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[mantidor]

oh, you don't have to tell me. spend hours in the cyberspace (heh, 90s) to find something that wasn't in the twink department. found some 15 second preview clips of marco martinelli and that was before quicktime had a repeat function. :/

omg Marco Martinelli!!! I can't believe I'm having nostalgia over porn D:

Young people may not know this but all our beloved fauna of otters, cubs, twinks, bears and happy red velvet walruses was incredibly underground or even nonexistent back then, and certainly limited to the United States. Marco Martinelli broke all kind of grounds, porn actors simply never looked liked that. More mature men with body hair, it was really that rare. As someone outside of the US exposure to this was ridiculously limited and the internet took a bit of time to catch up.

I better not send you my pics then.

Oh boy lol, well you can always just continue the selfie train .

 

[kitchenmotors]

Yeah, what happened to the selfie train? We need more photos.

Let me get it started again.

 

[i_am_ben]

We've had long conversations (3 hours +) about it every day for the last 6 months. I've been supportive but this is getting out of control.

Welcome to dating a PHD student.

 

[<+)O Robido O(+>]

Yeah, what happened to the selfie train? We need more photos.

Let me get it started again.

DAY 3

 

[Symphonia]

The word that has ruined my relationship: PhD. I swear if I hear it again I will explode.

I have a PhD.

 

[scarlet]

The word that has ruined my relationship: PhD. I swear if I hear it again I will explode.

Edit: Agh top of the page. Here, a picture of ultimate cutie Russell Crowe.

OMG he's my ultimate celebrity crush x)

 

[Vitanimus]

DAY 3

what the fuck is that shitty filter

 

[Shokifer]

i wonder if I'll finally meet lgbt people in college, especially since I've yet to meet any in my life.

 

[berzeli]

i wonder if I'll finally meet lgbt people in college, especially since I've yet to meet any in my life.

You've already met LGBT people, you just don't know that they are LGBT. There almost definitely are schoolmates (and maybe even classmates) of yours who also are LGBT but are closeted. So relax, you're not alone.

 

[Vitanimus]

You've already met LGBT people, you just don't know that they are LGBT. There almost definitely are schoolmates (and maybe even classmates) of yours who also are LGBT but are closeted. So relax, you're not alone.

yup

the amount of my friends who've come out in the past couple of years is funny

 

[scarlet]

You've already met LGBT people, you just don't know that they are LGBT. There almost definitely are schoolmates (and maybe even classmates) of yours who also are LGBT but are closeted. So relax, you're not alone.

Luckily I've got a great gaydar, so I knew.

 

[Shokifer]

You've already met LGBT people, you just don't know that they are LGBT. There almost definitely are schoolmates (and maybe even classmates) of yours who also are LGBT but are closeted. So relax, you're not alone.

It's not being alone i'm worried about, but the fact the status quo seems to enforced so rigidly really gets my goat.

 

[Symphonia]

I'm the only one in my social circle, that I know of, who is bisexual, but they don't even know, nor do my family. As far as I know, everyone I know is straight.

 

[berzeli]

Luckily I've got a great gaydar, so I knew.

Yup. Pretty much the same for me, it has been kind of amusing to see the everyone-except-himself-knows-that-he-is-gay-guy come out.

It's not being alone i'm worried about, but the fact the status quo seems to enforced so rigidly really gets my goat.

Then again they're not under any obligation to discuss (fairly) intimate details of their life with everyone, as amusing as it would be gay people don't order gay coffee when they go to a café and bisexual kids don't have bisexual English classes. I just wanted to point out that you already have met LGBT people without knowing it and there probably are other LGBT people at your school who don't know that you too are a member of the LGBT cabal.

 

[halfbeast]

omg Marco Martinelli!!! I can't believe I'm having nostalgia over porn D:

Young people may not know this but all our beloved fauna of otters, cubs, twinks, bears and happy red velvet walruses was incredibly underground or even nonexistent back then, and certainly limited to the United States. Marco Martinelli broke all kind of grounds, porn actors simply never looked liked that. More mature men with body hair, it was really that rare. As someone outside of the US exposure to this was ridiculously limited and the internet took a bit of time to catch up.

oh, that's why I only found him. :B

Oh boy lol, well you can always just continue the selfie train .

yeah, might as well, right?

