Yeah, it's very hard to support someone as you have to sort of meld to their playstyle. I've had people who are super passive and just want to farm CS all day or stay under our tower, and then I've had others who ignore CS all together and just want to go hog wild attacking enemy champs.I understand what you're saying. The problem is that many of these supports go beyond our minion wave and into the midst of theirs and attempts to fight a 1v2. All the while, I'm trying to babysit this support who doesn't really know how to support and farming. It's annoying when I have to save the support's ass and we lose out on the trade because he made a reckless decision. Of course, then the support, let's use Nami in this case, starts yelling that I didn't follow up on the bubble opportunity he created when he doesn't consider how far out he went to bubble and the distance between me and the opponent.
Point being, I can't babysit a reckless support from doing stupid things and making bad decisions while farming. A support should be mindful of their opponent's abilities, the adc's capability, the positioning, the opportunities that are available. Not a suicidal champion that runs in trying to create opportunities, when in reality it's not but for the opponent.
Trust me. I've considered a lot about what I'm doing wrong and I find it very hard to believe that it's majority my fault. Granted it's my fault for not being able to babysit the support as well a pro but a support shouldn't be an idiot and not know how to play the role either.
And from what I've heard and seen, there are very few who want to be the support. So you'll get someone who doesn't really know the role or how to adjust to the conditions present, who just wants to kill kill kill as a support or they are lost in what they should be doing so they just stay in the back or in the bush and toss out buffs/heals but never gets involved.
My question to you is how communicative are you with your supports? It might be worthwhile before the match to let them know your general gameplan as an ADC, and talk about how their skills will synergize with your champ. And if things are going wrong in game, you should know their skills well enough to advise them on what you want them to do (ie: focus on poking enemy with x-skill, or focus on buffing me with y-skill). If you want them to stop being reckless, tell them to back off so you can farm. If you think you two can make a kill, let them know you'll be watching for any opportunities they provide. Let them know they are doing a good job when they are or let them know to try something different if they are getting themselves or you killed.
I look at my role as a support to be there for my teammates in whatever way they need. So if they need me to do XYZ, I'll do my best to do XYZ. But if no one is telling me anything one way or the other I'll just go by their actions and look for signals in how they play. But again, most people who get 'stuck' with support won't be doing that.
Basically long winded way to say that communication is key. And if you are doing that and they aren't listening, don't feel you have to save their asses if they are going all in. Better they die than both of you.
ALSO - If you are leaving fountain with 75 or more gold, go back and buy 1 ward. Takes so much pressure off of supports when laning partners buy a ward every now and then. I could buy sightstones, buy wards, but they run out so fast, and there is always complaints that I'm not warding the whole map with the little money I make. Just think that buying a few wards for your support over the whole game will mean they can save money to maybe buy something nice that boosts their skills which go toward supporting you and the team. Won't you think about pledging a few wards for your support today? If so call 1-800-BUY-WARD. Thank you!