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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen
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MetalGearZed
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RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
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Always appreciate your effort. Good write-up
Gibbs
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That doesn't sound right. I'd be seeking a second opinion, and soon.
Awesome news! Hope all goes well for you!
Great thread. I agree with you on all points!
TRUE ORDER
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After being for quite some time just reading (I have an hour to check my eyes this week) I come to say hi! Hahah
JCX congrats!
Hope you do great.
Sorry to hear about that beril, here's hopint that you get better soon. Good luck with the tests.
Welcome Gisele
JCX congrats!
Hope you do great.
Sorry to hear about that beril, here's hopint that you get better soon. Good luck with the tests.
Welcome Gisele
Fantastical
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I am just at the cusp of an overweight BMI. Feck
Brawly Likes to Brawl
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I've been taking a break on Persona 5 since I need to change the thermal paste on my PS3. I decided to take the opportunity to dig into my Steam copies of Dragon's Dogma and Dark Souls.
The fact that your keeping track of your weight bodes well for being able to get slimmer. Just stay positive and keep at it and you'll be fine.
The fact that your keeping track of your weight bodes well for being able to get slimmer. Just stay positive and keep at it and you'll be fine.
Elitist1945
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I've been watching porn FAR too much lately lol.
Henchmen21
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Define "too much". We talking red raw here?
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Pupi, if you aren't in Seattle currently, then you have a doppelganger who was at the restaurant I work at tonight 🌮🤗
rockinreelin
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This sounds like classic functional dysphonia. If it were truly a malignant disease you would be in a lot of pain unable to eat and would have lost massive amounts of weight. You should seek psychiatric help and a voice specialist more then anything as you have obvious self esteem issues affecting your everyday life. Our brains and body can play some unintentional tricks on us in stressful situations.
There was an article on this a while back in the guardian. Worth a read.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...ce-i-lost-my-voice-for-three-and-a-half-years
I have a friend whose wife has had problems like that that were stress related. We were actually talking about it just a few weeks before my issues started so I'm thinking he might have given my body bad ideas... But still it's not that serious yet and might still pass so I'll see what the doctors say
yep, agreed. people don't even get to know you and are already giving orders? fuck off
Yup and even asking about my pubes before a proper hello is funny but sad at the same time.
gay men think they are on grindr in every possible social circle.
I like to think that I'm actually rather simple to interact but sadly many of the gay guys I interact with cant even get on a basic conversation. I get it that some might find someone attractive but the need to know private stuff so quickly and being bossy about things without even knowing me is rather annoying.
Now another thing that possibly pisses me off more than that is people who kiss my ass non stop and cant focus on having a conversation. Flattery is nice and all but there is a point where it becomes boring and downright creepy.
Oh yeah, that's the thing. People these days don't really want to have a relationship (not even saying a romantic one), just on a very superficial level. Friends that you party with but don't know anything about what you are going through, for example. I advise you to just... stick to your selflove and move on? Because yes, while most people just want to "chill", there are some weirdos that want to engage in an actual conversation. BTW, I'm not condemning people, conversations can be hurtful since they demand you to be open, and that hurts these days. But some people are willing to try, and you should not think otherwise.
anyway that's why i don't date anymore, i wouldn't open myself at all
Gibbs
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Haha it's a sad reality of what things have become.
If someone wanted to know about my pubes they could see them on my instagram in my weightloss pictures.
People are assholes. Simple as that. I always get asked the age old "body hair? cut or uncut, top or bottom?" and I reply with "Bye Felicia!"
Details or it didn't happen.
Welp, I'm a Nintendo Switch owner already. This signifies a few (embarrassing) firsts for me, this is the very first HD console I've ever owned, totally skipped out on the 360, PS3, PS4, Xbone, and Wii U.
It's also the first time I've ever bought a gaming console this close to its official release, I'd wait years before I bought a console after it had already come out, I've absolutely no games until Friday because I thought Mario Kart 8 Deluxe was already out but it is not, LOL, but I really wanted to play that game, I''m also ready for when the Smash Bros Wii U port comes out! and also Mario Odyssey and if I feel like it, might get BOTW digitally right now.
