robertsan21
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hmm going down on a woman is like the best thing. This is weird, all guys I know love going down on a woman. I live in Europe by the way, maybe us Europeans are more open minded about this stuff than the guys in US?
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It's 2015, and Men Are Still Being Pussies About Eating Pussy (Jezebel)
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It depends. Not finding something particularly appealing is a little different than having a strong aversion to it. I would never want my partner to feel uncomfortable like that. I think that there are two types of men here. Lazy fucks who only care about themselves and guys who actually cant stand the act for whatever reason. The woman in the article should not have had to do something most of her life that she did not enjoy. In a perfect world she would have been able to stop doing things she wasn't comfortable with like the guy, without rediculous pressure.
tkscz
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This your first time reading a Jezebel article?
Honestly I was surprised to hear none of my friends eat their girls out when the topic popped up the last time we were out drinking.
They're missing out on some amazing stuff there.
Well, that is interesting. As an Austrian none of the guys I talked about it with go down, so honestly I was still rather assuming the opposite.
They're missing out on some amazing stuff there.
Well, that is interesting. As an Austrian none of the guys I talked about it with go down, so honestly I was still rather assuming the opposite.
Douche McBaggins The 3rd
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No means no for women. Unless you want a pussy snorkeling then no means yes for you. How wonderfully sexalent that the no means no only applies for women but a guy has to man up sexually if he's uncomfortable.
casablanca
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Eating pussy during casual sex is a no no for me.
During a relationship ? Every single day if desired.
During a relationship ? Every single day if desired.
With hookups, oral is always less common. Oral seems to be perceived as more personal than intercourse. Only one girl I've been with pushed for oral on the first time. Most seem pretty reluctant, even when you offer.
With a relationship, Honestly, there is very little better. Bend her over and eat her out with her ass up in the air. Missionary with her squeezing her legs around your head. Picking her up and eating her out while she's not touching the group. Eating her out while she is at a 90degree angle. Eating her out while she is tied up and standing or tied to a bed. It's fucking fun torturing and teasing them for a bit, while you work them out, then basically having them beg for it.
With a relationship, Honestly, there is very little better. Bend her over and eat her out with her ass up in the air. Missionary with her squeezing her legs around your head. Picking her up and eating her out while she's not touching the group. Eating her out while she is at a 90degree angle. Eating her out while she is tied up and standing or tied to a bed. It's fucking fun torturing and teasing them for a bit, while you work them out, then basically having them beg for it.
tkscz
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It comes from the same site that claims men can't be raped (and fuck them for making that claim) and it's ok to domestically abuse men. Jezebel is an awful website. Didn't think anyone from Gaf would be on it.
This is why I don't like Jezebel. Expectations should be discussed.
Not true. I like going down on women , but I've also given women multiple orgasms just using my fingers. Not all women feel comfortable about oral.
Not true. I like going down on women , but I've also given women multiple orgasms just using my fingers. Not all women feel comfortable about oral.
Kwansu Dudes
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You watched that video, huh.
Monocle
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That's where communication comes in. If having a (presumably clean) vagina in your face somehow makes you ill for some reason, and it's a legit issue for you, then there's nothing to stop you from working out a reasonable compromise, like using fingers or toys. Contrary to what some posters seem to think, the article isn't telling men to STFU and do nauseating things just because their woman demands it. The emphasis is on equality:
See? The basic idea is, if she's sucking your dick, do something nice for her once in a while.article said:
MilkyJoe
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In that case - top tip, you don't actually eat it.
Funny articles like this exist but no mention that as soon as you move in with your missus those blowjobs dry up faster than dropped water in the Sahara .
Funky Papa
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I'm so sorry for you.
SapientWolf
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If they hate it then it's going to be a horrifying experience for everyone involved. No one wants to see someone gagging and making faces while their junk is being serviced. I think a lot of women are sensitive about their bodies so a lack of enthusiasm would just fuel their insecurities.
You can't force someone to enjoy performing oral. Might as well just leave people be. I don't see Jezebel writing an article about eating ass.
MilkyJoe
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It happens ot the best of us
thetrin
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I had a girlfriend who, in fact, was not at all comfortable with it. It was "too weird" for her. She just stuck to finger fun.
*shrug* We're all different.
Don't focus on performing. Just breathe, and enjoy yourself. You'll see that once you relax, breathing and licking simultaneously will come easier, which will automatically increase your performance. Hell, my girl even asked if I didn't need to come up for air.
Keep your nose clear, so you can breathe easier, more relaxed, if you're more relaxed, so will be your tongue movements, and it will be more enjoyable for her.
tkscz
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Going to need proof of that. I never got off to a blow job, like ever, and every girl I've been with has had an orgasm from penetration, I've even given two women their first orgasms
it's really awkward, especially as one was prone to seizures and thought she was having one.
I think people should give oral because they want to, instead of being part of a transaction or purely for the others benefit. I think the better compromise would be for her to stop giving him head(especially if its for his benefit alone or she's uncomfortable with it) and they can work something out that they can actually reciprocate comfortably. Or just split. Though, I admit I'm completely inexperienced with long term relationships and what sex routines become, so I'll stop here.
