Lol how do you know they didn't have an arrangement for cooking already set up? Like he works all day so she agreed to take care of the cooking ? If I came home after working all day and my SO is chilling playing fucking video games in a dirty house with no food I'd flip my shit.
My Girlfriend Keeps Getting Stoned All Day and Playing Fallout
- Thread starter Marion Cobretti
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Oh good I'm not the only one. I live in a partially furnished apartment and I came home one day after a vacation to find the landlord had mounted the TV to the wall way too high up. Playing video games is a pain the damn ass (or neck I guess) now. I even tried to take it off the wall and put it back where I had it but it's been bolted on there. I came home one night drunk and irritated and tried to pretend I was the hulk and tear it off the wall and ended up just cracking the frame like an idiot.
Basically fuck wall mounted TV's.
Marion Cobretti
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Guys, I don't mind cooking for myself, but she used to always cook. Cooking is something she loves to do. She's been into games before, but Fallout has just taken her to a whole new level of love. I haven't seen her this into a game since Snatcher or Symphony of The Night. But even then, she's obsessed with Fallout.
Devolution
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Yeah sometimes there are arrangements based on who is doing what that day or who has the rougher work load.
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Transhuman
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Then he should take the advice of the 40 or so people who said "fucking talk to her", and talk to her.
She will only avoid the issue and make adorable puppy dog eyes and make Seinfeld jokes.
Marion Cobretti
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I just tried talking to her about it, and she simply said "what the fuck, like you've never been this into a game?"
Maybe I'm being the lame one here.
Maybe I'm being the lame one here.
Not just games, mind you. If the girlfriend loved Farmville, this would be a different story.
DanteFox
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If the man works, the woman should cook imo. If you played video games all day instead of going to work she'd have equal grounds to be upset.
Classy lady you got there. Tell her you visit a forum filled with the most hardcore gamers on earth and even they think she's going overboard.
Classy lady you got there. Tell her you visit a forum filled with the most hardcore gamers on earth and even they think she's going overboard.
Arrogant Bastard
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Has this ever happened before?
Honestly though, you just need to talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel and that this is a problem for you. It is the holiday break, shes toking to much and playing a lot of Fallout. Talk to her, I'm sure she knows it is too much. Try to remember your past experiences when hooked on something (this isn't to excuse the behavior) it is just to help you understand. The most important thing is to not be a jerk about it.
Prepare a nice dinner for both of you, pull her away from the game, and just explain it in a non-accusatory manner. Do not attack her for the toking/gaming, trust me; this will only backfire and make things much worse.
Could not disagree more. I really dislike the idea that the home is the domain of one individual if the other is working. The home is about both; as such both should clean, cook, and do household chores. Yes, this is regardless of the fact that there is a sole bread-winner. Sure the individual that is not bringing home a monetary income should do the majority, but you are asking for a dysfunctional scenario if you set it up as I work therefore you cook.
Honestly though, you just need to talk to her about it. Let her know how you feel and that this is a problem for you. It is the holiday break, shes toking to much and playing a lot of Fallout. Talk to her, I'm sure she knows it is too much. Try to remember your past experiences when hooked on something (this isn't to excuse the behavior) it is just to help you understand. The most important thing is to not be a jerk about it.
Prepare a nice dinner for both of you, pull her away from the game, and just explain it in a non-accusatory manner. Do not attack her for the toking/gaming, trust me; this will only backfire and make things much worse.
Could not disagree more. I really dislike the idea that the home is the domain of one individual if the other is working. The home is about both; as such both should clean, cook, and do household chores. Yes, this is regardless of the fact that there is a sole bread-winner. Sure the individual that is not bringing home a monetary income should do the majority, but you are asking for a dysfunctional scenario if you set it up as I work therefore you cook.
Devolution
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True as hell.
Good point.
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Maybe she's trying to make a point? Maybe look back on how your behavior was with games in the past and think about whether or not it upset her or something?