I've always been a Nintendo fan and I'm more of a casual gamer than a core gamer, so frankly the Switch is a better fit for me than an Xbox One or PS4, what I also like about it is that Nintendo supposedly plans to support this console exclusively instead of releasing a portable machine and a home console so I'll get all the Nintendo games that will release in the future on this system.
Here's hoping for a good few years with this console!
It's also the first time I've ever bought a gaming console this close to its official release, I'd wait years before I bought a console after it had already come out, I've absolutely no games until Friday because I thought Mario Kart 8 Deluxe was already out but it is not, LOL, but I really wanted to play that game, I''m also ready for when the Smash Bros Wii U port comes out! and also Mario Odyssey and if I feel like it, might get BOTW digitally right now.
I've always been a Nintendo fan and I'm more of a casual gamer than a core gamer, so frankly the Switch is a better fit for me than an Xbox One or PS4, what I also like about it is that Nintendo supposedly plans to support this console exclusively instead of releasing a portable machine and a home console so I'll get all the Nintendo games that will release in the future on this system.
Here's hoping for a good few years with this console!
i wonder if it is possible for me to not be clingy, like anytime i actually like somebody my entire being goes into overdrive
i really have no interest in sex, i just want to attach myself to somebody who i like forever. i never have been like yeah thats an attractive person who i could sleep with i guess, whatevers cool. its always THIS PERSON IS NOT TERRIBLE AND THUS I REQUIRE THEM NOW
maybe i just need like, therapy or drugs (likely both) to take care of my emotional issues and that will prevent me from seeing any prospective new person as the one source of happiness i can have in life. it is frustrating to scare people off!
its definitely living in too extreme of a way where i dont care about 50% of people, actively dislike 45%, will be friends with 4.9% and then immediately try to latch onto the remainder like a tick and start using their lifeforce to fuel my own. probably!
i really have no interest in sex, i just want to attach myself to somebody who i like forever. i never have been like yeah thats an attractive person who i could sleep with i guess, whatevers cool. its always THIS PERSON IS NOT TERRIBLE AND THUS I REQUIRE THEM NOW
maybe i just need like, therapy or drugs (likely both) to take care of my emotional issues and that will prevent me from seeing any prospective new person as the one source of happiness i can have in life. it is frustrating to scare people off!
its definitely living in too extreme of a way where i dont care about 50% of people, actively dislike 45%, will be friends with 4.9% and then immediately try to latch onto the remainder like a tick and start using their lifeforce to fuel my own. probably!
I thought literally kissing ass for a second​... lol
Lol I'll just keep watching the stuff that pop ups. Its kinda amusing to see the patterns and what new stuff they pull out.
The funny thing is that if you treat me right you can get the answers and even pics easily. Heck some of my pics are on tumblr so I don't care much about it. My issue comes with the lack of common courtesy of getting to know you. I can be a horny guy (Ask the thread) but I tend to first try to get to know the guy and if things seem right on terms of personality i'll flirt and see where it goes but other people wanna go straight to fuck or giving you orders on what you gotta do or how you should look. I feel as adults we can talk about anything as long as we get certain level of knowing each other on a basic level but not even that is achieved. I do get some degree of entertainment from some of the messages or conversations but yeah its a mess.
I've met a few interested on that lol.
Gibbs
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No way!
I have lurked in here for months before logging in haha.It's basically a level of respect in communication. You know, a common courtesy of "hey, how are you?" and common interest. You'd like to know who you are talking to, and if there is any mutual feelings, interest, etc. I understand though completely, and yes, at times it can be humorous, but it also is upsetting at time wasting when the person barks orders, or tells you what you "should" be, verses who you are.
No way!
It's basically a level of respect in communication. You know, a common courtesy of "hey, how are you?" and common interest. You'd like to know who you are talking to, and if there is any mutual feelings, interest, etc. I understand though completely, and yes, at times it can be humorous, but it also is upsetting at time wasting when the person barks orders, or tells you what you "should" be, verses who you are.
