taking action. It's completely fair to keep the noise down when people are getting up for class.

That action should be knocking in and saying hey I'm trying to sleep, keep it down. Cool. All sorted.

But not even knocking in, on a Saturday and even calling the RA just seems like some no fun allowed shit.

And I understand if op was in work early, I worked all through college.

But don't tell on them like a 12 year old, knock on the door and tell them to keep it down cause you have work or whatever. If they don't well then calling the RA is reasonable I guess.

If you weren't up for work or anything important well then you deserved to be kept up for not joining them..

 

[Tzeentch]

The OP was the first to make the passive aggressive and overly excessive move of going directly to the RA rather than actually asking the host of the party to settle things down a bit. Avoiding confrontation and then inquiring a video gaming forum whether or not he can continue to avoid confrontation in a tussle he instigated is quite possibly the quintessence of bitchmade.

-- Uh. If the RA's had been doing their job the OP wouldn't have had to call in the first place. The dorms are not a frat house and if other people are breaking the (rather simple) rules and being communal jackasses you're under no obligation to try to deal with drunken idiots.

 

[BlackJace]

The OP was the first to make the passive aggressive and overly excessive move of going directly to the RA rather than actually asking the host of the party to settle things down a bit. Avoiding confrontation and then inquiring a video gaming forum whether or not he can continue to avoid confrontation in a tussle he instigated is quite possibly the quintessence of bitchmade.

What's the point of the RA if not to go to them about a concern? Y'all can't just be throwing out these "unwritten rules" without knowing how people have been brought up. I remember housing instructions as well, "Hey, come to an RA if you guys ever have any problems!". I never had to, but I wouldn't have been afraid to out of fear of being called bitchmade lol.

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[Bulbo Urethral Baggins]

The OP was the first to make the passive aggressive and overly excessive move of going directly to the RA rather than actually asking the host of the party to settle things down a bit. Avoiding confrontation and then inquiring a video gaming forum whether or not he can continue to avoid confrontation in a tussle he instigated is quite possibly the quintessence of bitchmade.

Best post I've seen in a while here. Nothing but the truth.

 

[GremlinFool]

-- Uh. If the RA's had been doing their job the OP wouldn't have had to call in the first place. The dorms are not a frat house and if other people are breaking the (rather simple) rules and being communal jackasses you're under no obligation to try to deal with drunken idiots.

Sometimes, you do things you're "under no obligation" to do and behave as a normal college-aged student ought to. Clearly, the OP wasn't under any obligation to do anything in this situation. Set before him were a selection of choices he could've made in reacting to the situation. He happened upon the worst possible alternative, and he's going to face the consequences. This may mean ostracization and the destruction of any goodwill he may have had amongst his floormates. It's part and parcel of being an adult.

This thread was about assessing the OP's decision. I'm presenting the socially acceptable course of action in situations of this sort, not speaking about obligation.

 

[Esch]

Writing OP off as a whiny, bitchmade asocial dude is disgusting too

-lives in an engineering dorm
-avoided a minor personal confrontation
-thinks people partying at 2 on a Saturday is unreasonable
-username translates to "nerd glasses" in english from japanese(lol)

Now why would we ever think that?

 

[hodgy100]

Best post I've seen in a while here. Nothing but the truth.

thats bullshit, the likelyhood they would actually quet down is slim. you turn up to the door of a party where people have been drinking and say "can you calm down, im trying to sleep" and you will get laughed at.

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

People are acting like he broke up a Dave Chappelle after party or something. It was at most a few people drinking and being loud in a dorm room. You shouldn't have to be asked to keep it down at 2 am on a Sunday, you should have enough common sense to do it yourself. If you can't break the rules and keep it on the low, that's on you.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

-lives in an engineering dorm
-avoided a minor personal confrontation
-thinks people partying at 2 on a Saturday is unreasonable
-username translates to "nerd glasses" in english from japanese(lol)

Now why would we ever think that?

It's just a coincidence man. But seriously, would people partying at 2am in the dorms really listen to OP?

 

[bjb]

I think anyone that would ruin a party is an emotionally stunted male.

