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[Pamplemousse]

How is it going with Cornburrito?

We can't be together because of the greedy airline industry. I'm gonna have to get a Gaffer closer to home

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[Leona Lewis]

We can't be together because of the greedy airline industry. I'm gonna have to get a Gaffer closer to home

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He's taken, step off~

sorry boo

 

[Aarglefarg]

Same here. Wooo. :/

I was going to say that means 3x the dick for me (considering both Kirby and you)...but also same.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

i love the way you spit the truth sis

i <3 u sai

he used to be so pure

;_;

 

[Meicyn]

Don't complain about here. You'll get forty people saying: "It's so easy to get dick." &#128580;

Probably because everyone is tired of reading your ludicrous attempt at a sob story. You won't use grindr for a hookup because you don't want to talk and just want to fuck? You've used way more words whining about how you can't get dick than you would just using grindr and telling people you'd suck their dick.

Just download grindr already.

 

[Vazra]

Probably because everyone is tired of reading your ludicrous attempt at a sob story. You won't use grindr for a hookup because you don't want to talk and just want to fuck? You've used way more words whining about how you can't get dick than you would just using grindr and telling people you'd suck their dick.

Just download grindr already.

The interactions on grindr are usually "Top or bottom", "Wanna fuck?" and *insert dick pic here*. He can easily do things with extremely minor talk if he wants to go that route.

 

[RM8]

You don't even need a pic. I used to put random googled pics like this one on my profile and I'd still get hook up offers from nearby dudes. It's so sad that even people who pretend to want to make friends eventually get tired of pretending and send you lewd pics, lol.

 

[Pamplemousse]

The interactions on grindr are usually "Top or bottom", "Wanna fuck?" and *insert dick pic here*. He can easily do things with extremely minor talk if he wants to go that route.

But I feel so dirty every time I go to download it. &#128560; And I just know I'd get gonorrhea of the throat immediately.

 

[Vazra]

But I feel so dirty every time I go to download it. And I just know I'd get gonorrhea of the throat immediately.

Then get over the I dont wanna talk stuff and get to know people before doing something? It's not as complicated as you think and if you don't like the person you can easily tell them, block them or ignore them on those apps.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

My man &#55357;&#56845;&#55357;&#56845;&#55357;&#56845;

Sometimes I feel like listening to some of Autechre's stuff has you gain one or two IQ points irl

But I feel so dirty every time I go to download it. &#55357;&#56880; And I just know I'd get gonorrhea of the throat immediately.

Then keep vacillating indefinitely.

 

[hateradio]

Is this from one of those low rent adult films?

 

[Grazzt]

He actually did. But he should have put his bulge on my butt when I went down.
But his dad was around the corner. He might come choke slame lol

Pretend to pick up something next time, bend over and back to him.

We can't be together because of the greedy airline industry. I'm gonna have to get a Gaffer closer to home

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Good luck.

 

[B-Dex]

YAS. Trixie Mattel is judging the finale of our next drag superstar for this season of drag race. Perched to see all the flop wannabes try it.

 

[Monocle]

YAS. Trixie Mattel is judging the finale of our next drag superstar for this season of drag race. Perched to see all the flop wannabes try it.

Her makeup is gross and annoys me. However, her personality and sense of humor really shine in those WOW videos she did with Katya, so I guess I can tolerate more Trixie if I have to.

 

[Dead Prince]

Pretend to pick up something next time, bend over and back to him.

Good luck.

I think I already bend. Over eniighbas it is. With squats and deadlift. Any more bending over I may as well ___________.

 

[GasProblem]

I have a friend who I think is depressed. He was in my coming out group. He's always a social guy and pretty outgoing. Heard from a friend that he missed a bar shift without telling anyone. She went to his place (he lives with housemates) and she heard noise behind the door, but there was no answer. She asked his housemates and they said they only see him sometimes and that he's mostly in his room. I tried calling him and it does ring, but he doesn't pick up. I left a voicemail message saying that we're worried, that he can always talk to us and that we want to know if he's ok. He hasn't responded yet.