I think I have reached the point that it has happened so much that its not as upsetting as it is annoying. At least Im finding the humor on it and it actually makes a decent conversation when trying to talk with other gay friends about the stuff we experience. I think to a degree the dating apps desensitized people on how to have common communications since Grindr made popular the meet and fuck aspect of hook up apps. Nothing wrong with that but try to remember the aspects of common courtesy and normal communication skills since not everyone is as dick or ass hungry as some guys are really.
As for the people telling me how to look its usually more about how I should shave my face or my pubes. The rest of my body rarely gets mentioned. Its interesting considering Im hairy all over and shaving my pubes or my ass I would end up looking quite weird and I dont see the appeal of the uneven look. That reminds me one of the times I shaved my facial hair and a friend when we met at the bar jokingly slapped me before kissing my cheek plus on facebook a few people were bothered by it which was rather stupid considering my facial hair grows fast and I dont usually stay clean shaven often.
What are some of the weirdest interactions or things people have asked you to do?
Gibbs
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Grindr is where it's at with the strange people ask or request things. I've been asked for various penis pictures, flaccid, erect, semi, stroking, blowing. Name it, I probably was asked. I've been asked for armpit pictures, leg pics. Mainly fetish shit.
As for being asked questions, I've been asked the countless "cut or uncut, penis size, shooter or dribbler, if i'd date hiv positive people(I'm clean as they come, only one sexual partner. This guy wanted me to bareback him without a condom and I was like uh, no.), would I be willing to hookup in the woods, then buy a guy weed, hotel and booze, I swear the guy was underage, One guy asked if he could lick my armpits. Like fucking really?
It's like Grindr set the new standard for communication in the gay community. I use to be a part of a gay videogame forum and the people there were awesome and friendly. You could actually have meaningful conversation. Thats where I met my ex, but now it doesn't matter if its Grindr, ok cupid, POF, Tinder. All in all they are all one in the same with communication. At times its hilarious to share aspects of what happened with people but it gets rather annoying and repetitive with the same shit. Its rare, but it is possible to find a decent person to talk to.
People are weird how they view things. I get some prefer clean shaven, or even no body hair.. but everyone is different. I mean,I have a hairy chest because I was obese at a time and I guess my hormones went wild, but I shave it. It's not a big deal, but I understand what you are saying. If your facial hair grows fast, then why does it matter to them? You appearance is what sets you off, and if your beard, pubes and whatever makes you happy, so be it. People are so shallow in todays world and picky. For facebook people to do so, I imagine they aren't use to seeing you that way, but its still the point.
I liked halfbeast's post in that Gay Loneliness thread. There's a simple sentence that resonates with a lot posts in here:
Made me stop and think for a minute. And that sentence describes gay dating apps quite well, doesn't it?
Of course, there are positive experiences (#notallgays ) and I'm glad for those who've found great people via apps, but I mostly hear about bad ones.
Made me stop and think for a minute. And that sentence describes gay dating apps quite well, doesn't it?
Of course, there are positive experiences (#notallgays
) and I'm glad for those who've found great people via apps, but I mostly hear about bad ones.
Personally, I don't use the apps, but then again, I've been practically a monk for years, so...
Gibbs
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Whoever is lucky to meet someone on a dating site deserves an award... because that shit is stressful, and most times its a waste.
You are the real winner in all this!
Cosmic Bus
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My partner thought it was weird that I kept my OKC account for a while even after we were dating because I actually enjoyed talking to several people on there simply as friends/acquaintances, heh. During my time on there, very few people were super blunt, rude, or crude in messages, but I guess it's all anecdotal. Never once used Grindr tbh.
Actually okcupid has never given me problem but not many people do conversation. Its the least annoying app.
Gibbs
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I stayed on okcupid for months just to talk to a few people that I had befriended. I think OKC is the best of the bunch, but I still had my headaches with it.
Stay away from Grindr, it will suck out your soul.
hey guys, hello, I'm new here although I have been checking thread fairly often since long time ago (long time reader), I decided to stop by and may be have some posts often here. To be honest I've been fairly lonely as I haven't really being in touch with none fellow gay men and I thought may be here I could talk with all of you (In my country that is something more difficult).
