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[Valhelm]

Scouts is actually a multi-tiered thing, of sorts.

There's the Cub Scouts, which is for the really young kids, around 7 to 11 years old. Then there's the Webelos, which is sort of an in-between for Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts. I think you have to be at least 12 to become a Boy Scout, and once you turn 18, you can't be a Boy Scout any longer. So there's a time limit on stuff like earning merit badges and going through the ranks (i.e. Tenderfoot, Second Class, First Class, Star, Life, Eagle).

EDIT: Valhelm said it first, I think. Actually, looking at Wikipedia it says that it's ages 10 to 18.

Webelos are just Cub Scouts in 4th and 5th grade. It's weird because "Cub Scout" is both a rank and an organization.

The Cub Scouts ranks are Cub Scout -> Bobcat Scout -> Wolf Scout -> Bear Scout -> Webelo. But the whole organization is called Cub Scouts.

It's similar to the older Boy Scouts group. The initial rank is just "Boy Scout", even though an Eagle Scout is still a member of the Boy Scouts of America.

 

[Rest]

I am 31 years old. When I was 14, I was brutally assaulted by a complete stranger. It took me years to even begin to come to terms with that. But that isn't my confession. No, my confession is this.

Every single time I hear someone say that a drunk girl that is black out drunk at a party that can't make coherent decisions is a victim of rape, I want to hit them in the back of the head, force them to the ground, and show them what rape is. I want them to know what it feel like to have some stranger on top of them, holding them down, and violating them. I want them to know what I went through, what I still have nightmares about, and what I still live in complete fear of. And then, I want them to look me right in the eye, and tell me with a straight face that a drunk woman making piss poor decisions is the same as what I went through.

I have confronted people about this before. It never ends well, to say the least. "They're victims just like you!" "It's still rape!" Blah blah blah. No, they are not victims like me. They will never be victims like me. A few might be, but most? Most will go about their lives and possibly find themselves in that situation again. And they will call it rape, shrug their shoulders, and go back to life probably forgetting about it in a few weeks. I will never forget that day. What he said, what he smelled like. What he felt like.

So, to sum up my confession: If you think that a girl getting hammered and sleeping around is the same as a girl being brutally attacked and sexually violated, quite frankly I think you are more fucked in the head than I am and I fucking hate you for perpetuating that kind of bullshit.

Defining rape is kind of a tricky subject. We all know what it is, but living in a free society means that laws have to create a kind of parity between some situations that are in reality quite different but have some fundamental, if small, similarities. Parity under the law creates new conversations in society and affect how people think of some topics.

So, for instance, a lack of given consent has to be considered, whether a forceful action was taken in a personal interaction, or whether it's agreed upon by society that a person who gave consent actually wasn't in their right mind. You should look into the Rectification of Names, or maybe think of it as the "agreement of terminology." Just because people aren't talking about the same thing as you doesn't mean that they aren't using the best word for the topic.

I think you should look into changing the English language instead of trying to minimalize the the plight of others.

 

[CesspoolofHatred]

Webelos are just Cub Scouts in 4th and 5th grade. It's weird because "Cub Scout" is both a rank and an organization.

The Cub Scouts ranks are Cub Scout -> Bobcat Scout -> Wolf Scout -> Bear Scout -> Webelo. But the whole organization is called Cub Scouts.

It's similar to the older Boy Scouts group. The initial rank is just "Boy Scout", even though an Eagle Scout is still a member of the Boy Scouts of America.

I knew my memory was a bit fuzzy on the Webelos thing. Thanks for the correction.

It's been a few years since I was really involved in the Scouts stuff.

 

[Halcyon]

I only made it to Bear scout. I wanted to be a Webelos so bad, but I we moved and then I just stopped doing it.

 

[TangerineCloud]

I am 31 years old. When I was 14, I was brutally assaulted by a complete stranger. It took me years to even begin to come to terms with that. But that isn't my confession. No, my confession is this.

Every single time I hear someone say that a drunk girl that is black out drunk at a party that can't make coherent decisions is a victim of rape, I want to hit them in the back of the head, force them to the ground, and show them what rape is. I want them to know what it feel like to have some stranger on top of them, holding them down, and violating them. I want them to know what I went through, what I still have nightmares about, and what I still live in complete fear of. And then, I want them to look me right in the eye, and tell me with a straight face that a drunk woman making piss poor decisions is the same as what I went through.