Spoiler

http://i.imgur.com/9anXVpM.jpg

sorry for the quality, don't know why my iphone went potato on me.

edit: don't remember how you hide the link anymore. but whatevs, yolo and shit!

 

[Shokifer]

Then again they're not under any obligation to discuss (fairly) intimate details of their life with everyone, as amusing as it would be gay people don't order gay coffee when they go to a café and bisexual kids don't have bisexual English classes. I just wanted to point out that you already have met LGBT people without knowing it and there probably are other LGBT people at your school who don't know that you too are a member of the LGBT cabal.

Well it's not like straight people have any problem broadcasting it, if every conversation I've had with my friends is to be believed.

And I guess these days even if someone did turn out to be lgbt they'd be just as boring as everyone else

 

[Veeboy]

yup

the amount of my friends who've come out in the past couple of years is funny

For me it was pretty much freshman year of college. Like weeks after most of my graduating class started college my Facebook feed basically lit up with coming out statuses. Even one of my closest friends came out near the end of fall semester (in retrospect she did throw some pretty hard hints my way that she was a lesbian after I personally came out in our junior year, but I'm super oblivious to things like that even today.) There's just something freeing about not being in an environment where everyone knows who you are which leads to more people being willing to come out.

 

[halfbeast]

i wonder if I'll finally meet lgbt people in college, especially since I've yet to meet any in my life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tLXRYPODxI

 

[Bladenic]

oh, that's why I only found him. :B



yeah, might as well, right?

Spoiler

http://i.imgur.com/9anXVpM.jpg

sorry for the quality, don't know why my iphone went potato on me.

edit: don't remember how you hide the link anymore. but whatevs, yolo and shit!

Um... You're a daddy &#128525;

 

[berzeli]

Well it's not like straight people have any problem broadcasting it, if every conversation I've had with my friends is to be believed.

And I guess these days even if someone did turn out to be lgbt they'd be just as boring as everyone else

I'm half-tempted to just post owtheedge.jpg because of the latter part of your post but you're an angsty teen and I've been there, done that, so I'll be nicer than that. Look, some are still trying to figure things out about themselves when it comes to their bodies and sex (even the straight ones) so they won't talk about it loudly and openly. Also I would be wary of using conversations within your own social circle as evidence, I talked just about girls and basically everyone thought I was straight as they come (one exception that I will come to later). Then there is the minor problem with your social circle &#8800; reality, now I don't know how your school is or who you hang out with but the unfortunate thing with this is that your mileage will vary and it will vary a lot. Some schools (and then within schools, different years, different classes and different social circles) just are more open when it comes to all things LGBT.

I know, I kind of ended up rambling but I guess I'm trying to say that there is a reason why the It Gets Better Project is called just that. You might not meet any openly LGBT students in your sixth form (then again you just might), but they are there and years later you might run in to them on say Grindr and end up having sex with them for basically giggles (but enough about me for now). But you will end up meeting openly LGBT people sooner or later.

Oh and about the entire exception thing; Me and one of my friends talked about sexuality and things and he said "I almost wish I was bisexual sometimes, what about you? *pointed silence*" And I just hand waived it away because I didn't want to come out to him at that point in time. It isn't the only time I've been offered an opportunity to come out to people who really made sure that they would be okay with it but I didn't. Since I wanted to do it on my terms at a time and place of my choosing, unfortunately for me I kind of suck at choosing a time and a place. (Don't drink and come out kids, especially not in public places, and without checking if your teacher is sitting behind you)

And yes LGBT people are just as boring as everyone else since we're just people, like everyone else is too.