BTW, it is funny that you are talking about how hard is to have a meaningful communication with other gay men in the community, because that has been my problem, people want to find quick and dirty sex and I'm not cut for that, I have found so very few gay men that actually like to have a conversation...
FTFY
Gibbs
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LOVE IT.
Hey you! Be warn, these crazy kids in this thread. They are harmless, but some probably do like to lick...
and bite
Welcome to the club though! Gay men are an enigma wrapped in a riddle. One way or another, we here will find a way to break the gay mans will and make communication great again!
thanks, I've seen the thread often and yeah, I saw how this thread can become somewhat... naughty
nothing out of the ordinary though... you all seem awesome.
these last couple of weeks have been so stressful. I'm an English teacher, psa.
so, a student of mine translated a text from portuguese into english and handed it in. I gave it a zero because that's plagiarism but then... he burst out on me, called me a shitty teacher, started to lie about things i did and said to my bosses. and now everyday is just
stress.
people are so mean. sorry about this it's just that i don't really have a place to talk about this since everything that i say publicly could be used against me, so at least i have this nameless profile. i feel like trash, even though every single one of my coworkers back me up. i'm tired
so, a student of mine translated a text from portuguese into english and handed it in. I gave it a zero because that's plagiarism but then... he burst out on me, called me a shitty teacher, started to lie about things i did and said to my bosses. and now everyday is just
stress.
people are so mean. sorry about this it's just that i don't really have a place to talk about this since everything that i say publicly could be used against me, so at least i have this nameless profile. i feel like trash, even though every single one of my coworkers back me up. i'm tired
- adele
Gibbs
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thanks, I've seen the thread often and yeah, I saw how this thread can become somewhat... naughty
nothing out of the ordinary though... you all seem awesome.
I've stalked this thread for months before logging into my account. I had to be stealthy to see if I could hang with the cool kids.
Everyone here seems great, you should fit in just fine.
Umm, you called a student out on his bullshit plagiarism and he wants to blame you for the world? Fuck him. He won't get far in life if he isn't willing to put in the effort.
HUGS to you. I can't imagine the stress he has put on you, but if you got the support of the school staff, then let him be a little arrogant shit. Could the student be removed from your class?
thing is: he's a lawyer (YES, A LAWYER THAT PLAGIARIZES). so ughhhhh this is getting bigger and bigger by the day. and no the school so far hasn't lifted a single finger.
(also thanks
)
Gibbs
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thing is: he's a lawyer (YES, A LAWYER THAT PLAGIARIZES). so ughhhhh this is getting bigger and bigger by the day. and no the school so far hasn't lifted a single finger.
(also thanks
A lawyer that plagiarizes? What the actual hell. The kid isn't going to get anywhere in life, let alone be taken serious if he keeps this shit up. If he keeps adding stress to you, could you possibly get him for slander? Unless the school doesn't want that sort of attention.
To me, and from what I'm gathering. The kid sounds like a pompous asshole who has had an easy ride, and now wants to destroy who has finally called him on his bullshit. I could be wrong though,
he's an old man. his masculinity was hurt by my callout. that's what happened.
like, i'm in a super serious situation regarding my mental health and then this shit happens, and all the work that i'd done has simply gone to waste. i KNOW that being a teacher is hard and students will not care about you, but going to a legal ground because of a simple paper is... wow. i simply cannot. i'll probably take some time for myself once the semester is over.
thing is: he's a lawyer (YES, A LAWYER THAT PLAGIARIZES). so ughhhhh this is getting bigger and bigger by the day. and no the school so far hasn't lifted a single finger.
(also thanks
I have a friend who is an english teacher too, and as she has told me many times, some professionals, specially teachers, have to grow a thicker skin. Students, superiors and parents are usually really good to make hell of the job.
don't let it get to you, remember that if he did that, it is most likely because he got really pissed off from you finding it, he will think it twice before doing it next time. Don't get bothered by it.
even if the school doesn't do shit, you did your part, there is not much more you can do without making it your own vendetta (which I don't suggest at all)
I can already say you I've seen those cases many times...
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