I had been under the impression the entire time that this was campus police force and not the city police force. Please tell me that wasn't wrong.
I called in a party to the RA, police showed up
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I had been under the impression the entire time that this was campus police force and not the city police force. Please tell me that wasn't wrong.
what the fuck
dream
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They're engineering students, man. The only they they'd beat is their cocks.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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I have to admit, it's hard for me to be sympathetic with the "partier" side in this case because we actually had places to go to drink and be loud when I lived in the dorms, and if we were drinking in the dorms we didn't bother anyone else.
laughed at != getting your ass beat, I agree that that wouldnt happen, but as ive said repeatedly, I was laughed at when I asked a group of people to turn it down so I could sleep, so don't just laugh it off as something that doesn't happen...
Sho_Nuff82
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lol Off-Topic is littered with stories of people getting violent for less nowadays, come on now. Nevermind that half these guys are drunk.
And to Zacxx201 specifically, it's not even about "living in fear everyday", I'm not sure why this is being turned into a lack of bravado or something.
Lots of people are not good at having the, "Can you please turn that down?" conversation even if it seems extremely basic. And the RA is basically there so they don't have to if they don't want to. I don't really blame the OP for not doing that. The RAs live on the floors for this reason.
I had to deal with a lot of this as an RA. There were times I wish an individual would have just handled it but it is an awkward conversation so I don't think it is a big deal.
I had to deal with a lot of this as an RA. There were times I wish an individual would have just handled it but it is an awkward conversation so I don't think it is a big deal.
Off-topic isn't a good barometer of people getting violent at parties. Most people, even when drunk, are sensible enough to not engage in a fistfight.
People get loud when they party and drink. It happens. I guess I just think that warning someone for their inconsiderate behavior and then going to options with more dire consequences is more reasonable than going right to something that will get them in trouble, I guess.
Sounds like "living in fear" to me.
Off-topic may be littered with it but remember off-topic is just cherry-picking interesting news bits. Nevermind the millions everyday who live a hum-ho life. Regardless, as I said, the RAs tell you to try and deal with your own problems first before going to them.
Bulbo Urethral Baggins
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Would you have called the police?
Did you ever?
I find it a little hard to believe that there isn't some dive bar near most college towns. Or, at least off-campus housing where students threw parties that weren't in a dorm. Even as a freshman when everyone was in dorms, we didn't really have dorm parties as much as used dorms to gather people before we went out. Then again, we had a very active fraternity scene, so partying in dorms was not that common.
Either way, the OP still should've knocked first and asked them to keep it down.
Freaky Fred
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That's why you say something like "hey I can hear you guys next door and there are RA's walking around the halls tonight, you might wanna turn down the music" instead of actually complaining and sounding like a wuss.
I said in my prior post that I had, yes. Just once.
If they answered the door and said ok we'll be quiet....then no, I'd not have called the cops.
What kind of argument tactic is this? I don't see how you can come to this position without even knowing the slightest bit about me, come on.
Head of Vengarl
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I get that college is for learning, but it's also for socializing especially in the dorms. It was a lot of fun and I met many friends when my roommates and I threw parties in our dorm. I also know what it's like to be on the other side, since of course other people threw loud parties in their dorm rooms from time to time. But nobody likes a party pooper. Just deal with it and let people have their fun. Put on some music or a TV show to help drown out the noise. You have the rest of your life to be the cranky neighbor that ruins everyone else's fun don't be that guy while you're in college.
I always preferred them to go ask these people to turn it down, because nine times out of ten, most kids would turn down their music because most people do have a sense of empathy and there's maybe a mutual level of respect there that's fostered if it's handled correctly.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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Or he could get a house
With the salary from his engineering work
Because he got sleep instead of worrying about sounding like a wuss on sacred Saint Patrick's Eve
I did twice. Both were because of smell of weed through the door. Drugs were always a call campus police and let them deal with it issue. I would have rather just let it be but dorms are stuffy and that smell is going to be obvious to anyone else coming through including my boss or other RAs and I'm not going to try to deal with it directly because it would have been too easy to implicate me somehow if I went about it incorrectly and I'm not losing my free housing just because one of my residents didn't know how to crack and window and turn on an air purifier.