That quote seems pretty hostile though. Gotta wonder if there's more to this.
Lol
Whipped Spartan
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Sounds great. Wish my wife still played games. Fallout 3 too! Marry her.
Also she probably felt the same when you played it.
Also she probably felt the same when you played it.
Coffee Dog
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You should dump her if she's impressed by fallout 3's writing. You don't want to associate with that rabble.
You should bring her on to GAF, introduce her to the fellas.
Charlie McCarthy
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Yep, people with addictions never see what they are doing as a problem, that's why the lame "just talk to her" advice won't work. She will have to realise it herself, that's really the only way. The defensive way she came back at you shows this.
I don't think you are being lame, its just the advice people are giving you here is wrong.
Marion Cobretti
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Yeah, PSO on Dreamcast. That was really bad too, but we were young then.
She was pretty chill when she said it. She's definitely not mad at me. Just really into this game.
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Transhuman
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Have you explained how she's making you feel like she doesn't have time for you anymore, and that a videogame seems to be more important than your relationship? What did you say to her, paraphrasing if nec?
We have a tiny, blurry window into a stranger's life. Let's not be too sure of ourselves.
Marion Cobretti
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I sat next to her and asked her if I could speak with her, and without looking at me she said my speech level was not high enough.
She's just obviously just in marathon mode.
Northeastmonk
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You should dress real nice, make dinner in a apron, invite her to the table, candles lit, and have "the talk".
Wow. Just cringed pretty hard.
DanteFox
Member
Fair point. I've never played Fallout. Maybe it really is that good.
Zoe
Member
Damn, how long have you been dating??
I figured anybody who mentioned it is probably on the ignore list of those who are all for it
Well, have you? It sounds to me like she's going overboard, especially if she's neglecting you to play a game after she's been playing during the entire period you've been at work. The OP makes is sound like she's smoking weed and playing Fallout from sun up to sun down every day. Have you done similar things with the frequency she's exhibiting now, or is she playing Fallout and neglecting you far more than you've ever done when you've been into a game?
I used to play WoW with this couple who played all the fucking time. Like there was not a moment when one of them wasn't online except for maintenance days. You'd hear their kids in the background crying and shit... Was pretty sad. They got their kids taken away from them And as far as I know they still play ( I stopped in 09)
Suburban_Nooblet
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Nothing to see here.... MOVE ON. My wife is a hardcore pc gamer. Not a stoner but we drink a lot.
DREAM GIRL
cubicle47b
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She's funny. If the last time this happened was years ago (how long have you been dating?) it's probably just a phase that will pass soon. If it was an MMO or MOBA I'd be a lot more worried. That's not to say she doesn't need a bit of an intervention if it's causing serious problems in your relationship.
I dunno this sounds like addiction. Both with pot and fallout. Seek professional help maybe? I have no idea since i have never been in this situation.
Edit: also from my personal experience the worse i have ever been when i was basically addicted to WC3 dota. Thats what all i did everyday.
Edit 2: as others said maybe shell get sick of it and go back to her normal routine
Edit: also from my personal experience the worse i have ever been when i was basically addicted to WC3 dota. Thats what all i did everyday.
Edit 2: as others said maybe shell get sick of it and go back to her normal routine
Arrogant Bastard
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So it does not happen often then? I mean we are talking about what, ten years ago? I would imagine then that this is probably going to pass. Be a good partner, be understanding, cook some dinner, and let it go. I would still tell her how you feel about it all though, just do it in a non-accusatory manner.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
i wonder if she is doing this to prove a point, now. where you've ignored her a lot because you've been playing games.
sir, list the games you play/played in the past
Suburban_Nooblet
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What is he profession? AKA does she make money..... if so, leave her be my dude.
Devolution
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It won't be a dysfunctional scenario if a balance is struck between someone who is working/working more and the person who isn't. The latter should pick up more of the slack for stuff that needs to be done in the home. Gender doesn't matter. That's common sense to me.
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