I'm getting this on a T-shirt.
Honestly, white gays just don't get it (I am absolutely bringing race into this, making you uncomfortable? Good).
Let me give you an analogy. A lot of musical elitists will say something like "I hate Nickelback. Nickelback fucking sucks." Cool. Everyone has their opinions right? We're allowed to think things, even incorrect things like "Nickelback is great," or "Madonna should release another album." But the thing is, the people saying this aren't criticizing Nickelback solely, they are criticizing the industry that created him and the fans that made him popular. So the disdain they have isn't some one-dimensional, "I hate this guy" jerk fest, it's a greater systematic disdain for the industry that produces this type of music.
In the same way, me a minority of color saying something like "White people suck absolute ass," isn't me expressing my hatred for white people. White people are all around me, and are all as multi-faceted or one-dimensional as everyone else. Of course I don't hate ALL of them. But I hate the system that privileges, benefits, and encourages systems of whiteness. All white people benefit from that while I, a person of color, do not. So me shouting my annoyance at white people into the void is shorthand for me complaining about my oppression.
A gay person complaining about straight people is shorthand for complaining about oppression. There are certain power dynamics at play that systematically lessen the value of a gay person, so them calling "straight people gross" will not cause the same amount of hatred than a straight person saying "gay people are gross." One is complaining about oppression, the other is contributing to debilitating stereotypes that further oppress people.
But for some reason, white people cannot for the life of them intersect these ideas and come to the rescue of the oppressive systems every time. I'm so sick of explaining this to people you don't even know. Lmao people will always come to the defense of white individuals and straight people like no other.