Well your argument tactic involved the creation of a ridiculous hypothetical situation none of us could address, so...
Laieon
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To be fair, if you're trying to go to sleep at 2am, adding more noise to an environment that is apparently preventing you from falling to sleep doesn't make much sense.
Haha do you really think the sensationalist news stories posted to OT are an accurate reflection of day-to-day life? dude. that's just straight up out of touch. you realized how skewed that is, yeah? OT threads like that are reposts of news stories, which both focus on sensationalist stuff because it gets more attention. people don't post a thread every time they have a mundane or genial encounter with another human being but don't fret, they happen. Do you walk the streets and just see people beating each other up in alleys constantly, They Live-style?
Also alcohol does not make you a rabid dog. It impairs, yeah. doesn't turn everyone in to Hyde.
My UK halls, were pretty different, there wasnt anyone monitoring them at night, so best I could so was "I have an exam tomorrow, mind keeping it down?". probably shouldve reported it but it was just easier to keep my head down and get on with things
You are using the OT as a reference point into what has a very low low low chance of happening if he had knocked on the door and asked them to be quiet. If you take everything said on OT as if it will happen to you, that is what I mean by "living in fear." I am not saying anything about you personally.
PeskyToaster
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Part of being an adult is learning that actions have consequences. These kids have now been educated. I side with the OP on this one. THey have a right to part, he has a right to report them and come what may.
So many times I wanted to bang one of my residents (and had the opportunity) but never went through with it. Something something conflict of interest or something, bah should have went for it.
GremlinFool
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And OP will face the consequence of continued failure to integrate with his floormates.
WhereAreMahDragonz
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Yep. Partying is fine, just be aware that there might be consequences for your actions.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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I don't want anyone to rip apart, that sounds painful.
I feel like your "come what may" stance wouldn't be so hardline if these people now decided to make the rest of OP's year a living hell.
No they haven't. They've been educated that whoever reported them is a party pooper. This incident won't affect any future parties.
Jesus fucking christ, so there is a direct correlate between a noise complaint and not kissing girls? Been some time that i heared something that stupid.
Not asking them to be more quiet first was not okay by the OP. But that he actually wanted to sleep is. Be it friday, saturday or any other day.
This too-- I actually did a couple times have RAs or neighbors tell my friends and I to quiet down when we were hanging out before heading off-campus or something. Didn't beat anyone up. Just said sorry, we'll be on our way soon, let us know if we're too loud again and we'll make sure the music stays quieter. Dealing with other people in a way where everyone makes good isn't as hard as a bunch of people here are making it out to be
Not if you have headphones on. Even most earbuds would drown out a good chunk of background noise. Though honestly I may be biased here, I fall asleep with headphones on most nights.
Enter The 36 Chambers
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Do Ra's get paid?
It's a college dorm not your work place
FantasticMrFoxdie
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Yeah I agree. Neighborly thing to do would have atleast go over and ask them to keep it down.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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I think RAs get free housing and a small stipend.
I believe usually they live in the dorms for free and get free meals as well.
-- If they continue to have loud parties and continue to get RA's showing up at their door maybe, at some point, the correlation will dawn on them.
Laieon
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They didn't technically get paid at my University, but they got free room and board (with no room mate). In the end that was worth more than the minimum wage they probably would've gotten paid otherwise.
Um, when you are an RA, it is kind of your work place.
Yeah, mine was a super pathetic amount of $40 every two weeks ($150 my last year when I became a senior RA) but then your meal plan and housing is all on the house.
For most, they don't have to pay their housing and maybe get a stipend, though that might vary.
I got half off on my housing because I was the head of this living/learning hippie bullshit residential college thingymajic where I lived with the freshman as a sophomore but didn't have any judicial authority an RA might have. Which was great! Until they came to me with all their partying problems first because I couldn't get them in trouble.
Did you see the part where it's illegal to be underage with booze in the dorm? Did you see the part where the cops came? Do you think op getting busted for booze on campus is the better outcome?
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