I have confronted people about this before. It never ends well, to say the least. "They're victims just like you!" "It's still rape!" Blah blah blah. No, they are not victims like me. They will never be victims like me. A few might be, but most? Most will go about their lives and possibly find themselves in that situation again. And they will call it rape, shrug their shoulders, and go back to life probably forgetting about it in a few weeks. I will never forget that day. What he said, what he smelled like. What he felt like.

So, to sum up my confession: If you think that a girl getting hammered and sleeping around is the same as a girl being brutally attacked and sexually violated, quite frankly I think you are more fucked in the head than I am and I fucking hate you for perpetuating that kind of bullshit.

I'm sorry for what this confessor had to go through, but this... this is some tragic, toxic bullshit.

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

I miss the funny confessions about people who pooped their pants.

 

[HGStormy]

I miss the funny confessions about people who pooped their pants.

My self esteem doesn't permit me to confess to embarrassing things such as that.

I once ate 3 boxes of fruit strips over the course of 48 hours. Am I funny yet

 

[John Kowalski]

I miss the funny confessions about people who pooped their pants.

Pooping you pants is not funny.

It's not funny at all.

 

[Resilient]

You got a tongue for a reason, brah. I don't think getting blind drunk with the girl will help though.

4 inches is small. Sorry bro 😳

 

[Nyoro SF]

I miss the funny confessions about people who pooped their pants.

There was a godlike confession I heard before where someone deliberately farted up a storm to stop the guy in the bathroom stall next to him from talking on his cell.

 

[-COOLIO-]

I am 31 years old. When I was 14, I was brutally assaulted by a complete stranger. It took me years to even begin to come to terms with that. But that isn't my confession. No, my confession is this.

Every single time I hear someone say that a drunk girl that is black out drunk at a party that can't make coherent decisions is a victim of rape, I want to hit them in the back of the head, force them to the ground, and show them what rape is. I want them to know what it feel like to have some stranger on top of them, holding them down, and violating them. I want them to know what I went through, what I still have nightmares about, and what I still live in complete fear of. And then, I want them to look me right in the eye, and tell me with a straight face that a drunk woman making piss poor decisions is the same as what I went through.

I have confronted people about this before. It never ends well, to say the least. "They're victims just like you!" "It's still rape!" Blah blah blah. No, they are not victims like me. They will never be victims like me. A few might be, but most? Most will go about their lives and possibly find themselves in that situation again. And they will call it rape, shrug their shoulders, and go back to life probably forgetting about it in a few weeks. I will never forget that day. What he said, what he smelled like. What he felt like.

So, to sum up my confession: If you think that a girl getting hammered and sleeping around is the same as a girl being brutally attacked and sexually violated, quite frankly I think you are more fucked in the head than I am and I fucking hate you for perpetuating that kind of bullshit.

i can sympathize with this.

all rape is bad, but not all rape is equal. we should be able accept this in discussion about rape without acting as if it trivializes anyone's rape experience.

to the confessor, i hope the grasp that experience has on you continues to weaken each day, faster and faster.

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

Just so you know, a woman is most sensitive at the mouth of the vagina than they are deeper in.

And a lot of women only really get off from clitorial stimulation anyhow.

I'm pretty sure most of the women here on Gaf will agree that size matters a ton less than most guys think.

I don't know that I agree 100% Yeah, near the opening is the most sensitive but...
>.>
There's something to the feeling of being "full." So... yeah... ahem.

 

[Septimus Prime]

It matters to the guy. How else are you going to win dick measuring contests!?

 

[Psychotext]

There's something to the feeling of being "full." So... yeah... ahem.

Mineshaft_Gap

 

[Acorn]

It matters to the guy. How else are you going to win dick measuring contests!?

With money rolls like CEOs.

 

[Wazzy]

i can sympathize with this.

all rape is bad, but not all rape is equal. we should be able accept this in discussion about rape without acting as if it trivializes anyone's rape experience.

to the confessor, i hope the grasp that experience has on you continues to weaken each day, faster and faster.

Turning rape experiences into a competition is disgusting and is only a mean to shame victims. The confessors stance is awful and is really toxic. It's full on shaming rape victims just because they didn't experience what they did.

 

[dani_dc]

I don't know that I agree 100% Yeah, near the opening is the most sensitive but...
>.>
There's something to the feeling of being "full." So... yeah... ahem.

Well this thread turned seems to become lewd fairly often.

I'm going to chalk it as a coping method for the rest of the confessions.

