heidern said:
That's after she's been specifically asked if she wants to marry a particular individual, then yes she can give her consent by remaining silent to that question, or if she doesn't agree, she can just say no, it's not exactly complicated. And she can withdraw her consent at any time before the wedding is complete, and that includes during the ceremony where she can change her mind and say no.
You want to portray reality as fitting the letter of Islamic law. But if honor killings exist and are not uncommon in Islamic countries, not to mention in smaller numbers in the West amongst immigrants, in supposed violation of Islamic law, then why would that not also be true for this as well? In fact, it is true. Women are pressured and intimidated to keep quiet, fear for their own safety works well in that regard. The idea of silent consent is ridiculous, what legitimate need does this serve? What basis is there for this? Coercion works well in silence.
And what of the common practice of sending children back with relatives to their native countries where they are then forced into marriage against their will? You would think that if Islam was all about Allah giving honor and rights back to women, that in countries applying Islamic law, you would see more of this than not. Funny, that.
heidern said:
I suppose you think kids should never be allowed outside the house because some nutter might kidnap and kill them. No.
Your analogy is flawed. Honor killings are committed by people that these women should have the greatest safety with, their own family, not some random stranger who is deranged. They do so to protect their so called "honor", not in furtherance of sick compulsive psychological or sexual gratification.
You say that Islam is directly opposed to this behavior, so where is there widespread condemnation in the Muslim world, or a normal commonly applied Islamic legal remedy and punishment? Where does this regularly occur in countries applying Islamic law? And if not that, where is the widespread condemnation, you know, something even remotely comparable to the Jyllands-Posten Muhammad cartoons uproar.
I guess there is one standard that I could find being applied here too, "
under Islamic law, a lack of open objection, or silence, both amount to consent."...
heidern said:
Honour killings are rare and it is presumptious to assume that it is likely in this case.
The UN puts the number of honor killings at over 5000,
PER YEAR. I never said that it was likely in this case, I very specifically said that "
those dangers are a very real possibility" and "
she runs the risk". POTENTIAL RISK.
heidern said:
Running away is also not necessarily necessary. Staying and fighting your ground may be an easier path than leaving everyone and everything you know and obtaining independence in terms of finding a home/job etc.
Oh right, easier. Especially if one
assumes that there is no risk in her staying with her family, eh? Almost as if somehow the whole situation of her being
FORCED into marriage doesn't even exist, or at least any logical implications arising from that don't. But hey, if they do kill her, at least she will only be one of those RARE 5000+ per year occurrences that some people might *tsk tsk* at, but not too loudly.
Maybe she does have a decent family though. A decent family that for some reason decided to
FORCE their daughter to marry against her will. But somehow they are still decent. Still, assuming that is the situation, at least I have broached the subject as if it had some significance for her and muslim women in general, which it does. I have yet to see one muslim adherent here do so other to say that it is against Islam, which really doesn't help those dead women, or those women who will be dead due to the seeming lack of widespread, or even regional, outrage about this issue throughout the Muslim world. People died over Muhammad cartoons, but not your own unlawfully slaughtered women?
*tsk tsk*
heidern said:
Oh, and another possibility is for her to speak to the guy her parents want her to marry, explain to him her situation and that she doesn't want to marry him and try to persuade him to take action stop this situation from proceeding.
The guy who most likely wants the
FORCED marriage to occur? Because if he didn't want it or agree with it, why isn't he loudly protesting against it? You know, in furtherance of his own faith.
So she should put her faith in him, and assume that he won't contact her parents, as has happened in other cases, and her family then deals with it? Again, you seemingly come with the assumption that no danger exists. Because this solution is no solution at all unless that basic assumption is made. Remember, the safety and well being of the woman is the priority here, well, speaking for myself it is.