Late reply... sorry... but I'm interested in hearing some of them.
Is it ever enough to put you off from Cosplaying? And how do you (or other cosplayers) draw the line between "unwelcome attention" and "welcome attention"?
It's never been enough to stop me, but at the same time, I'm a 6'3", 240 pound man who's race is not easily discernible. People don't step to me, that's my privilege. But most of the time when I cosplay, I'm with friends, usually very attractive twenty something females with very ideal bodies who attract a lot of attention. So a lot of times, I'm running interference. I have become exceedingly good at running interference. The only thing that keeps me from cosplaying all the time is my schedule and my increasingly wanning lust for sewing.
But let's see. I'll just tell personal stories that apply for me. One year at Otakon I was dressed as Faust from Guilty Gear and had split off from my group to go to the GG group photoshoot. Everything went as normal for a while until, suddenly, out of nowhere, I was sidetackled by a girl dressed up as Zappa. In the end I probably did more damage to her than she did to me with her tackle hug but still, she did not slow down, it was a full on D-End charging tackle into my side. She was nice, but spastic and we talked for a minute about guilty gear and how she loves Faust and how she has all this Faust X Zappa fanfiction. Then as I was leaving, she asked if she could kiss me, which I said no, and left.
Things like this are uncommon, but they tend not to be talked about because for most guys at an animecon, this would be considered a "win". But it wasn't anything I wanted any part of. And keep in mind for every 1 story I have like this, I have 15 where I had to shew away guys who were creeping on my friends or coming at them with phones in bad angles or tried to grope them while they were getting their pictures taken. I give a lot of respect to managers of young singers because I bet that's what their entire day is like.
And if you like cosplaying, you understand that stuff like that is going to happen, you have to accept it, because the moment you don't, it's the moment where this is no longer fun for you and is no longer worth doing. Not all girls have someone like me around when this is going down. I've seen girls get cornered in dark corners of hotels by guys before, girls put in to genuinely scary situations that, 9 times out of 10, you (you as in me) are better off not being a part of. Cosplay gets younger every year and a lot of people see anime cons as places to drop off their kids unsupervised for a few days because, "what's the worst that can happen at a convention in a hotel filled almost exclusively with nerds". And then you get the Anime Boston 2012 Rave.
I won't stop. None of my friends will stop. But we know the score. We've played this game for a long time.