 

[Shokifer]

I'm half-tempted to just post owtheedge.jpg because of the latter part of your post but you're an angsty teen and I've been there, done that, so I'll be nicer than that. Look, some are still trying to figure things out about themselves when it comes to their bodies and sex (even the straight ones) so they won't talk about it loudly and openly. Also I would be wary of using conversations within your own social circle as evidence, I talked just about girls and basically everyone thought I was straight as they come (one exception that I will come to later). Then there is the minor problem with your social circle &#8800; reality, now I don't know how your school is or who you hang out with but the unfortunate thing with this is that your mileage will vary and it will vary a lot. Some schools (and then within schools, different years, different classes and different social circles) just are more open when it comes to all things LGBT.

I know, I kind of ended up rambling but I guess I'm trying to say that there is a reason why the It Gets Better Project is called just that. You might not meet any openly LGBT students in your sixth form (then again you just might), but they are there and years later you might run in to them on say Grindr and end up having sex with them for basically giggles (but enough about me for now). But you will end up meeting openly LGBT people sooner or later.

Oh and about the entire exception thing; Me and one of my friends talked about sexuality and things and he said "I almost wish I was bisexual sometimes, what about you? *pointed silence*" And I just hand waived it away because I didn't want to come out to him at that point in time. It isn't the only time I've been offered an opportunity to come out to people who really made sure that they would be okay with it but I didn't. Since I wanted to do it on my terms at a time and place of my choosing, unfortunately for me I kind of suck at choosing a time and a place. (Don't drink and come out kids, especially not in public places, and without checking if your teacher is sitting behind you)

And yes LGBT people are just as boring as everyone else since we're just people, like everyone else is too.

You talk an awful lot

 

[berzeli]

You talk an awful lot

At times. Sometimes I even do it coherently.

 

[Kevyt]

Kids these days...

 

[Vazduh]

Um... You're a daddy &#128525;

Co-signed.

 

[Razmos]

You talk an awful lot

Wow that's awfully rude.

Um... You're a daddy &#55357;&#56845;

Indeed

 

[Alavard]

Has anyone else here had their sexuality actually change during their life so far? Not just coming to terms with who you are, but actually change?

Looking, back, I was definitely straight at 16. There was no denial, or fear. I was only aroused by women at the time. But I know that by the time I was ~22, I was bisexual, though with a preference toward women. Since then (I'm 30 now), things haven't changed. I'm still bisexual to the same extent that I was at 22.

Anyone else experienced anything like that?

 

[Shokifer]

Wow that's awfully rude.

Well I'm not lying am I

 

[Dany]

Has anyone else here had their sexuality actually change during their life so far? Not just coming to terms with who you are, but actually change?

Looking, back, I was definitely straight at 16. There was no denial, or fear. I was only aroused by women at the time. But I know that by the time I was ~22, I was bisexual, though with a preference toward women. Since then (I'm 30 now), things haven't changed. I'm still bisexual to the same extent that I was at 22.

Anyone else experienced anything like that?

Not really, i always new deep down I was gay.

 

[kitchenmotors]

I'm half-tempted to just post owtheedge.jpg because of the latter part of your post but you're an angsty teen and I've been there, done that, so I'll be nicer than that. Look, some are still trying to figure things out about themselves when it comes to their bodies and sex (even the straight ones) so they won't talk about it loudly and openly. Also I would be wary of using conversations within your own social circle as evidence, I talked just about girls and basically everyone thought I was straight as they come (one exception that I will come to later). Then there is the minor problem with your social circle &#8800; reality, now I don't know how your school is or who you hang out with but the unfortunate thing with this is that your mileage will vary and it will vary a lot. Some schools (and then within schools, different years, different classes and different social circles) just are more open when it comes to all things LGBT.

I know, I kind of ended up rambling but I guess I'm trying to say that there is a reason why the It Gets Better Project is called just that. You might not meet any openly LGBT students in your sixth form (then again you just might), but they are there and years later you might run in to them on say Grindr and end up having sex with them for basically giggles (but enough about me for now). But you will end up meeting openly LGBT people sooner or later.