Last sunday me and a friend went to his house again. Went to his room , but no one opened the door. A housemate saw him go into his room in the morning but wasn't sure if he was home. Talked to two of his housemates and they also said they were worried, that he doesnt eat with them in the kitchen anymore and mostly shuts himself in in his room, and that they feel he needs someone to talk too. We wrote a letter saying that we were worried, and that he can always talk to us or someone else and that we just want to know if hes doing ok, and shoved it under his door. Yesterday one of his housemates said that he talked to him when he saw him and said that he told him that we were there and that we were worried. He still hasn't responded. We decided to leave a message to his mother and brother on Facebook, but I don't think they're very active on there because it still shows as unread.

Don't really know what to do anymore, besides keep going there in the hope he responds. It's obvious there's something going on with him. The good thing is he does leave his room from time to time, for work or school I don't know. The most drastic measure would be, when I know for sure he's home, to just go there and kick in his door.

Sigh, I don't know.

 

[Deleted member 465307]

But I feel so dirty every time I go to download it. &#128560; And I just know I'd get gonorrhea of the throat immediately.

Your posts suggest to me that you're feeling stuck. The following is simply my thoughts on what I've seen in this thread:

Hmm...it kind of seems like you have some internal contradictions that need to eventually be sorted out.

You mentioned not being into guys who seem gay (while, IIRC, also writing that you don't have much exposure to gay guys IRL) but are a guy who wants to have sex with other guys. Additionally, you talk about wanting to have lots of anonymous (oral) sex but then feel dirty when you consider actually realizing your desires. (Side note: consequence-free sex with random straight-acting men makes me think of what might be portrayed in a porn film, but I don't really have any experience with porn, so I could be 100% wrong.)

It sounds like you have a fantasy of what being gay is but are constructing standards and barriers (unconsciously or not) to prevent it from being an actionable reality. From what you've described, it seems like something needs to change before your desires will be attainable.

If you don't have much experience with gay men IRL, I suggest getting to know some gay guys (platonically). Perhaps you can find some kind of gay activity group where you live. I think those friendships could help you sort out your gay identity and how you will act upon it.

Feel free to dismiss everything I just wrote. I hope you find a resolution soon!

 

[Monocle]

But I feel so dirty every time I go to download it. &#65533;&#65533; And I just know I'd get gonorrhea of the throat immediately.

It's really simple. I've had great success meeting normal people on Grindr by making it clear what I'm looking for in my profile, and saying hi to nice-looking guys like a regular human.

I usually start with something like, "Hey man, I just finished watching the Fargo finale and now I'm sitting here with my coffee. Do anything interesting today?" Or I comment on a hobby they mentioned in their profile.

It works, trust me. I've made real friends on there. You just fish for genuine conversations and ignore the creeps, then move to texting if you hit it off with someone.

Edit: Oops, I mistook you for someone who didn't want anonymous hookups, haha. Didn't follow the quote chain far enough.

 

[3phemeral]

If you don't have much experience with gay men IRL, I suggest getting to know some gay guys (platonically). Perhaps you can find some kind of gay activity group where you live. I think those friendships could help you sort out your gay identity and how you will act upon it.

Feel free to dismiss everything I just wrote. I hope you find a resolution soon!

Great advice. I agree it seems like it stems from self-hate/unfamiliarity but I'm no psychologist.

We can't be together because of the greedy airline industry. I'm gonna have to get a Gaffer closer to home

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He's taken, step off~

sorry boo

I am happily taken, it's true But I wouldn't mind having lunch as per Kirby's suggestion to see where you're coming from. I hail from Grand Rapids (for another 6 months). I think there are two other posters here who are from Grand Rapids, or from Michigan too, at the very least.

 

[Dead Prince]

I have a friend who I think is depressed. He was in my coming out group. He's always a social guy and pretty outgoing. Heard from a friend that he missed a bar shift without telling anyone. She went to his place (he lives with housemates) and she heard noise behind the door, but there was no answer. She asked his housemates and they said they only see him sometimes and that he's mostly in his room. I tried calling him and it does ring, but he doesn't pick up. I left a voicemail message saying that we're worried, that he can always talk to us and that we want to know if he's ok. He hasn't responded yet.

