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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen

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driggonny

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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21

I can't imagine dating someone too far out of my age range so something like: 18 - 25

But now that I think about it... I probably wouldn't shy away from someone up to early 30's.
 
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DOWN

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I'm 24 and would prefer like 30-50, but I think I'd gravitate toward an age gap of like 10 years because more than that makes aging and such worrisome
 
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Little Mons†er

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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18

Youngest would be 18 obviously lol and the highest would probs be 20/21. Not a big range but in my case it's for the better tbh. But really not looking into dating right now, best to just have fun really
 
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Kevyt

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Aarglefarg said:
Thanks. Sharing what happened and a bit of time passing has helped.


Maybe tell the police what you remember like the story and the description of the people and their car. Or maybe there is a scam reporting phoneline where you are.
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Now that I think about it I think I did get scammed, lol.

Oh well hopefully I'm just being cynical and it really was someone who needed help.
 
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Berordn

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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I'm 26. I don't really have any hard limits but I guess my upper limit is 36, and the low end would be 24?

Basically I'm just trying to date someone within my generation so they don't potentially die before me, and also so I don't have to deal with kids right out of school.

but i'll hook up with anyone
 
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driggonny

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Would any other bisexual people in this thread mind telling me about how they came to terms with their sexuality?

For some reason I'm always skeptical of myself. I find guys attractive and even fantasize about them often, but when when I think about actually being out as a bisexual man I start to heavily second-guess myself. I've fully embraced bisexuality on an internal level but for some reason I'm unnecessarily worried about others being skeptical for some reason. But that doesn't really make sense...?

I guess I feel like nothing short of straight up losing my gay virginity would calm my mind, but I'm not the kind of person to do hook up stuff so idk

In my better moments none of these thoughts matter and I feel super comfortable with being bisexual, but every time I try to move forward I get nervous.
 
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Vazduh

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Paging B-Dex.

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Whew.
 
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Poppy

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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im 27

youngest is 21, i dont trust anybody under the age of 25 or so anymore but at least if we can get drunk i can ignore it

oldest is i dunno, like 33. thats one year younger than my sister so it seems good enough
 
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Palmer27

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I'm 19, probably 18-27? I want someone in a similar enough place in life to me aka studying and not consumed by work varied with drinking.
 
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Aarglefarg

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driggonny said:
Would any other bisexual people in this thread mind telling me about how they came to terms with their sexuality?

For some reason I'm always skeptical of myself. I find guys attractive and even fantasize about them often, but when when I think about actually being out as a bisexual man I start to heavily second-guess myself. I've fully embraced bisexuality on an internal level but for some reason I'm unnecessarily worried about others being skeptical for some reason. But that doesn't really make sense...?

I guess I feel like nothing short of straight up losing my gay virginity would calm my mind, but I'm not the kind of person to do hook up stuff so idk

In my better moments none of these thoughts matter and I feel super comfortable with being bisexual, but every time I try to move forward I get nervous.
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You mean becoming comfortable?
I started reading a lot online about bi topics like the history of activism and biphobia, opened up where I felt comfortable to, and a big thing was there was a podcast which is no longer online which I listened to a lot. It was just two bis talking casually about anything and building up in-jokes. Listening to that repeatedly helped normalise bisexuality for me.

One major thing that stopped me doubting myself when I realised that I was unconsciously downplaying some attractions to tell myself that they didn't count. It was confirmation bias. You might find that's happening for you and if you catch you're doing that then it could help. But when a lot of the talk people have about bisexuality is based on doubt, it could be a recurring internalised problem and not something totally cleanly solved.

Just with regards to thinking just sex could calm your mind about it: It was a strong crush that made me need to take my same-sex attractions seriously instead of dismiss it as curiousity that supposedly everyone had according to allegedly supportive messages from the media.
 
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ZombiePlatypus

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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31 here.

Youngest 22 (I guess? Maybe 21 but that's pushing it.) Oldest I wanna say 48 but that seems like an oddly arbitrary age. Somewhere in that neighborhood I guess. :p
 
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Dany

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tbh I don't think I could date anyone who is still in college. So at least 21?

Most is probably 10-15 my senior?
 