Oh and about the entire exception thing; Me and one of my friends talked about sexuality and things and he said "I almost wish I was bisexual sometimes, what about you? *pointed silence*" And I just hand waived it away because I didn't want to come out to him at that point in time. It isn't the only time I've been offered an opportunity to come out to people who really made sure that they would be okay with it but I didn't. Since I wanted to do it on my terms at a time and place of my choosing, unfortunately for me I kind of suck at choosing a time and a place. (Don't drink and come out kids, especially not in public places, and without checking if your teacher is sitting behind you)

And yes LGBT people are just as boring as everyone else since we're just people, like everyone else is too.

oop

I came here for the education.

Well I'm not lying am I

No offense but you're like 14, sit down.

 

[Symphonia]

Has anyone else here had their sexuality actually change during their life so far?

Nope, I've always been attracted to both guys and girls for as long as I can remember. I don't think I've ever been attracted to just one single gender.

 

[Vitanimus]

Not really, i always new deep down I was gay.

how deep?

 

[Shokifer]

No offense but you're like 14, sit down.

I can tell you've been paying attention

 

[Escape Goat]

I was banned. But now Im not. Im so confused.

 

[Vazra]

how deep?

 

[Rayis]

I sometimes wish I was a female popstar so that gay guys would worship me like a queen without sexualizing me, I'd be like a much better Gaga without a flop album.

 

[kitchenmotors]

I can tell you've been paying attention

 

[Escape Goat]

I'd be like a much better Gaga without a flop album.

 

[Symphonia]

No offense but you're like 14, sit down.

I can tell you've been paying attention

 

[Dany]

how deep?

depends on you cutie

Spoiler

am i doing this right?

 

[Shokifer]

It's only been mentioned like 3 or 4 times before is all I'm saying.

To be fair it's not the first time someone got my age wrong now is it.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

oh, that's why I only found him. :B



yeah, might as well, right?

Spoiler

http://i.imgur.com/9anXVpM.jpg

sorry for the quality, don't know why my iphone went potato on me.

edit: don't remember how you hide the link anymore. but whatevs, yolo and shit!

um..... hi.... hmu??

 

[Vitanimus]

anyway

 

[Prompto]

Has anyone else here had their sexuality actually change during their life so far? Not just coming to terms with who you are, but actually change?

Looking, back, I was definitely straight at 16. There was no denial, or fear. I was only aroused by women at the time. But I know that by the time I was ~22, I was bisexual, though with a preference toward women. Since then (I'm 30 now), things haven't changed. I'm still bisexual to the same extent that I was at 22.

Anyone else experienced anything like that?

I went through a similar experience. I was only attracted to girls from when I was 11-13 years old. Then around 7th or 8th grade I started becoming aroused by guys all of a sudden and my attraction towards women started to disappear. I thought it was just a phase at first but by the time I got to high school I felt no sexual attraction toward women.

 

[Symphonia]

To be fair it's not the first time someone got my age wrong now is it.

 

[Razmos]

How I met your Mother is utter trash, even 2 and a half men is more watchable.

 

[Symphonia]

How I met your Mother is utter trash, even 2 and a half men is more watchable.

The last two seasons weren't great, but the first few were pretty good. Comparing it to Two And A Half Men is ridiculous.

 

[SoraanTribal]

The last two seasons weren't great, but the first few were pretty good. Comparing it to Two And A Half Men is ridiculous.

Agreed. I'm not really a fan of either show, but if I have to watch one, it would definitely be How I Met Your Mother. Two and A Half Men is much worse.

 

[<+)O Robido O(+>]

what the fuck is that shitty filter

what the fuck is that shitty attitude?

 

[Alavard]

Nope, I've always been attracted to both guys and girls for as long as I can remember. I don't think I've ever been attracted to just one single gender.

Not really, i always new deep down I was gay.

I went through a similar experience. I was only attracted to girls from when I was 11-13 years old. Then around 7th or 8th grade I started becoming aroused by guys all of a sudden and my attraction towards women started to disappear. I thought it was just a phase at first but by the time I got to high school I felt no sexual attraction toward women.

Thanks for the responses. I like reading and thinking about the different experiences others in this community have had with things like this.

 

[Sai-kun]

My attraction to men was something like a switch flipping on in my head. Except there are two switches and the other one was for my attraction to women and was always on. Wasn't til I was like 13 or 14 that I was like 'oh. Nice. Dudes.'