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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen
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TenCentCoast
Banned
I finally got a hair band and am gonna start wearing a ponytail more often. Yay. I'm super excited.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
See, things are looking up already!
i remember youpeople can be so shitty. sorry man
this is something i didn't know i needed in my life
It's just the lack of self-confidence and depression talking. Funny thing is, when one manages to raise their confidence levels, it's usually then that other people want to hang out with you or contact you.
I hate when that kind of thing is called "law of attraction" because I'm always reminded of The Secret and other similar shameless money-grabbing-psychology stuff I dislike, like Vortex by the Hickses.
I know the question wasn't aimed at me, but I did and loved it. At first Mitko felt like an enigma, although as I kept reading, I realized the author drip-fed enough information about him that in the end I was able to understand him fully. But honestly, I was a bit confused by the "fiction" tag since the whole thing read more like a slighty embellished autobiography, even down to the protagonists' name which wasn't mentioned iirc, but was described as monosyllabic (author's name - Garth).
Anyway, hope Bladenic finishes reading it soon because I'm curious to hear what he thought of it.
p.s. Although I knew Bulgarian was somewhat similar to my native language (Croatian), it was still quite interesting to see the similarities peppered throughout the book.
Aarglefarg
Member
Part of my job is asking to check people's bags as they leave where I work. There are signs at the entrance saying offering one's bags for inspection upon exiting is a condition of entry.
Today, I asked one woman to show her bag. A man she was with took her bag and told me "It's a woman's bag". To which I responded "yes". He said it again and was hostile, and said that a female worker had to check it. I said okay, stood back while one approached to check. The man was hostile that I was still facing them, so I faced away and he said that he's a muslim and men don't check women's bags. He was muttering angrily about me and glaring as he left.
The area is 45% Muslim and I ask to see many Muslim women's bags. If he said "I want a woman to check it" up front it would have been clear what he meant but saying "it's a woman's bag" doesn't mean much. 90% of the bags I check are women's bags!
Today, I asked one woman to show her bag. A man she was with took her bag and told me "It's a woman's bag". To which I responded "yes". He said it again and was hostile, and said that a female worker had to check it. I said okay, stood back while one approached to check. The man was hostile that I was still facing them, so I faced away and he said that he's a muslim and men don't check women's bags. He was muttering angrily about me and glaring as he left.
The area is 45% Muslim and I ask to see many Muslim women's bags. If he said "I want a woman to check it" up front it would have been clear what he meant but saying "it's a woman's bag" doesn't mean much. 90% of the bags I check are women's bags!
Same tbh. I don't really have many friends these days and I don't get invited to anything, which is a contrast to just a few years ago.
I want a real boyfriend so bad...
I just want to know what it's like to cuddle with someone you like for real.
I want a real boyfriend so bad...
tbh id trade in all my past ones for a decent fake
Literally same. I've watched all my old "friends" abandon and forget me one by one. I still have a few close people I talk to but I don't doubt the fragility of even those relationships.
What's worse is that the friends I have I see like once or twice a year if I'm lucky due to us all having full time jobs and stuff.
Trying to move to a location where I will be closer to them and hope I can set things up to hang out more.
TenCentCoast
Banned
If anyone needs to talk, I'm here. I get what it feels like to lose friends and feel shitty for being single. And just in general.
also I'm very lonely
Things not going well with the SO lately?
TenCentCoast
Banned
Things are actually great, I'm just terribly clingy and when she gets busy I kinda don't have much else to do because I'm so focused on her. It's something I'm trying to work on. Our four-month was actually yesterday.
Aarglefarg
Member
I have a lot of stress from what I described earlier. I know that what I did was fine but he didn't think so and was very angry and this is stressful. For him, it was a very culturally inappropriate thing I did, though he didn't communicate that to me well enough. She didn't seem to mind.
Thequietone
Member
I personally think he overreacted. You shouldn't worry too much. You were just doing your job.
You've just reminded me of Mikhail Litvak's "20 tips/pieces of advice to overcome obstacles in life" I had bookmarked as a reminder. I should print them out for myself and stick to them, tbh.
Anyways, I found these interesting and useful:
Henchmen21
Banned
In the mood for some biscotti but have none
Ardainian Soldier
Member
How come?
More like a sudden realization, i used to think more of myself compared to those guys who sleeps with 3-4 different guys each week
Now that i'm kinda doing the same i think it's glorious
I mean not all guys of my weekly routine are strangers but still
I also dropped Grindr and installed PlanetRomeo, wich is a fuckin pot gold (met n fucked a military guy wich i'm losing my mind over)
You mean, how cum
Also your fault tbf
Much more freedom now lol
Yeah but I started posting here, so I'd say y'all won in the end tbh
Well you are a Trails/Olivier stan so I agree.
I know right!
Me too. I want to know what a real relationship is like with the dating and getting to know one another sort of thing. Seems nice in theory.
There's a really insightful interview with the author at Electric Literature, and you'll see why, I think, some of it comes across as almost autobiographical. This bit was funny:
I don't subscribe to the idea that once "old people" die, the world will be a better place because there will be considerably less racism, homophobia, transphobia, etc...