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DOWN

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I came out to my aunt and cousin last night by mentioning my boyfriend when they stopped in the city for dinner with me. They're liberal so I was usual nervous but it went off without a hitch and it seemed normal to them. Also they had me cackling because my aunt unfriended my other aunt for "being so dumb" and I asked what she meant and she said the Trump logic was a mess. Then my niece told me about how she is notorious for ruining trump signs and she visited a friend's dorm just so she could rip down the roommate's trump posters and left.
 
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Snowybreak

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driggonny said:
Would any other bisexual people in this thread mind telling me about how they came to terms with their sexuality?

For some reason I'm always skeptical of myself. I find guys attractive and even fantasize about them often, but when when I think about actually being out as a bisexual man I start to heavily second-guess myself. I've fully embraced bisexuality on an internal level but for some reason I'm unnecessarily worried about others being skeptical for some reason. But that doesn't really make sense...?

I guess I feel like nothing short of straight up losing my gay virginity would calm my mind, but I'm not the kind of person to do hook up stuff so idk

In my better moments none of these thoughts matter and I feel super comfortable with being bisexual, but every time I try to move forward I get nervous.
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I became comfortable with my sexuality upon entering high school. It took a bit, but I just kinda came to terms with it after too many times staring at this one guy's ass.

After that I had a quick talk with my mom about it, and she just said "If you find a husband, make sure he can cook" and left it at that.

Vazduh said:
Paging B-Dex.

C5TOxOvWMAArMzy.jpg


Whew.
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Whoa... Fuck. I was born 100 miles south of where I should have been.
 
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Sai-kun

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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25, youngest I would date is 21 because 18-20 year olds can't go to bars/some shows. Oldest is probably late 30's.

driggonny said:
Would any other bisexual people in this thread mind telling me about how they came to terms with their sexuality?

For some reason I'm always skeptical of myself. I find guys attractive and even fantasize about them often, but when when I think about actually being out as a bisexual man I start to heavily second-guess myself. I've fully embraced bisexuality on an internal level but for some reason I'm unnecessarily worried about others being skeptical for some reason. But that doesn't really make sense...?

I guess I feel like nothing short of straight up losing my gay virginity would calm my mind, but I'm not the kind of person to do hook up stuff so idk

In my better moments none of these thoughts matter and I feel super comfortable with being bisexual, but every time I try to move forward I get nervous.
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Hi there! I've identified as bi since I was around 13-14 (so almost 12 years now)! I was really shy as a kid, and being into guys and in high school was a pretty scary/weird thing. I wasn't raised religious, and I was on the internet a lot as a kid, so I had a handful of online friends that were either guys who liked guys, or girls who liked guys who liked guys (aka weeaboo girls who liked yaoi lmao), so I think that made it simpler for me to understand what it meant to be bisexual, and helped me not to beat myself up for my attractions.

I didn't come out to anyone (in real life) until I was 17, when I started dating a guy, and that was something only my closest friends knew about. (Well, I'm sure some friends/family had inklings that I was queer, but I never went and told them.)

In freshman year of college, I came out to my roommates and that was pretty monumental for me, since I was coming out to people I had known for only a couple months. Their acceptance played a huge part in my being comfortable being out to people. They had girlfriends, and I had my boyfriend, and it didn't matter because we'd still stay up until 4 am getting trashed and playing Halo all the same.

A couple years later, my guy and I broke up, and I was single for a few years, until I started getting to know a girl, and it was really fucking cool. In the process of getting to know her, meeting up, and going on a couple dates, the worries of others being skeptical about my identity started to surface. When I was dating a guy, my queerness was immediate, and obvious, but when dating a girl, it wasn't quite as obvious (although I think I primarily read as queer, idk)

WOW okay so that's a lot of words and I don't know where I'm going with this because I am tipsy TBH, so I'll just end this by saying that the most important thing is to be comfortable and to have knowledge of yourself. If you know you're bi, your virginity status with people of any gender is completely fucking irrelevant, and the people who would try to shame you or put you in a box over that are also completely fucking irrelevant. You do you. That's literally the only thing that matters when it comes to your identity. I lost my virginity with a guy a long time before I lost it with a girl, and although I sometimes questioned myself, I know where I stand now. You don't have to have sex to have a sexual identity.