 

[FZZ]

I don't know that I agree 100% Yeah, near the opening is the most sensitive but...
>.>
There's something to the feeling of being "full." So... yeah... ahem.

I'm too pure for this shit

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

i can't cum from masturbating. my girlfriend has blown me twice and i came then, but i cant do it myself. i watch porn every couple days because it turns me on but i dont jack off. i've tried a lot but i cant. i once went for an hour and nothing.

You mean, you literally can't? Have never?

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Ok. So this is a story that only 1 person knows and even then they barely
know half. What gaf will get is the WHOLE story but only the abridged
version.
I'll reveal myself to be a shit head, lying asshole that I turned into. In
fact, the movie Gone Girl forced me to realize how two people can
contribute to a toxic relationship & use each other horribly. I'll lightly
detail the past 5 years.

Some details.
1. I'm Gay.
2. I'm extremely private.
3. I have a personality where I can admit my flaws, guilt & know.
4. I've suffered from depression which I've never sought treatment for till
now, and even then I don't take the meds.
5. Since my birthday is in july, I'll go over events before and after that
period. So think of the years starting in july
when I mention certain events. Except for Year 1. In other words July-July
= 1 year.
6. Due to a certain vice, my memory is kinda fucked in terms of years, but
this is accurate in order of what happened.

Year 1. The beginning.

I met someone I'll call Dexter. Dexter and I met on a website dedicated to
hooking up, Dexter and I chatted over a period of 3 months.
He's also 30 years older than me at the time. We talk all squishy, I SWEAR
that I'm in love with him. We meet, fuck for several hours on
and off and decide that after that we should move in together. He convinces
me to leave my family, I find out he is HIV positive and
he sweet talks me to stay after my initial scare is over. But he convinced
my signs were definite I caught him (allergies at the time,
I was fucking RETARDED.) A couple months later my family is gone and I move
out. They act scared, I'm just playing it off. Long story
short, till a few months ago I kept this charade up of lying about
everything to my family about anything that wasn't my PC, job,
nothing about him is known to my family he's a secret. I ended up relying
on this man for years to the point I CAN'T leave him,
even if I win the lottery I want nothing more than to have him in my life.

Year 2. The middle.

During this time, Dexter opens up the relationsip because my depression was
so bad all I wanted to do was beat off and fuck to
keep myself happy. It was literally the only thing. Cue months of reckless
and stupid sex, I was fucking 4-5 times a week when
I had time. Shit got pretty bad for me. My depression over the next year
eventually caused me to quit my job. The HIV was just too much
and came so close to killing myself several times. I'd go into random
crying fits and mope about for days at a time, this caused serious
issues with my mental health. I quit my job 2 months before my 21st. I meet
someone named Esteban, also HIV positive (Not real name obviously) at the
bathhouse
me and him start a relationship of fucking 2-3 times a week when we had the
chance. I told him about my relationship, he insist that
Dexter is an asshole and to get tested- negative. My entire world changed,
but those months did serious trauma I'm still trying recover from.

Year 3. The devloping nature of my currently personality.

After said revelation I turn into a piece of crap. My depression had
reached lows that led to a 2 year stint with joblessness.
I treated him like crap for driving me into what I did, he never knew why
he just complained that he loved me all the time and I
just in the back of my head considered him dead. I hated him, I hated
everything about his body, the way he talks FUCKING
EVERYTHING I HATED ABOUT HIM. I know most of that was caused by being
jobless combined with my depression but that was in
no way to treat him. I made fun of his body, made him self conciese of his
physical features years of the medication did
that's invisible to the naked eye. Made him feel like shit about his
medication cocktail that's given to people as a near
last resort at the time, again AT THE TIME. I'm making myself physically
sick typing this out.

This man put up with me for 2 years and bought me games/movies and took me
on vacation to keep me happy but it just didn't work.
But the whole HIV thing and realizing that this man manipulated me just
brought out the worst of me in these years. I
realize that on some level I didn't deserve a man this nice, that I should
have left a long time ago when he told me
about his status and hiding it till after we had sex. That he lied to me
about how long he's had it. That because of
his actions that I drove myself to a sex addiction (How i've remained
negative for STD's is nothing short of a miracle)

Year 4. Everything goes wrong and I'm an evil asshole.