Yeah. Or embarrassment. Anyway it happens more than it should, and yes I've successfully changed some minds too. Just wish I didn't have to do any convincing. Let me eat 😋
poodaddy
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What about those of us who love to eat pussy but the wife never lets me! Inb4 the, "you must be shit at it" comments she orgasms crazy hard every time that I do it, but she says it makes her feel self conscious and slutty for some reason when I go down on her. I literally have to basically beg, yes a grown man begging to eat out his wife; and no I don't even ask for head afterwards. Some women would adore that set up man. I don't get it, but I just chalk it up to her hyper conservative upbringing. In some ways my wife will always be the "good" girl. She even goes so far as to say she'll never swallow because she thinks it's "demeaning to women." It's whatever though, she's the mother of my child and I love her to death and our sex life is, for the most part, pretty damn good; I just wish she was more "into" sex I guess.
poodaddy
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I feel like we deserve a public statement or apology. All of those pre marriage blowjobs were just bait, and now that we're in the cage they don't need to give us the prime rib anymore.....a starving man will eat anything he's given
Monocle
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Well, that's the idea. Sex shouldn't be a chore. The basic point is that it doesn't make sense for oral sex to be a one sided thing. If it's really such a huge challenge to reciprocate in a way that satisfies you both, splitting up might be the right way to go.
Oh Nooo some guys don't like to do some particular sex act how dare they and in 2015 Ok whats the big deal? :|
I don't expect every women on the planet wants to lick my balls and i would never make a stupid article that says HALLLLOOOO its 2015 and woman are still prudes about licking balls....
No one should feel forced to do sex acts they dont want, stupid pushy online articles like this are useless garbage.
Ok whats the big deal? :| I don't expect every women on the planet wants to lick my balls and i would never make a stupid article that says HALLLLOOOO its 2015 and woman are still prudes about licking balls....
No one should feel forced to do sex acts they dont want, stupid pushy online articles like this are useless garbage.
GrotesqueBeauty
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I am confused by this article. A woman who swore off blowjobs is a hero because? Not going down on a woman means there is no way she can ever orgasm? What am I reading? If there was a point to be made it's lost between a bunch of inane assertions. A guy whose sexual understanding was forged by internet porn and a single bad encounter is obviously not the most likable or astute, and that should largely speak for itself with a dash of thoughtful supporting assertions, but holy hell the article goes off the rails.
Maybe it's because I only see the articles that pop up in threads like this (likely the more clickbait-y ones), but everything I've personally read from Jezebel seems hilariously histrionic and poorly framed. Isn't the site supposed to be a platform for feminist thinking? Because it comes across as and easy to target caricature of outmoded reactionary posturing that attempts to fight patriarchy by ironically stooping to the level of grunting male machismo.
Maybe it's because I only see the articles that pop up in threads like this (likely the more clickbait-y ones), but everything I've personally read from Jezebel seems hilariously histrionic and poorly framed. Isn't the site supposed to be a platform for feminist thinking? Because it comes across as and easy to target caricature of outmoded reactionary posturing that attempts to fight patriarchy by ironically stooping to the level of grunting male machismo.
Sickboy007
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It baffles me that in 2015 science still does't have a univocal understanding of how women come. Get your shit together nerds.
So casual sex isn't always perfect. It's 2015, get over it.
Sucks if this kinda thing is an issue in a serious relationship, but you should probably figure out if you're sexually compatible with someone before you enter a serious relationship with them. There are plenty of women out there who don't like getting oral so it's not like dudes who don't like giving it can't find someone compatible.
Sucks if this kinda thing is an issue in a serious relationship, but you should probably figure out if you're sexually compatible with someone before you enter a serious relationship with them. There are plenty of women out there who don't like getting oral so it's not like dudes who don't like giving it can't find someone compatible.
Always-honest
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I think most people will agree that not all women are the same.
What works for one will not always work for another.
Sickboy007
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Just read of a paper that says vaginal orgasms don't exist and coming without external stimulation is impossible. Is my girl an aberration of nature?
Basically the long and short of it, and even so, the things that get their rockers off now can change over time as well...
That said, i enjoy going down on my girl and i don't really ask for much, just a quick clean up before i go there, especially when we she gets home from a long day.
ManUnkindH
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It is. It's the best, that William fellow is an imbecile.
On the flip-side, I've always got a packet of wet-wipes handy to just dab myself off quickly after I've been down there. My kisses are sweet enough, they don't need glazing on top.
I don't mean those that finish in their mouths, I know some people that haven't cummed yet COMPLETELY refuse to kiss them during or after, seems insane to me.
Yep. If it's really casual sex with randoms then it makes no sense at all to give oral if you're already using condom to prevent catching anything.
I was told autofellatio was every guys dream. Lies.
Shmeagatory94
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I love going down on my girl, and if I was single I would definitely go down on some hookup, especially if she gave me head lol theres nothing sexier than hearing the girl moan if you do it right (;
GrotesqueBeauty
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Little known fact: Autofellatio is the origin of the phrase "A snowball's chance in hell."
Jezebel is to feminists what Fox News is to republicans.
FreeMufasa
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Wifey or boo, no doubt.
Some club jump off, nah.
Some club jump off, nah.
Insane Metal
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What?? Please do it on mine then. lol
Just wipe it down with some Dettol before you go to town.
Gotta be shaven though. I'm a little more lenient with the missus, but 1 night stands got no munching unless it was shaven haven. No worries, I had dispensable razors in the bathroom.
Vincent Grayson
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Generally speaking, I think people get way too up-in-arms over "I don't enjoy this" when it comes to sex. We do all kinds of shit we don't enjoy every single day, in the context of relationships both sexual and otherwise, and in the context of working, living, and human interaction in general.
The idea that someone should just put up with a partner saying "I don't like to give oral sex, it grosses me out, deal with it." when we certainly wouldn't put up with "I don't like doing dishes, it grosses me out, deal with it." has always baffled me.
Part of being a good partner is doing things that aren't your favorite thing because it benefits your partner.
Monocle
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You're right, it's not. Oral sex between consenting adults isn't "incredibly creepy."
Not 'putting up' with someone being uncomfortable with specific sex acts and comparing it to a job one just has to do...
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