 

[PhoenixDawn]

Sometimes, you do things you're "under no obligation" to do and behave as a normal college-aged student ought to. Clearly, the OP wasn't under any obligation to do anything in this situation. Set before him were a selection of choices he could've made in reacting to the situation. He happened upon the worst possible alternative, and he's going to face the consequences. This may mean ostracization and the destruction of any goodwill he may have had amongst his floormates. It's part and parcel of being an adult.

This thread was about assessing the OP's decision. I'm presenting the socially acceptable course of action in situations of this sort, not speaking about obligation.

Never mind the fact that OP could have had to go to work at 6AM the next day or had a big interview, or a number of other things. Guess he should just let his sleep schedule get fucked up by a bunch of rowdy people creating more noise than they have to despite signing a contract saying that they wouldn't. I'm not saying the police should have been called, but that's on the RA fucking up and not OP.

 

[terrdactycalsrock]

this is one of the many reasons why I decide not to live in dorms

 

[Zacxx201]

thats bullshit, the likelyhood they would actually quet down is slim. you turn up to the door of a party where people have been drinking and say "can you calm down, im trying to sleep" and you will get laughed at.

You've been watching too many American Pie movies.

 

[Ravensmash]

Lol. These threads are always a great reminder of how many unsocialized people visit gaming forums.

OP should have had the common courtesy to walk over and politely ask them to keep it down a little. If they didnt do so, then you can have a talk with your RA. Its a Saturday night, Saint Patricks Day and Spring Break for a lot of people.

Not everyone wants to try and talk with drunken people at 2am in the morning. Has nothing to do with not being sociable.

Now don't get me wrong, a bit of noise at 2am on a saturday night wouldn't really bother me, but part of growing up is realising that not everyone shares your idea of fun, and learning how to strike a decent balance with the people around you.

Tbh, not realising that 2am is a time where you should try and be more respectful of those around you is more telling about social skills than getting annoyed at it...

 

[Carcetti]

One of my neighbors is a student who likes loud techno so good for you OP. May these party people burn in hell.

Also, partying is not a human right - it's revokable privilege - unlike some whiners here seem to imply.

 

[Bulbo Urethral Baggins]

thats bullshit, the likelyhood they would actually quet down is slim. you turn up to the door of a party where people have been drinking and say "can you calm down, im trying to sleep" and you will get laughed at.

The rule of all mankind is that you have to make at least one effort. You don't immediately run to authority.

 

[hodgy100]

You've been watching too many American Pie movies.

no? it happened to me. had an exam the next day too, repeatedly got called out for complaining about noise for the rest of the year :/

 

[Orayn]

I think anyone that would ruin a party is an emotionally stunted male.

I think anyone who would say this as a completely unconditional statement is callous and insecure.

 

[Kinyou]

It's just a coincidence man. But seriously, would people partying at 2am in the dorms really listen to OP?

Going by the reactions in this thread they'd be confused as hell about why someone might want to sleep at 2am

 

[Sorian]

There is an interesting dichotomy going on between the posters of this thread. I'm enjoying it.

 

[QP3]

Dick move. Saturday night in college? That's drinking time

If it was like 8-12 then yes I would agree. At that point, if you want to party then go to a frat or bar if you are of age.

 

[BlackJace]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

 

[Esch]

Not everyone wants to try and talk with drunken people at 2am in the morning. Has nothing to do with not being sociable.

Now don't get me wrong, a bit of noise at 2am on a saturday night wouldn't really bother me, but part of growing up is realising that not everyone shares your idea of fun, and learning how to strike a decent balance with the people around you.

Tbh, not realising that 2am is a time where you should try and be more respectful of those around you is more telling about social skills than getting annoyed at it...

Its college. 2 am on a weekend (hell even a weekday) is a time when tons of people are still awake doing various things. As far as not wanting to talk with drunken people... Who cares? It's not a problem most of the time if you approach them level headed and politely. Theyre not hammered bikers, they're a bunch of engineering students blowing off steam over the weekend ffs. And if they're not? Yeah, call the RA.

 

[Zacxx201]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

Asking people to keep it down and getting your ass kicked? I take it back, you're the one that has been watching too many American Pie movies. If you lay a hand on someone on campus you run the risk of losing everything. There's absolutely no chance that would have happened. Do you live every day in fear like this?

 

[GremlinFool]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

What an absurd hypothetical.

 

[Escape Goat]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

1) What? This is an engineering dorm.