Last sunday me and a friend went to his house again. Went to his room , but no one opened the door. A housemate saw him go into his room in the morning but wasn't sure if he was home. Talked to two of his housemates and they also said they were worried, that he doesnt eat with them in the kitchen anymore and mostly shuts himself in in his room, and that they feel he needs someone to talk too. We wrote a letter saying that we were worried, and that he can always talk to us or someone else and that we just want to know if hes doing ok, and shoved it under his door. Yesterday one of his housemates said that he talked to him when he saw him and said that he told him that we were there and that we were worried. He still hasn't responded. We decided to leave a message to his mother and brother on Facebook, but I don't think they're very active on there because it still shows as unread.

Don't really know what to do anymore, besides keep going there in the hope he responds. It's obvious there's something going on with him. The good thing is he does leave his room from time to time, for work or school I don't know. The most drastic measure would be, when I know for sure he's home, to just go there and kick in his door.

Sigh, I don't know.

Personally me I would keep being persistent. I can't read him so I can't tell bit he could be okay if you keep doing it because once you stop he might be waiting for you to. On the other hand he might want you to stop.gut tells me don't stop trying. But don't assume it's anything bad. Just let him know you're there

 

[Kevyt]

We can't be together because of the greedy airline industry. I'm gonna have to get a Gaffer closer to home

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He's taken, step off~

sorry boo

Great advice. I agree it seems like it stems from self-hate/unfamiliarity but I'm no psychologist.



I am happily taken, it's true But I wouldn't mind having lunch as per Kirby's suggestion to see where you're coming from. I hail from Grand Rapids (for another 6 months). I think there are two other posters here who are from Grand Rapids, or from Michigan too, at the very least.

Oh myy...

Or yo, Ephemeral, have you thought about spicing things up with your husbando?

Wink Wink, nudge, nudge

(this is your chance pamplemousse!

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[Pamplemousse]

Great advice. I agree it seems like it stems from self-hate/unfamiliarity but I'm no psychologist.

Oh, I definitely hate myself, but I'm not sure what that has to do with anything we're talking about here.

Or yo, Ephemeral, have you thought about spicing things up with your husbando?

3phemeral is married?! Wow

 

[Dead Prince]

Oh myy...

Or yo, Ephemeral, have you thought about spicing things up with your husbando?

Wink Wink, nudge, nudge

(this is your chance pamplemousse!

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you say spice. all i see is a wet firework. (disgust)

 

[Blood Diamonds]

There's this guy in my class and he's so beautiful y'all don't even know

 

[Leona Lewis]

There's this guy in my class and he's so beautiful y'all don't even know

snap a creepshot tho

 

[Kevyt]

There's this guy in my class and he's so beautiful y'all don't even know

Sis, protip:

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Wank before class and make sure you're actually paying attention in class. C's don't look good.

Focus!!

 

[Pamplemousse]

snap a creepshot tho

I've done this before. There was this gorgeous guy who always sat across from me in the caf last year. He had long hair, like a sexy tarzan boy. &#128525;

 

[Dead Prince]

Sis, protip:

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Wank before class and make sure you're actually paying attention in class. C's don't look good.

Focus!!

D look better

 

[3phemeral]

Oh myy...

Or yo, Ephemeral, have you thought about spicing things up with your husbando?

Wink Wink, nudge, nudge

(this is your chance pamplemousse!

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Ah, don't make it so dirty. It's genuine concern.

Oh, I definitely hate myself, but I'm not sure what that has to do with anything we're talking about here.


3phemeral is married?! Wow

Technically it could be a domestic partnership, considering the length of time we've been together, but we've yet to officiate it until we're both where we want to be with out careers.

What part of Michigan are you from? The gay community here is pretty small and I'm guessing because of the political climate, developed into this extremely polarized masculine/feminine dynamic. You'll find guys here are very stereotypically "straight," like football-fanatical, beer-drinking, bar-hopping, and lumberjack aesthetic. Seems like it'd be easy to find what you're looking for.

