Anyone here, or know someone who has, volunteered to become a Big Brother/Sister? What was your/their experience like?
i do know a Stevens Engineer graduate who was involved with it but i'm not in touch with him at the moment. sorry, i didn't ask too many details but from i gathered, he shared it was pretty positive and some others in Hoboken were involved in a similar nonprofit organization. they genuinely took their schedule seriously and cared for the volunteered time which was great.
personally, i run something similar for work in West Windsor/ Princeton area but it's on the opposite of end of the spectrum of underprivileged though. i'm in it for the monies, jk (i'm getting paid vs. volunteering)
our goal is similar to that Big Brother program: but instead of underprivileged, we deal with the stresses of students in a highly competitive environment since there's major pressure to achieve at an early age. this can lead to depression, substance abuse and other risk behaviors. GAF even had a thread re: Caucasian parents protesting/moving out of communities bc Asians are too competitive and were pushing the curriculum learning curve too high. quoted was the NY Times article about the West Windsor/Princeton area.
not sure if my experience or this info helps but hopefully it gives an idea of mentors interactions:
as the director of the program, i had to come up with guidelines to define the mentors role:
mainly our volunteers come from undergraduate/grad students who are closer in age to high schoolers vs. middle schoolers. (we have some Med students and Resident in their rotations volunteer time weekly as well):
so these guidelines are for the big sibs that are closer in age to keep their roles defined and not dilute mentorship to " just buddies."
1) A big sib may not hang out with their lil sib past 9:00 pm. Any form of activity partaken in should end after dinner. There is nothing good that can come from ”hanging out" when it is dark. So please make sure to send your lil sib home early!
2) There shall be no substance abuse or alcohol consumption of any sort with the lil sib. This includes, but is not limited to: recreational drugs, dinner wine, mixed drinks at restaurants, or at the birthday parties of the mentors.
3) Refrain always hanging with the lil sib. We do not want the lil sib to get to dependent on the big sib. The lil sib's need to learn to stand on their own two feet - an important lesson the big sib needs to teach the lil sib throughout the season.
4) Always be supportive but do not always try to force advice. Even if the lil sib is making a huge mistake or going down the wrong path, trying to step in immediately might chase the lil sib away. Being supportive and setting a good example is always the best route to take.
probably differs from the role at Big Brother but the common central point i heard my friend share about his volunteer experience over there was just "being there" for the mentee was probably the most important factor.