Cue repeat above till after my 23rd birthday. I just hate this man and
everything he is and I hate myself for
trying to intentionally hurt him to the point I've made him physically
breakdown in a ball and cry and got satisfaction out of it sevearl times.
Don't get this twisted, I never PHYSICALLY harmed him till later which I'll
get into when he struck me. He ask me all the time why do I treat him bad,
I play the relationship 1 up game and mention that it's not like I ever hid
HIV status from you. During this time I do an all nighter
with a guy named Thomas (Again, not real name) and get my first taste of
crystal meth. I have hook ups with guys on crystal and suffer
the come downs and even got caught up being the top in a 5 man orgy...to
this day I feel disgusted I got caught up with this shit.

Year 5. The evil asshole, the new man, the everything i've committed myself
to changing.

I have a mild addiciton which I've hidden from him for all this time, and
much like I'm breaking the habit trough willpower alone and haven't touched

it in almost a year, according to everything I've done 2 years is the make
or break point, wish me fucking luck, if you don't hate me by now which
I understand.) And carry this vice for a while, I eventually reach a point
with this guy before my 23rd birthday where he has a complete freakout on
me.
Decided that at this point I don't want to touch this shit ever again. A
few months later I get a job ending my stint of over
2 years unemployment. A few months after that, I fuck around with Thomas,
got high and fucked for hours like usual. I let him know I'm working and
can't
do this. I have a couple relapses between late 2012-early 2014 but I'm
committed to getting clean.

This is the crecendo, I'm going to fast forward because nothings happen
besides being steadedly employed and typical fighting.

My relationship is basically just melted. It's negativity constantly. He
hooks up with these two guys I can't stand for ANYTHING. He kicks me the
night
before, I end up punching him in retaliation. The next day shit got so bad
the cops were called on us and I'm forcefully evicted by the cops. Remember
what
I told you about not being able to kick him out of my life? I beg for days
to come back, we're back together in a household where I know I shouldn't
be.

Here's where it gets worse. I feel like I shouldn't type this, but I'm
currently seeing someone else. We acknowledge we can be roommates and not
lovers.
I feel like that Dexter shouldn't have me here. I know I shouldn't be
around dexter after years of mental abuse from me. I want to break free
because I
know it's not healthy and is a LARGE contributing factor to everything
wrong with my personality now. The relationship is gone, it's over with.

My current boyfriend knows it's not healthy. He knows about my struggle
with addiction. He knows that I have extremely unresolved feelings for this
man who effectively ruined me at a young age (Not saying I'm innocent.).
But I tell him that I'm not what he thinks, he tells me that trough God
he sees a light in me that needs to come out. But I know when I call it
quits with Dexter and cut all ties I permanently have to change my ways,
I have to become active around the house more, I have to watch my tongue
around my new partner, I know I absolutely CANNOT fall into the pits
that turned me into such an asshole I am today. I have to change and I know
it will be a long road and to find someone that is willing to work
with me and understand on a level the type of baggage I have is crazy.


Current as of Nov 9th

I'm fucking crying typing this out because I'm such a fucking mess and I
know I've ruined myself some. But I have someone that shows me a sense of
love
that I haven't felt ever in my life and I can finally see light at the end
of the tunnel. I don't where life will take me...but I wish had the
courage to explain more but I don't. But this is the most I've ever said
about my life the past few years...I feel like I don't deserve someone like
this
Man because he truly is an angel to me and everyone around him and I look
at him and want to be like him. I don't where life is going to go in the
next few
months or years but for the first time in years...I'm hopeful.


And understand...my family has no idea about any of this. My new boyfriend
is 20 years older than me...but trough him I feel hope about my future. A
hope I
haven't felt in years. I fully intend to come clean with my family about
the past 5 years, introduce them to my current boyfriend and live a normal
life for the
first time it what feels like years. I don't want to be this person
anymore...I need to be something else. Take this as you will, but I will
stand firmly when I say DON'T FUCKING LIE, be true to YOURSELF and everyone
around you because one lie leads to another and shit gets worse.


That's my story gaf. Take what you will from it. I know I'm an asshole, but
I'm helping Dexter get out of the debt I put him in. And he knows about the
new person and I want nothing more than to make sure that I leave him with
a clean slate and enter the next phase of my life anew. Maybe I shouldn't
even be in a relationship...but who knows. We shall see.

 

[HGStormy]

What.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

question 1: do you listen to lana del rey

 

[NeOak]

Now we are getting somewhere.

And why ronito is like he is now. It wasn't just the dick pics lol.

 

[Psychotext]

question 1: do you listen to lana del rey

Ooh... I do! What does it mean?

 

[SliceSabre]

After reading that story I understand why ronito is broken now.

