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Henchmen21

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sphinx said:
this thread changes its cast every so often. Last year it was Spacebridge, Soco, Alccori, Someonecool, Excelforward, Delio, Sagi.

most of them gone or just with the occasional, rare intervention.

in their place are other regulars. that's how this thread works.

of course, many other old timers remain here but it isn't uncommon for people to leave for good, sadly.
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Not sure if I should be offended that I wasn't included in that list.

Sub-Zero at a Starbucks said:
GayGAF should put some money and selfies together to make a 2014 calendar

i'll do my part
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Yeah, no one wants to see me half naked/full on frontal. You'd want people to buy it not turn away in disgust.
 
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Delio

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sphinx said:
this thread changes its cast every so often. Last year it was Spacebridge, Soco, Alccori, Someonecool, Excelforward, Delio, Sagi.

most of them gone or just with the occasional, rare intervention.

in their place are other regulars. that's how this thread works.

of course, many other old timers remain here but it isn't uncommon for people to leave for good, sadly.
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I mostly lurk and make a comment here and there about my love life. The crowd has kinda changed some so I'm okay with just lurking around and popping in here and there.
 
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kitchenmotors

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sphinx said:
this thread changes its cast every so often. Last year it was Spacebridge, Soco, Alccori, Someonecool, Excelforward, Delio, Sagi.

most of them gone or just with the occasional, rare intervention.

in their place are other regulars. that's how this thread works.

of course, many other old timers remain here but it isn't uncommon for people to leave for good, sadly.
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There used to be a tight knit group of a bunch of us in the GayGAF Skype. I remember doing video calls every night until Skype changed that shit to pay. That hasn't really been a thing for a long time now and the new Skype transformed into something else. I tend to run with the Tinychat crowd more nowadays (which includes a lot of GayGaffers) but was around long before GayGAF even existed as an entity.

I remember when Miles used to be very active, dunno what happened to him tho.
 
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Trigger

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Aarglefarg said:
I will take one of these self-o-graphs in accordance with the culture of this thread.
bpdxHMS

http://i.imgur.com/bpdxHMS

Hello. :)
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You remind me of Greg Grunberg.
 
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mantidor

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VICTORsaurio said:
lol at the little homphobe :'(
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haha

The problem with this video, as cute as it was, is that gay marriage is an issue that is out there and is heavily discussed everywhere, the kids were just repeating what they've heard already from the adults in their lives.

The idea of "what kids think about x" videos is to get a more innocent, less experienced look on things, asking kids about what "love" is can have some hilarious and surprisingly deep answers, gay marriage on the other hand is such a new concept in society even we gay people are unexperienced about it, this is a completely brand new thing, our answers wouldn't be that different.

I was more interested about their reactions to the video, they all were shocked at first, then the girls got all excited about it hehe.
 
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_Isaac

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T.O.P said:
Kids React to Gay Marriage
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TJxnYgP6D8


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This was a pretty interesting video. Thanks for sharing. They all pretty much had the same things to say about it except for the little five year old. It's interesting they only had one little homophobe, and he was the smallest one too. I was surprised that he had so much to say on the subject at that age. How often did that subject come up at home for him to have all those answers ready. I have a cousin that's the same age, and now I'm curious about how he would react.
 
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VICTORsaurio

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_Isaac said:
This was a pretty interesting video. Thanks for sharing. They all pretty much had the same things to say about it except for the little five year old. It's interesting they only had one little homophobe, and he was the smallest one too. I was surprised that he had so much to say on the subject at that age. How often did that subject come up at home for him to have all those answers ready. I have a cousin that's the same age, and now I'm curious about how he would react.
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The little girl was pretty interesting to watch too, her reaction seemed a bit negative to me at the beginning but then when she actually talked she came off really smart.
 
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Trigger

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mantidor said:
So guys how would you feel about a relative wanting to do porn?
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In general, I'm not hot on the idea of porn acting because it doesn't seem like an industry that gives someone long term stability. As admittedly old-school (and maybe misogynistic?) as it may sound I certainly wouldn't want my younger female relatives (sisters, cousins, etc) doing porn. If it was a male relative, I'd probably disapprove, but let them do what they want.
 
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RM8

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Sadly it's still quite dangerous, isn't it? There are still HIV horror stories happening these days. I wouldn't oppose, lol, it's their lives, but if they ask my opinion I'd say I personally advice against it. Plus it seems like an incredibly stigmatized job.
 
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mantidor

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Naked Snake said:
I want to do porn.
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Why am I not surprised. :p

Trigger said:
In general, I'm not hot on the idea of porn acting because it doesn't seem like an industry that give someone long term stability. As admittedly old-school (and maybe misogynistic?) as it may sound I certainly wouldn't want my younger female relatives (sisters, cousins, etc) doing porn. If it was a male relative, I'd probably disapprove, but let them do what they want.
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Caladrious said:
I would vomit profusely.
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Pretty much how I feel, except I would feel just as bad whether is my female or male relative.

It does make me feel like a hypocrite when watching porn of course, which admittedly I see less and less as time goes by, people in porn are after all someone's daughters, sons, siblings, and the whole thing starts to turn me off.

The gay community however seems very ok with porn, they usually embrace it as "just another job", but it really isn't. Gay porn is a completely different beast from straight porn though, but it's something I can't accept at the end of the day.

Yes, the question comes because a close relative has mentioned it, and it's basically killing me, specially because it's coming as an idea from the person he is dating which is not exactly the most wholesome person, the mixture with a drug heavy environment (it really seem porn is always that way) doesn't help of course, also, I feel he is being coerced into doing it, and he really isn't into it, the fact he believes the ridiculous promises of giants amounts of money is what pisses me off the most.

