Rejection like that would be depressing and demoralizing, I didn't mean to suggest that your feelings were inappropriate or wrong. I think it came across as harsher than I meant it, but all I meant (and how I understand what Necromanti said), is just that by the kinds of things and the way you post here it really seems to an external observer like you're seeking another person to fill a void.
To some degree that's normal, but it seems like a pretty strong preoccupation, and you seem somewhat aware that you get into some pretty unnecessary situations as a result of it. It's worth questioning exactly what compulsion is driving you, because it does kind of seem like a compulsion. And compulsions have a way of blinding us to their function and what motivates them, eventually making us a slave to them. I think as people we want to have the freedom to really decide what is good for us, and not just be the subject of these powerful impulses inside us. I mean, you're a few years older than me, at some point being a romantic fool kind of goes out of style. Being a romantic is good, but being foolish is less so
I'm coming at this kind of from the other end, so I have a bit less experience with this sort of thing, and that might make me a little more of an asshole because I don't have as much experience to relate to.
I'm pretty prideful, and private with my feelings and I closely guard my sense of security from other people, so I tend to not reveal very much of myself for fear of making myself look like a fool, or exposing myself to an unworthy person, or compromising my sense of emotional security. This can result in a kind of foolishness where I'm so good at poking holes or looking for flaws in things, rarely do I dismiss those doubts and just see what other people have to offer. So obviously that's a problem.
I really think it's the extremes we want to avoid, balance is the absolute hardest thing to have, but if we're balanced in how we approach things we're inherently free from the compulsions and negative points of either extreme.