 

[Funky Papa]

I've never been happier of living such a pleasant, uneventful life.

 

[Jedeye Sniv]

I miss the funny confessions about people who pooped their pants.

When I was about 11 years old I was walking through the neighborhood with a friend and there's a bunch of kids having races on the grass (all a couple of years younger than us) so we challenge them to a friendly race (caveat - I am not good at running and have never ever won a race).

We get on our marks, get set and we go, sprinting off down the makeshift track. I'm running hell for leather, as fast as my chubby legs can manage when suddenly - squelch - I shart right there in my pants, the effort of running must have jiggled something around in my guts and it came out as a wet patty right there in my undies.

I hobble home, feigning a twisted ankle. I tell my friend. He laughs until he can no longer breathe.

I try not to run any more.

 

[BladeoftheImmortal]

Confession: I would ravage Michelle Obama sexually. I think she's super sexy and I'd like to spend the night with her in the oval office.

 

[Gamble]

Confession: I would ravage Michelle Obama sexually. I think she's super sexy and I'd like to spend the night with her in the oval office.

glad I'm not the only one that feels this way

 

[terrisus]

Confession: I would ravage Michelle Obama sexually. I think she's super sexy and I'd like to spend the night with her in the oval office.

Confession: Monica Lewinsky was sexy in the 1990s

Spoiler

Confession 2: She still is now >.>

 

[TangerineCloud]

Confession: Monica Lewinsky was sexy in the 1990s

Spoiler

Confession 2: She still is now >.>

Preach. Though, to be honest, I think she looks even better now.

*sigh* Middle-aged women are so attractive.

 

[CesspoolofHatred]

Well man, you're gonna need to be prepared for your family giving your 20-years-your-senior boyfriend the stinkeye. A lot of people find that gross, though I'm not gonna judge you.

Other than that, um.... I don't really know what to say. Stay off the crystal meth, and keep getting yourself tested for STDs, symptoms could take YEARS to show up.

 

[Mauricio_Magus]

I love this thread.

I'm pretty sure that I'll get a similar reaction if I ever send my confession, my life has been full of weird ass events.

 

[Kid Ska]

Woah.

 

[John Kowalski]

Good luck with your troubles gay sir. I hope you come to find peace in your heart.

 

[Blood Diamonds]

Ooh... I do! What does it mean?

It means you're into daddies, even if youre straight.

 

[Psychotext]

It means you're into daddies, even if youre straight.

...interesting!

 

[FreeMufasa]

I don't know that I agree 100% Yeah, near the opening is the most sensitive but...
>.>
There's something to the feeling of being "full." So... yeah... ahem.

 

[ThLunarian]

Hey Confessor,

You don't sound like an asshole or a piece of shit to me. You just sound like someone who was confused and maybe a little lost, and you learned some lessons. Nothing in that story really jumped out as you being a bad person. Things will get better as you get older and learn more about yourself and what you want.


And there's nothing wrong with sleeping around if it's understood and accepted by your partner. Just remember to be safe about it.

 

[War Peaceman]

Hey Confessor,

You don't sound like an asshole or a piece of shit to me. You just sound like someone who was confused and maybe a little lost, and you learned some lessons. Nothing in that story really jumped out as you being a bad person. Things will get better as you get older and learn more about yourself and what you want.


And there's nothing wrong with sleeping around if it's understood and accepted by your partner. Just remember to be safe about it.

Yes, the style of the writing makes it seem more deranged than it actually is. Just keep away from hard drugs and practice safe sex and you'd be mostly fine.

 

[jorgeton]

Keep your head up and stay off the meth OP. Also, I would even suggest to be single for a while and work on yourself. It seems a lot of your problems stem from relationships.. maybe take some time to be alone and figure yourself out, then go and find a partner. But good luck with everything.

It means you're into daddies, even if youre straight.

Accurate. So accurate. Dat Ride video...

 

[Psychotext]

Don't think I've ever seen any vids.

 

[Masquerader]

An apt reaction. Although you aren't as bad as you think you are~

I love this thread.

I'm pretty sure that I'll get a similar reaction if I ever send my confession, my life has been full of weird ass events.

Mhm, I know I did. I don't want to discourage anyone, but if you post a confession, you will feel mocked, and even more hopeless than you thought you were.

 

[HGStormy]

Mhm, I know I did. I don't want to discourage anyone, but if you post a confession, you will feel mocked, and even more hopeless than you thought you were.

Is that supposed to be a good thing?