2) No.

 

[xxracerxx]

Oh hell it was St.Patricks weekend wasn't it.

That might be my bad then. I don't really celebrate it.

Are you avoiding the guys now?

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

The hell is this? Are you afraid of getting your ass beat by everyone you talk to?

 

[Sorian]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

BlackJace pls. It's a college dorm, what makes you think they are serving out ass kickings at the door.

Edit: And also, no. As someone who was actually an RA, we were all taught to tell residents that they should make an attempt to solve their own problems before coming to us. We can help but college is meant to teach you how to interact with others. Your parents were there to baby you, not us.

 

[Courage]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

What kind of dorm parties have you been going to?

 

[ivysaur12]

Also, let's say OP took some of the advice and this thread and went to the partygoers telling them to it down a bit. Had he'd gotten his ass potentially beat, don't you think the RA/authority figures would've been all like "Well why didn't you come speak to the RAs first?"

There's no way that would've happened.

The OP should've talked to them first if it really was that much of an issue. Going to an RA first is pretty silly.

 

[Y2Kev]

I was an RA. We had campus police though. We'd never call the real police unless there was a major issue. We also had an anonymous phone line for people to call things in. We also had to do rounds when we were on duty 2x a night...

I only busted one party in my two years as an RA. There was pot involved, and I wouldn't care, but they refused to answer the door even though I know they heard me. Gave them like five chances. Then I called the campus police. Fuck with me YOU GET THE LAW etc

My neighbor used to have a subwoofer and it was awful. I don't understand why someone would need one of those in a 100 square foot room at all.

 

[Tzeentch]

Sometimes, you do things you're "under no obligation" to do and behave as a normal college-aged student ought to.

-- I have to seriously question if you've ever lived in a dorm.

This may mean ostracization and the destruction of any goodwill he may have had amongst his floormates.

-- LMAO. Who cares? I sincerely hope the OP hangs out with more people than one room of drunks.

This thread was about assessing the OP's decision. I'm presenting the socially acceptable course of action in situations of this sort, not speaking about obligation.

-- It's socially acceptable to do the recommended dorm conflict resolution step of calling the RAs to a problem.

 

[Coppanuva]

no? it happened to me. had an exam the next day too, repeatedly got called out for complaining about noise for the rest of the year :/

Same experience here.

 

[Ravensmash]

Its college. 2 am on a weekend (hell even a weekday) is a time when tons of people are still awake doing various things. As far as not wanting to talk with drunken people... Who cares? It's not a problem most of the time if you approach them level headed and politely. Theyre not hammered bikers, they're a bunch of engineering students blowing off steam over the weekend ffs. And if they're not? Yeah, call the RA.

2am is also a time where tons of people want to sleep too.

You can have your fun but it doesn't have to impact other people. You can still get drunk, party while being mindful that you're living around others.

Yeah it is mostly harmless fun, but not realising that you might be impacting others is pretty dickish in itself.

 

[big ander]

2am on a saturday, st. paddy's weekend, you called in a noise complaint? that's weak dude. Others have already hit my main reasons it's so weak, but I'm also thinking on a logistical level: I went to a super nerdy school and quiet hours on Friday and Saturday began at 1am. Also, every dorm party I ever went to people really cleared out around 3, maybe 4 at the latest. So if it was 2, they'd only been doing anything "wrong" for an hour. and probably would have been partying for 90 minutes more at the most. If you really really had something you needed to sleep for tomorrow, you could've tried talking to them. or you could've ignored it completely and put on headphones and knocked out. instead you went to RAs and got their party busted and stayed up past when you would have fallen asleep anyway. Even from a "rules are rules" standpoint it makes so little sense for everyone involved.


also lol at the crowd talking about how those in the dorms deserve quiet, and if they wanted to party they should've gone somewhere else, and only lame people partied at the dorms anyway-- for first year you really only know other first years at the outset, so you party in the dorms and gradually as college goes on you go to more and more off-campus parties. that's how it works. This was a fresh/soph dorm so there are going to be parties. And while the rules may say residents should be quiet at 1 and all, agreeing to live in a dorm is implicitly agreeing to putting up with a little partying. If you can't deal with that small amount of inconvenience you're going to be living in the dorms all 4 years because no one will want to move off-campus with you