TheBaronOfNA
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He is stating something reasonable... try to shut down unwanted advances instead of just letting the snowball roll into pile of overblown shit.
"She didn't told me to stop!" "She was asking for it."
He is stating something reasonable... try to shut down unwanted advances instead of just letting the snowball roll into pile of overblown shit.
I really don't think we'll reach a point in society where casually suggesting to lick an acquaintance's genitals will be acceptable.
The utter lack of reciprocation was her 'shutting them down'. Is that really not crystal clear?
I don't want to cast aspersions but it seems like some sort of lessons on basic human interaction would be beneficial to many people within this community.
The utter lack of reciprocation was her 'shutting them down'. Is that really not crystal clear?
I don't want to cast aspersions but it seems like some sort of lessons on basic human interaction would be beneficial to many people within this community.
I *think* what Jaffe's trying to say - read his whole timeline - is that the harassment is disgusting, but the immediate response of Twitter and forums is to go full on torches and pitchforks, and a more measured response is better. He's tried to bring up some possible reasons why this *might* not have been as awful as it probably is.
That said, he's doing it on Twitter and you know how he is....can be combative. So maybe a call to chill out and get all the facts isn't coming across very well.
i don't think i can handle this all this god tier trolling
Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
Huh? There are a lot of people out there that are fine with such blunt advances.
This is the same guy - right? This guy is a world class fucking creeper.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vvcQs2wsn4
Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
What Mattingly did was wrong, but the woman should have just told him to stop. Jaffe's twitter is getting spammed by people who think he is a disgusting pig for just trying bring up a point.
You had the opportunity to make an intelligent, meaningful contribution to this discussion and chose to instead make a joke post. Congrats to you, sir. I'm still going to reply to it, anyway (and yes, I'm going to use gross exaggerations to get my point across). At one point in history, society had evolved to a point were treating black people like cattle was considered perfectly fine. At one point in history, society had evolved to a point where just one accusation could get you burned for witchcraft. You see what I'm getting at?
Tell us more about how women should react when being sexually harassedOh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
What Mattingly did was wrong, but the woman should have just told him to stop. Jaffe's twitter is getting spammed by people who think he is a disgusting pig for just trying bring up a point.
Jake Rodkin's misunderstood The Thing metaphor makes all the more sense today. ;_;
Isn't Jaffe just saying that there is/was a better way to get this out to people than blasting it on a public forum like Twitter? Like, the authorities? Wouldn't that be a better approach? Like it or not, sexual harassment is a criminal offense. That should've been the first step.
Either way dude's (the scumbag, not Jaffe. Jaffe's decent enough.) a scumbag but it's whatever I guess.
Yeah cause that's such an incredibly easy thing to do when you're trying to maintain a working professional relation, right? You sure showed those assholes!Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
What Mattingly did was wrong, but the woman should have just told him to stop. Jaffe's twitter is getting spammed by people who think he is a disgusting pig for just trying bring up a point.
So much bullshit. Dude is just a straight POS. No excuse for what he said in a work related discussion.I am mortified by my behavior as it was not only completely inappropriate, but it was fueled by alcohol and depression. My younger brother committed suicide last year and ever since then I havent been myself. A tragedy like that is something I hope no one has to endure. Even though Im aware that alcoholism runs in my family, I have been using it to cope with the pain that I feel every day. Its compounded my depression and clearly clouded my common sense and dignity.
Contrary to what I drunkenly typed,
He is stating something reasonable... try to shut down unwanted advances instead of just letting the snowball roll into pile of overblown shit.
"She didn't told me to stop!" "She was asking for it."
You ain't kidding. I don't know whether to mock or offer counselling.It's not crystal clear. There are people who will continue to project their inability to follow social cues as a failure on behalf of the other person.
If she wasn't, she'd confront you and shut you down. Get yo' flirt on. Try comparing her clit to a punching bag, I've heard that goes down well, if you'll pardon the pun.She's not responding to my numerous sexual advances = she's totes into it. Right?
Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
What Mattingly did was wrong, but the woman should have just told him to stop. Jaffe's twitter is getting spammed by people who think he is a disgusting pig for just trying bring up a point.
Right, it's all her fault. Standards for her, but none for what he actually did. But as you said, you'll eventually evolve away from your anachronistic attitude.
No, that's literally what Harlequin is arguing.
Ok, let's look at the comments for what they are, then.
Are they sexual? Yuppers.
Are they unprovoked? Yup, came out of the blue from what was supposed to be a professional conversation.
Are they unreciprocated? Seems like she kept trying to get back to the topic at hand, yup.
Did he persist in escalating the comments despite the lack of reciprocation? Well, yes.
What would you consider it, then? Harmless flirting? Should she just 'deal with it'? 'It was just a joke'?
Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
What Mattingly did was wrong, but the woman should have just told him to stop. Jaffe's twitter is getting spammed by people who think he is a disgusting pig for just trying bring up a point.
Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
why do you keep saying this like it makes this situation any betterHuh? There are a lot of people out there that are fine with such blunt advances.
Yeah social justice warriors are blowing blatant sexual harassment that is an epidemic in this industry way out of proportion on this one.
And it's best not to assume approval when your advances are met with stony silence and asking if you're drunk.
Oh man. When did the games industry get so filled with social justice assholes?
What the hell is he even saying...
some people like kinky bdsm play. no reason why I should try to flog a chick at the office, she might be into it after all.why do you keep saying this like it makes this situation any better
like do you say that for other things? if someone says they were assaulted do you say some people are okay with being hit?
No its really not. "You just should have known" is better in theory than in practice. If she wanted to be crystal clear she could tell him to fuck off. Or stop the conversation entirely right there.The utter lack of reciprocation was her 'shutting them down'. Is that really not crystal clear?
I guess I'm just not as sensitive when it comes to sex or sexually explicit texts as a lot of other people here seem to be. But then I've been to my fair share of gay dating sites where most guys greet each other with a photo of their genitals so that might have something to do with it. I just don't think such a comment is a big deal, not even between two people with a strictly professional relationship. A little weird and awkward? Sure. But not as dramatic as most people here seem to find it. That's just me, though. Now with him continuously sending her messages, even hours later...that's something I had not realised when I had written that post and I definitely find that problematic.
And no, I would most certainly not say that to a female coworker, mostly because the mere thought of having sex with a woman is off-putting to me. Would I say that kinda thing to a guy I don't know outside of a professional relationship? I don't think so. But would I be offended or feel harrassed if someone said it to me just once or twice? Nah, probably not.
Uhh okay.
Are you implying that one can be an asshole about trying to stop injustice?