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

An apt reaction. Although you aren't as bad as you think you are~



Mhm, I know I did. I don't want to discourage anyone, but if you post a confession, you will feel mocked, and even more hopeless than you thought you were.

I dunno, I think for the vast majority of them, people offer decent advice or words.

Unless they were just really, really terrible.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I have an MA and regret it.

I was scared of the future in college, and I think earning an MA was my way of putting it off. Now I pay off student loans for my master’s degree at a retail job that doesn’t require a high school diploma.

I feel lost.

Side note, both BA and MA are liberal arts degrees.

That blows, dude. Unfortunately, seems to be a fairly common situation for a lot of people in your place.

You can't leverage your education into a teaching/research post or something?

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I love my gf, she is a sweet, caring, beautiful woman who tries her best to make me happy....and she annoys the living hell out of me at times.....

We have been together going on 4 years now and a long story short, even though I love her I just can't help but feel we are total opposites emotionally, and I know she feels that way too. Her affectionate nature is to the point of unstable clinging, if I'm in the bathroom dropping a dueve she will knock on the door and ask me how much longer am I going to be; if I leave the house to go help a friend move or even just to go to a comic store for some "me" time she will call me 5 or 6 times until I answer and try to start some dry uninteresting conversation.

She has had a rough past and life, her mother died when she was a teen and her oldest sister adopted her simply to collect the inheritence money and otherwise treated her like crap most of her life. She didn't really start getting to know her father until she early 20's and by the time they started getting close he also passed away, as a result her siblings on his side for the most part treat her like the problem since she was the secret child no one knew about.

She was married to a guy she only knew for a short while and their marriage ended after 2 months resulting in a child that he never wanted to claim but she forced him to accept the child and be in their lives....he now has primary custody of that child due to an emotional outburst she had years ago that resulted in him calling the cops on her and her being tossed in jail and a mental facility for a while.

Bottom line she's just been desperate to have someone love her and to love someone ever since her mom died, the problem is I didn't realize this until AFTER we were together and she was pregnant. I blame myself for that because I had just come out of a few crappy dating situations and it was nice to have someone appreciate me for a change, though I didn't realize the appreciation was actually turning into borderline obsession.

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish I could pack up and leave her and not look back, but I wouldn't dare abandon my child and not to mention I would feel guilty if my gf decided to do something to herself as a result since she has attempted suicide already, she's been to a number of therapist but none of them seem to help the situation and one even went to the point of telling her that she seems to come to therapy simply to just complain and not actually work past her problems which I would have to agree with.

I genuinely do love this woman but I know I will never be happy with her, I've only stuck around this long because I am afraid of what may happen if she is alone with our daughter and snaps, I know this is long winded and very underwhelming....I just feel like I'm in more of a hostage situation then a relationship, I've been hoping she would leave on her own when I told her how I felt but she hasn't, I've gone so far as to tell her I will never marry her and that I have not been happy in years but she still says she loves me too much to leave me; really I know it's just the fact that she's been alone so much that she'd rather stay with someone who doesn't want to be with her then be alone.....

I don't know what to do anymore and feel like I'm slowly loosing my mind......

Holy Christ, dude. That is an awful situation to be in.

Honestly, if counseling and therapy does not work for her, you gotta take your daughter and bail. Tell her that until she has herself sorted out, you can't come back. This situation isn't fair to you or your daughter. I can sympathize with your girlfriend's life and experiences, but the way she treats you isn't okay and it definitely isn't healthy.

 

[crazygambit]

To the guy above, start pushing for some increasingly deviant sex. She will either leave on her own or you at least get to have some crazy sex.

Win/win.

 

[Masquerader]

Is that supposed to be a good thing?

Think of it as something of a baptism by fire. A rather big kick in the teeth, but definitely enlightening, and offering forth a new perspective or two for your hopeless, miserable confession.

Well, as long as you accept it, that is.

I dunno, I think for the vast majority of them, people offer decent advice or words.

Unless they were just really, really terrible.

Yes, I suppose so. I don't think that mine was one of them terrible ones (it had nothing to do with... Lesser-known fetishes, for one), although it did raise enough eyebrows for me to feel a little bit embarrassed, even without it being anonymous. You are correct, though. I did get some decent advice, I guess. Happy stuff, too.

 

[terrisus]

Preach. Though, to be honest, I think she looks even better now.

*sigh* Middle-aged women are so attractive.

<Awkward internet high-five>

Following that on the internet back then was pretty interesting.