I hope this helps somehow. You can always ask more questions here, or PM me if you wanna chat more. That's what we're here for!
 
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driggonny

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Aarglefarg said:
You mean becoming comfortable?
I started reading a lot online about bi topics like the history of activism and biphobia, opened up where I felt comfortable to, and a big thing was there was a podcast which is no longer online which I listened to a lot. It was just two bis talking casually about anything and building up in-jokes. Listening to that repeatedly helped normalise bisexuality for me.

One major thing that stopped me doubting myself when I realised that I was unconsciously downplaying some attractions to tell myself that they didn't count. It was confirmation bias. You might find that's happening for you and if you catch you're doing that then it could help. But when a lot of the talk people have about bisexuality is based on doubt, it could be a recurring internalised problem and not something totally cleanly solved.

Just with regards to thinking just sex could calm your mind about it: It was a strong crush that made me need to take my same-sex attractions seriously instead of dismiss it as curiousity that supposedly everyone had according to allegedly supportive messages from the media.
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Thanks for responding!

You're right, I 100% downplay my attractions. This might be tmi
(I mean, this is the thread where we talked about cum swallowing :p)
but whenever I'm looking at porn I feel like I'm constantly testing myself. Stuff like: "Sure, I find this guy attractive but he's super feminine, I should look up a sexy manly man." I even do a variant of that when I'm out-and-about and find myself attracted to someone. It's stupid and I should just let it be.

Are you saying that doubt is normal for bisexual people? If that's the case then I actually might find that comforting.

Snowybreak said:
I became comfortable with my sexuality upon entering high school. It took a bit, but I just kinda came to terms with it after too many times staring at this one guy's ass.

After that I had a quick talk with my mom about it, and she just said "If you find a husband, make sure he can cook" and left it at that.
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lol I had a similar experience. Came out to my mother and she seemed perfectly fine with it. Unfortunately, I started brushing off those thoughts so I think I pushed my growth back a bit. :/
 
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Snowybreak

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driggonny said:
lol I had a similar experience. Came out to my mother and she seemed perfectly fine with it. Unfortunately, I started brushing off those thoughts so I think I pushed my growth back a bit. :/
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I just leaned into them to see how I felt about them. Same reason I argue with people in any politics thread that deals with LGBTQ people, I test myself by internalizing my sexuality. By doing that I have grown more and more comfortable with it.
 
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Deleted member 465307

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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I must be stingy because my target age range (which is also around where I'd set my limits) is way smaller than everyone else's. I'm 24, and I would probably date people between 2 years younger than me and 3 (maybe 4) years older than me. I see myself as having a 5- or 6-year spread that is currently slightly skewed towards older. As I age, I could see the range shifting to be equally distributed across the younger and older ends of the spectrum.

DOWN said:
I came out to my aunt and cousin last night by mentioning my boyfriend when they stopped in the city for dinner with me. They're liberal so I was usual nervous but it went off without a hitch and it seemed normal to them. Also they had me cackling because my aunt unfriended my other aunt for "being so dumb" and I asked what she meant and she said the Trump logic was a mess. Then my niece told me about how she is notorious for ruining trump signs and she visited a friend's dorm just so she could rip down the roommate's trump posters and left.
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Congrats! Your aunt sounds like a fun person to be related to.

Sai-kun said:
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I'm not bi (at least, no more than a 5.5 or 5 on the Kinsey scale), but I really appreciated what you shared. Thanks, Sai-kun. :)
 
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Fades

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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Though I'm off the market and not dating, hypothetically my range would be somewhere around 22 to...maybe 45 or so, with me being 24. I don't usually tend to click well with people my own age, even simply as friends, so my interests tend to stray on the older end of the spectrum—the husband's 38, for example.
 
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driggonny

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Sai-kun said:
I hope this helps somehow. You can always ask more questions here, or PM me if you wanna chat more. That's what we're here for!
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Thanks for sharing! I think hearing stories like yours helps a lot. I've never PM'd anyone before but I'll keep it in mind!

I was raised religious so I didn't even realize that I could like guys until I was 16. Like, the signs were there and blatant before but I never actually realized until then.

I should go to my campus's lgbt resource center soon. I keep trying to get myself to go but I get really anxious with the same thoughts that I posted earlier in the thread.
 
