Suppose you are a gay man who's not comfortable with rimming but allow your bf to perform it on you, because he wants to. Are you now obliged to perform it on him? Btw men should definitely not expect bjs if their spouse doesnt enjoy it. Its obnoxious.
Ideally, sexual expectations should be discussed beforehand. In fact, that's always a good idea. It's crucial to make sure you're sexually compatible with your partner early on in your relationship, so no one's going to feel surprised or put-upon when their limits are suddenly tested.
If I had an aversion to an activity, but it's not for health reasons, then I'd certainly try to accommodate my dude as long as 1) he practiced
excellent hygiene, and 2) he was willing to pay me back by indulging my own kinks. A good example would be foot worship. I don't find anything remotely appealing, much less arousing, about the idea of tongue bathing someone's toes, but if my partner is good, giving, and game, then the least I can do is try to venture slightly outside my comfort zone and be equally accommodating.
I will say this, though: If you're constantly negotiating in the bedroom, that's a sign that you need to communicate better in advance.
Yes, everything you have said is true. Having said that, it's something that should be discussed between yourself and your partner. If you are not compatible in the bedroom then find another partner, that goes for both sexes. Articles like this are needlessly antagonizing towards people who do genuinely feel uncomfortable doing a certain act, and clearly biased towards the woman's PoV as well. But it's from Jezebel, so I'm not surprised that it's this bad.
A little bias toward the woman's POV isn't such a bad thing in this world, where there's a serious sexual double standard at play that maintains the expectation that women should "perform" while guys kick back and enjoy the benefits of their hard work. It's the 21st century, people. Time to update your gender politics and start looking at sex as a collaborative activity rather than a fun way to get your dick wet.
If this doesn't apply to you, high five! But let's not pretend there's not a major imbalance here.