He just has huge problems, and I'm too far away to help.
 
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mantidor

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heh well there are exhibitionists out there, so more power to them, but when money is involved things can get ugly. Not saying they always do, but they can.
 
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Naked Snake

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Trigger said:
Do you really need a boyfriend for that?
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You need a monogamous relationship to safely practice unprotected sex, don't you? Unless all participants are on a regularly scheduled and synchronized testing regimen (which is what they do in porn, and they still get HIV from time to time)
 
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Trigger

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Naked Snake said:
You need a monogamous relationship to safely practice unprotected sex, don't you? Unless all participants are on a regularly scheduled and synchronized testing regimen (which is what they do in porn, and they still get HIV from time to time)
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It's the way you phrased the post. I guess I just don't see the point in a boyfriend if companionship isn't the bigger motivator. lol, the possibility of condom-less sex is a side benefit.
 
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gerg

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Trigger said:
It's the way you phrased the post. I guess I just don't see the point in a boyfriend if companionship isn't the bigger motivator. lol, the possibility of condom-less sex is a side benefit.
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Yeah, unless you clarify your expectations beforehand I can imagine the other partner being upset that he's basically your condom.

As for the porn discussion, I think the biggest issue I'd have with the idea of making a career out of it is that it isn't dependable. I'm reminded of Cameron Russell when talking about modelling:

"Saying that you want to be a model when you grow up is akin to saying that you want to win the Powerball when you grow up. It's out of your control, and it's awesome, and it's not a career path."

Porn must be much the same, probably with similar insecurities, even.
 
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RM8

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As someone who prefers handhelds over consoles and PC I'm super critical of phone games, but Kingdom Rush Frontiers is like the best thing ever. It's a phone game I'm actually glad I paid for (and it's on sale for $1 USD). It's somehow putting a dent on my Pokémon playtime :0

Oh, and men are attractive or something.
 
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Henchmen21

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Rm88~ said:
As someone who prefers handhelds over consoles and PC
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Heathen!
lol :)

As to the porn thing, read Danny Wylde's Blog. He shares his insights into the industry from time to time. As a bi man who solely worked in the straight side he also recounts stories of its blatent homophobia.
 
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Naked Snake

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I was being at least partly facetious about the bf/condoms thing.

It's just that, since I broke up with my bf 7 or so years ago, I haven't been successful topping, not once. Condoms kill my boner in no time. I know it's an anxiety issue, and I could most likely solve it with a patient partner and practice, but it has severely impacted my sex life.
 
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gerg

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Naked Snake said:
I was being at least partly facetious about the bf/condoms thing.

It's just that, since I broke up with my bf 7 or so years ago, I haven't been successful topping, not once. Condoms kill my boner in no time. I know it's an anxiety issue, and I could most likely solve it with a patient partner and practice, but it has severely impacted my sex life.
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Maybe see a counsellor or a sex therapist, if you feel it's impacting your sex life that much?
 
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_Isaac

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Naked Snake said:
I was being at least partly facetious about the bf/condoms thing.

It's just that, since I broke up with my bf 7 or so years ago, I haven't been successful topping, not once. Condoms kill my boner in no time. I know it's an anxiety issue, and I could most likely solve it with a patient partner and practice, but it has severely impacted my sex life.
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What about it gets you anxious?
 
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Cosmic Bus

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Naked Snake said:
Condoms kill my boner in no time. I know it's an anxiety issue, and I could most likely solve it with a patient partner and practice, but it has severely impacted my sex life.
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I don't know exactly what's causing my issue, but it's likely something along these lines. If we have sex at his apartment, it's fine; if we [try to] have sex at mine, I lose my erection immediately after putting the condom on.

I'm such a flop boyfriend. ;__;
 
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Naked Snake

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gerg said:
Maybe see a counsellor or a sex therapist, if you feel it's impacting your sex life that much?
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That idea had never occurred to me before.I just did a Google search for sex therapist in my city, and there is only one listed, and he's not even a sex specialist, but treats anxiety disorders in general. And I couldn't afford it now anyway.

_Isaac said:
What about it gets you anxious?
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I'm not sure. I think the first couple of times it probably happened for whatever reason, and after that I likely developed an anxiety because I expect it to happen every time now, so it does. Like a self fulfilling prophecy.
 
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gerg

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Naked Snake said:
That idea had never occurred to me before.I just did a Google search for sex therapist in my city, and there is only one listed, and he's not even a sex specialist, but treats anxiety disorders in general. And I couldn't afford it now anyway.
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No worries.

TBH, depending on the issue seeing a therapist may not be necessary. But I always find it helpful to talk these things over.

(Unfortunately, though, there are also plenty of shit therapists out there. I was able to see a sex therapist about a different sex-related issue, and she just prescribed me a treatment of pills to take for three months. I completed the treatment, and the issue went away for a while before returning, which is unsurprising because we never discussed why I really had it in the first place. Fortunately, I've now returned to general counselling, and I think this is something we'll discuss in my weekly sessions.)

I'm not sure. I think the first couple of times it probably happened for whatever reason, and after that I likely developed an anxiety because I expect it to happen every time now, so it does. Like a self fulfilling prophecy.
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That's definitely possible, in which case the best thing is to try not to worry about it. The problem then, of course, is that you worry about worrying, which still puts you into a state of anxiety.

Granted this may not be possible if you're mainly having one-nighters, or if you're having sex with people with quite fixed roles, but I think a part of combating sexual anxiety is realising that, chances are, the other person doesn't care. Sex isn't just about penetration, and they'll probably appreciate the attention being on them anyway. I imagine if that you do start seeing someone regularly (even outwith the labelling of as a "boyfriend") your confidence may return and this issue will dissipate.
 
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