The thing is, as I've shared with you guys (if there's still anyone who hasn't abandoned the thread) it's been a rough couple of years. After I ended a 5 year relationship with my first boyfriend it's pretty much been downhill for me, I came out of it with no friends, feeling like I don't belong anywhere, had my heart broken a few times to the point of feeling like I'm never going to be good enough for anyone (or at least anyone I like), feeling lonely as hell.
I read the previous posts, but this is the part I can relate to the most. My relationship wasn't as long (2,5 years), but the breakup which happened exactly one year ago hurt like hell. Last summer my friends tried to set me up with one of their friends, but it ended up in disaster so after that I decided to focus on myself until I'm ready for... something, I guess. I'd rather be alone than miserable with someone, even though it can get quite lonely sometimes.
If you're a type of a guy who wants something more, then hookups will leave you feeling empty every time, but you already know that. I'm like you in that regard.
Just be honest with yourself and others and if you go on dating sites, specify that you're looking for friendships, not hookups and I guess there's bound to be someone who'll be exactly what you're looking for. I wish you best of luck
p.s. I forgot to say hi to everyone here, this is my first time on this topic!