 

[Pamplemousse]

What part of Michigan are you from? The gay community here is pretty small and I'm guessing because of the political climate, developed into this extremely polarized masculine/feminine dynamic. You'll find guys here are very stereotypically "straight," like football-fanatical, beer-drinking, bar-hopping, and lumberjack aesthetic. Seems like it'd be easy to find what you're looking for.

I'm in East Lansing right now for school but live in a Detroit suburb otherwise. I agree; it should be easy, but I can't seem to do it.

 

[3phemeral]

I'm in East Lansing right now for school but live in a Detroit suburb otherwise. I agree; it should be easy, but I can't seem to do it.

Oh - I've only been to Detroit and East Lansing a handful of times but I'm thinking it's pretty similar. EL being a college down I imagine has a larger gay community because of the younger demographic. Detroit should probably have the largest of the three, though.

Honestly, just make some friends. You need some positive examples of gay platonic relationships. I think the hurdle you have with accepting that is a more important hurdle to conquer that satisfying any sexual need that likely arises from a lack of positive representation.

 

[Kevyt]

Ah, don't make it so dirty. It's genuine concern.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

snap a creepshot tho

I would never do that omg I'd feel bad.

Sis, protip:

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Wank before class and make sure you're actually paying attention in class. C's don't look good.

Focus!!

Dude, I could have jerked off six times before going to that class and I'd still be taken back by that guy lmao

 

[3phemeral]

 

[Leona Lewis]

 

[Dead Prince]

I would never do that omg I'd feel bad.

Dude, I could have jerked off six times before going to that class and I'd still be taken back by that guy lmao

inb4 someone say it's a bad idea because invasion of privacy

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do it

 

[Kevyt]

Oh you changed your avatar picture.

inb4 someone say it's a bad idea because invasion of privacy

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do it

What's wrong with you?? (disgust)

It is a bad idea because of invasion of privacy and therefore it is morally wrong.

So BD sis, don't do it!

 

[Dead Prince]

Oh you changed your avatar picture.



What's wrong with you?? (disgust)

It is a bad idea because of invasion of privacy and therefore it is morally wrong.

So BD sis, don't do it!

not you playing two sides (disgust)

 

[3phemeral]

lol

Oh you changed your avatar picture.

::judging you::

 

[Dead Prince]

working out with gym guy sunday. will be livestreaming a special event in the dance room with him on chaturbate

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i'm only kidding. i want to hear Seath's opinion on this

 

[Kevyt]

working out with gym guy sunday. will be livestreaming a special event in the dance room with him on chaturbate

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i'm only kidding. i want to hear Seath's opinion on this

Do you really wanna hear my opinion about all of this?

(-.-)

>.>

 

[Dead Prince]

Do you really wanna hear my opinion about all of this?

(-.-)

>.>

i don't respect you but i respect your opinion.

 

[Kevyt]

i don't respect you but i respect your opinion.

I feel bad for the guy,

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jk... <3

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not really

 

[Kevyt]

Was I too harsh on the Prince? D:

I would never do that omg I'd feel bad.

Dude, I could have jerked off six times before going to that class and I'd still be taken back by that guy lmao

Then six isn't enough. Do it seven times.

 

[Dead Prince]

cut my life into pieces.

 

[Mostmanlyman]

I feel bad for the guy,

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jk... <3

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not really

The double jk damn thats evil.

 

[Dead Prince]

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Seath and I are only internet friends. weird one at it.

 

[DOWN]

This woman started tapping my window and startled me at the intersection and I looked at the bitch and yelled "No!" Then she smiled and she yelled "your gas cap is open" and I rolled down the window saying "sorry sorry sorry"

 

[Deleted member 465307]

This woman started tapping my window and startled me at the intersection and I looked at the bitch and yelled "No!" Then she smiled and she yelled "your gas cap is open" and I rolled down the window saying "sorry sorry sorry"

Did you think she was someone asking for money?

 

[TheAbsolution]

This woman started tapping my window and startled me at the intersection and I looked at the bitch and yelled "No!" Then she smiled and she yelled "your gas cap is open" and I rolled down the window saying "sorry sorry sorry"

Godamn dude. Don't assume that everyone is out to ask you for money.