I just don't believe it. I've seen more homophobic/transphobic/racists/sexists individuals who were younger than 30 than older folks (50+). To me this is just a myth.
And then there comes the school essay on black history month from a catholic high school on Louisiana. Or the fact that many of Milo's followers and supporters are young men. In addition to the fact that many in the alt-right are young men.
Sorry, but bigotry will not die off with the older generations... Biggest myth ever told. I:
I just don't believe it. I've seen more homophobic/transphobic/racists/sexists individuals who were younger than 30 than older folks (50+). To me this is just a myth.
And then there comes the school essay on black history month from a catholic high school on Louisiana. Or the fact that many of Milo's followers and supporters are young men. In addition to the fact that many in the alt-right are young men.
Sorry, but bigotry will not die off with the older generations... Biggest myth ever told. I:
You Know Nothing
Member
This is a somewhat valid assessment, but I mean statistically younger generations are more accepting. But the radicalization of young, white men who have been convinced they're the victims in this new ultra diverse American future is a problem that has to be dealt with.
DOWN
Banned
Kinda seems like Seath is right tho. The amount of prejudice out there is dropping way slow https://www.washingtonpost.com/blog...ls-are-just-about-as-racist-as-their-parents/
I am inclined to believe that prejudice and racial prejudice will always exist among communities that lack diversity, education, and personal experience with those outside their race and traits. Seems especially true with the white South.
You Know Nothing
Member
Definitely true. Racism will be a thing as long as de facto segregation and white flight are things. Most white people know someone who's LGBT because LGBT people can be white and be parts of their community. The same can't be said for them knowing someone who's black, Latinx, Asian, etc.
Via Purifico
Banned
28 and oldest i'd consider dating is 36 and youngest? maybe 25
That guy was being a dick, don't even let it bother you.
Via Purifico
Banned
double post
umop_3pisdn
Member
28
~25-40
~25-40
28 and I would go up to 38 for oldest and 25 for youngest
Dead Prince
Banned
18-99
Thanks for posting, that bit made me laugh
Also surprised to find out he was an opera singer, especially the influence of that on his writing, i.e. the way he feels language. Impressive.
35-70 would be my ideal range.
I love older guys, especially guys in their late thirties/early forties.
Also, something weird happened to me. There was a guy in a car with a heavy accent that stopped next to me as I was walking home. It was a middle eastern guy in a suit with a heavy accent asking for money. He said he lost his wallet and needed some money to get to Florida for gas and such. He told me to get inside his car and we would go to the nearest ATM since I only had my debit card with me and he gave me his ring which he said was very expensive 14k something gold ring, and he said he would also give me his necklace which was also gold and I could give him my number and he would contact me and deposit me money. He said he was a businessman from Dubai.
It all sounded very sketchy to me until he showed he had his wife with a baby in the back and another toddler in a baby chair thing in the back of his car, and he said he could give me as much money as I wanted to if I helped him out. So I agreed, if anything because of the children and wife lady. I got into his car, we drove to the nearest ATM and I gave him 60 dollars and told him he could keep his ring (he wanted me to have it) and said I was okay, I didn't need his money. I really didn't want to give him any of my contact information just in case. However he said he was going to New York. He changed the narrative saying he was going to New York, when he first told me he was going to Florida. I found that fishy. Or I'm wondering if this is some sort of scam. Anyways, I just helped him because of the children and lady wife.
I dunno....
Edit: He originally asked for 50 dollars but the ATM dispenses in 20's so I gave him 60.
I love older guys, especially guys in their late thirties/early forties.
Also, something weird happened to me. There was a guy in a car with a heavy accent that stopped next to me as I was walking home. It was a middle eastern guy in a suit with a heavy accent asking for money. He said he lost his wallet and needed some money to get to Florida for gas and such. He told me to get inside his car and we would go to the nearest ATM since I only had my debit card with me and he gave me his ring which he said was very expensive 14k something gold ring, and he said he would also give me his necklace which was also gold and I could give him my number and he would contact me and deposit me money. He said he was a businessman from Dubai.
It all sounded very sketchy to me until he showed he had his wife with a baby in the back and another toddler in a baby chair thing in the back of his car, and he said he could give me as much money as I wanted to if I helped him out. So I agreed, if anything because of the children and wife lady. I got into his car, we drove to the nearest ATM and I gave him 60 dollars and told him he could keep his ring (he wanted me to have it) and said I was okay, I didn't need his money. I really didn't want to give him any of my contact information just in case. However he said he was going to New York. He changed the narrative saying he was going to New York, when he first told me he was going to Florida. I found that fishy. Or I'm wondering if this is some sort of scam. Anyways, I just helped him because of the children and lady wife.
I dunno....
Edit: He originally asked for 50 dollars but the ATM dispenses in 20's so I gave him 60.
Does the pulse matter?
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
21
19 (18 still has the stench of high school on them and literally no life experience) - 24.
At least at the moment, once I have kids I would be opened to at least 50.
Aarglefarg
Member
Thanks. Sharing what happened and a bit of time passing has helped.
Maybe tell the police what you remember like the story and the description of the people and their car. Or maybe there is a scam reporting phoneline where you are.
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