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Kevyt

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Deciding if I want to go to a gay club or not... I want to go but I find clubs to be intimidating and not my thing, but part of me wants to go as a way to meet others.

Ugh... I:
 
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KmA

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I'm 23 and I think I'd prefer someone a bit older than me. So like ideally I'd like someone 26 or older but I'm not picky lmao.

Also I just told my mom that I'm gonna stay at this girl's place this weekend to help her move. And she was like I'm so happy you have a girlfriend now.

??????????

This is the same woman who threatened to cut my balls off if I ever had sex with a girl. And she knows I'm gay. I swear I don't know what to do with her.
 
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Henchmen21

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KmA said:
I'm 23 and I think I'd prefer someone a bit older than me. So like ideally I'd like someone 26 or older but I'm not picky lmao.

Also I just told my mom that I'm gonna stay at this girl's place this weekend to help her move. And she was like I'm so happy you have a girlfriend now.

??????????

This is the same woman who threatened to cut my balls off if I ever had sex with a girl. And she knows I'm gay. I swear I don't know what to do with her.
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She's clearly still in denial
 
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Aarglefarg

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Here's Australian Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull doing fashion, and less fashion, respectively:
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driggonny said:
Thanks for responding!

You're right, I 100% downplay my attractions. This might be tmi
(I mean, this is the thread where we talked about cum swallowing :p)
but whenever I'm looking at porn I feel like I'm constantly testing myself. Stuff like: "Sure, I find this guy attractive but he's super feminine, I should look up a sexy manly man." I even do a variant of that when I'm out-and-about and find myself attracted to someone. It's stupid and I should just let it be.

Are you saying that doubt is normal for bisexual people? If that's the case then I actually might find that comforting.
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After I finished downplaying my attractions to men, I moved on to downplaying my attractions to women instead. Maybe you'll have that to look forward to for a while :). Denial and social expectations etc can make totally obvious things become unclear or invisible!

Self-doubt is totally normal. I haven't really had anything substantial for years but even for Establishment Bis :)P) like me aren't impervious to ideas that float around culturally.
KmA said:
Also I just told my mom that I'm gonna stay at this girl's place this weekend to help her move. And she was like I'm so happy you have a girlfriend now.

??????????

This is the same woman who threatened to cut my balls off if I ever had sex with a girl. And she knows I'm gay. I swear I don't know what to do with her.
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Instructions unclear, now I am gay.

Did you remind her (or plan to) or you just don't want to deal with it or?
 
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dragonlife

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DOWN said:
I'm 24 and would prefer like 30-50, but I think I'd gravitate toward an age gap of like 10 years because more than that makes aging and such worrisome
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Basically the same for me, though I'm slightly older than you.

Someone younger than me by 3-5 makes me wonder, but I wouldn't bat an eye for anything between the same age, or 10-15 years older. Or 20 (not that I get any, but I feel like the 10-year gap would be for relationships, and the ones beyond would be for fun. But you never know).

I do wonder why I'm so attracted to older dudes, though. There's no obvious reason to me other than that some just look amazing.

Ultimately, it just depends on the guy.
 
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DyslexicAlucard

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Vazduh said:
Paging B-Dex.

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Whew.
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My god, the things I'd do for (AND TO) my PM. He can stain my blue dress any day. Woof!

We definitely have the hottest world leader. I'm almost glad Obama is gone (not really), because it's not even a competition now. I loved the Trudeau x Obama bromance though. XD
 
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T.O.P

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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I'm 27yo

Youngest for me was 35 (don't care aboout young guys tbh) and oldest 53, best sex was a (and it's still going) 49, like, not even fuckin close

I guess my range goes from 35 to 55
 
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Delio

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Jeels said:
So, what's everyone's age and what's the oldest and youngest you'd date? Taking a survey for *cough* a friend.
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30

And i feel dating wise i'd want 21. Tho flirting wise meh i can flirt with 18 year olds. Oldest i think would be late 30s.
 
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Kevyt

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Anyone getting Horizon?

It was a game that I thought was just gonna look pretty on the PS4 but would lack essence and gameplay. I was wrong, at least according to the reviews. I can't wait for the 28th
 
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