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[Leatherface]

Sorry to hear about your situation OP. I will tell you that I've been in the exact same boat and I know what it feels like. I promise it will absolutely get better and you will most likely end up meeting someone amazing and more deserving of your companionship.

Another bit of advice that's not as common but extremely important is to keep in mind that there is some personal reflection that needs to be done now. You may not be the "cheater", but I'm sure you weren't perfect either, because after all, you are only human. Take this opportunity to learn from your personal mistakes and use the experience to grow into an even better man then next time around. If you can learn and grow from these lessons, you will not only be wiser, but far happier in the long run. Good luck bud. Stay focused, keep yourself busy and work on getting happy again. It will come.

 

[Instigator]

We ended up sleeping together on Sat night.

I meant it as a joke, there was no need to follow that advice.

 

[Octavion Rex]

Good luck, hope all this can continue to be figured out in a civil manner like it has been. Stay strong

 

[Lazyslob]

I'm not, I'm basically saying I'll give her another chance if she goes away and comes back good enough. I promise you that.

Still, can't say I think even THAT is a good idea, but what do I know? Just hope everything works out for ya.

 

[kwiklot]

I'm a jr member so I know some of what I say will get looked over but you slept with her bad idea but it happens especially if she's still in the house. She realizes what she did is wrong great but your trust is gone at least for now, if she leaves then you will be left with some lonely nights and I'm sure no doubt that feeling of wanting to call and work it out don't it's a pipe dream, you not having kids with her makes it easier you also asked her to leave probably better your in the drivers seat who knows what would have happened if the relationship had continued behind your back, this is going to suck and rightfully so you are losing a time in your life where you spent living life thinking you were with your partner for life so it is with a tempered heart that you will face relationships or women for that matter. You will always wonder what's going on if you let her stay and well time isn't cheap as you know so why waste it worrying?
Go be strong like oak and hey if you don't like whiskey well pour rum or tequila on yourself but don't waste time worrying about people that don't matter even if our nature makes us want to.

This has to be old for this thread but.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J1eAfpekWgQ

 

[MVP]

The message talks about how much he loves her. How he's looking forward to the new year, and the new life they're going to start together.

...

It's only been going on for a couple of months

I know for 100% fact she didn't sleep with the guy. Believe it or not, I know it for reasons too complicated to explain.

Don't want to sound like an asshole, and I'm sorry this happened, but there is absolutely no chance she didn't already sleep with him. None. Sorry. Move forward assuming that she slept with him because she did. Otherwise, you will eventually justify getting back with her as you're already doing.

I am still curious to hear how you "know" she didn't, though.

 

[akira28]

Good luck OP. I hope you can come up with a better answer than I did for "how will I know if she's really changed for the better?"

 

[iShouldGoPro]

How has she been cheating on you if she supposedly didn't fuck this dude

Did we find out if this post was a joke or not?

But to the OP, I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I hope things turn out for the best.

 

[gatti-man]

Don't want to sound like an asshole, and I'm sorry this happened, but there is absolutely no chance she didn't already sleep with him. None. Sorry. Move forward assuming that she slept with him because she did. Otherwise, you will eventually justify getting back with her as you're already doing.

I am still curious to hear how you "know" she didn't, though.

Yeah the only thing I could think is that they each have an std or something. Not suggesting it op just that it's kind of impossible to just know someone hasn't had sex.