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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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20, Stony Brook (going to school). Message girls from the city, even if it is just to talk to them and maybe you get someone to hang out. I also message girls that are like 27 asking the most ridiculous things. I take this site with a grain of salt and only made an account because all my friends were and we wanted to see who could pull the most girls. I've probably found 3 girls I'd seriously like from first look/talk and this girl is one of them, easily the victor actually 
If I never get a text I will seriously be sad.
If I never get a text I will seriously be sad.
jobber
Would let Tony Parker sleep with his wife
It's ok bud. I've seen a ton of "women" have conversations with other guys then vanish overnight just to appear again.
I only question the validity of the person because why would you join a dating site, talk to people with the same interest, then delete the profile unless something fishy was afoot.
I had 3 dates from OKC before the 3rd wound up being my g/f.
All 3 dates involved movies. The first was a movie at my place, the 2nd and 3rd at their place. Just pop in a movie you've both seen or one has seen, then you two can just talk during it and have a reason to cuddle up.
The first date I tried to be quite creative about it. I picked her up, we went and walked around the campus area she goes to school at, grabbed some fruity drinks she likes there, took her back to where I lived to walk the dog around a nice nature reserve, then came to the casa for some movie/fondling, and then took her home.
Date 2 was just I came up, she had a movie in, we talked a lot and had fun, and I ended it with a kiss.
Date 3 was I came up. Popped in a movie we both saw, talked a lot, grabbed a bite to eat, came back for more movie and some cuddling/making out.
Movies work fine, so does food, but you want to avoid a theater.
20, Stony Brook (going to school). Message girls from the city, even if it is just to talk to them and maybe you get someone to hang out. I also message girls that are like 27 asking the most ridiculous things. I take this site with a grain of salt and only made an account because all my friends were and we wanted to see who could pull the most girls. I've probably found 3 girls I'd seriously like from first look/talk and this girl is one of them, easily the victor actually
If I never get a text I will seriously be sad.
sup bro, I'm gonna be at sushi palace in center reach on saturday.
TurtleSnatcher
Member
Really..??
I haven't done a damn thing but fill my profile and answer questions. Got another one this morning :\
It could be a # of things.
1) You have super attractive pics
2) The girls are not "hot" to many people
3) Your area
4) Random luck/right timing
Either way enjoy it!
Joel Was Right
Member
I dont get jack
Perspicacity
Banned
Maybe she wants to meet up
jobber
Would let Tony Parker sleep with his wife
stalkerrrrrrrrrrrr
lol, so true.
Power Glove
Member
She only lost my respect after she flaked.
Maddocks
Member
this might have been answered but ill ask anyway.
is there a way to have it only show you matches that are 80% and above only? match and friend. I do the quick search and it shows me 50 15% matches before one good match/friend % person. so i would like to end that wasted time clicking skip.
is there a way to have it only show you matches that are 80% and above only? match and friend. I do the quick search and it shows me 50 15% matches before one good match/friend % person. so i would like to end that wasted time clicking skip.
HP_Wuvcraft
Banned
RedAssedApe
Banned
I don't understand the Recent Activity Feed. Why are people outside my region included in this? Can I change this? I'm in Los Angeles and I don't really want to know what girls outside of my state (and outside a 50 mile radius for that matter) are doing on the site.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
Entered correspondence with a lovely and geeky lady, this time I started the convo. Hope it goes well, she was quick to respond to my first message.
ThisWreckage
Banned
I don't either. No one can convince me that the vast majority of the female users on this site are not in a relationship. I swear I think most women join to test the waters and see if they still have the ability to attract men.
That costs monies, though.
I'm just stunned at how many fat chicks are on here. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I expected to see a ton of super models, but it's absolutely shocking how many manatees are flooding the site.
Da1nonly J
Member
Keep shooting homie
Been exchanging messages with this foreign girl almost every day for about a week or so, today it got to the point of exchanging phone numbers and some IMs, there are rough plans to meet tomorrow at a pub, let's see how this goes.
Not the kind of situation I'm used to, I'm no extrovert nor does she seem to be, thinking of having a drink or 2 before heading there for the sake of some social lubrication, and here's hoping we haven't worn out most topics of conversation in all the written exchanges...
Not the kind of situation I'm used to, I'm no extrovert nor does she seem to be, thinking of having a drink or 2 before heading there for the sake of some social lubrication, and here's hoping we haven't worn out most topics of conversation in all the written exchanges...
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
Member
Are you wanting to meet people "From Anywhere"? Change that setting.I don't understand the Recent Activity Feed. Why are people outside my region included in this? Can I change this? I'm in Los Angeles and I don't really want to know what girls outside of my state (and outside a 50 mile radius for that matter) are doing on the site.
Usually something that sends the idea that I read the profile. It's a 50/50 play though, they get bombarded with the same question about the same thing over and over. I don't know if there's any right answer, just be yourself.
Percentages are worthless on there. The girl I'm seeing on there was a 60% match and 71% friend.
RedAssedApe
Banned
Not at all. I have it set to 25-50 mile radius usually. Just to clarify I'm talking about the Recent Activity feed and not my Matches.
I'm from Los Angeles and still getting activity updates for people from San Francisco, San Diego, and as far as Arizona. Maybe just some coding error.
This sucks. I traded about 30 messages with a girl who is 300Km away and asked for her number, but she wanted me to give mine instead. So we kept trying to convince each other to yield, which was fun, but now she hasn't been online for a week. I think I blew it : <
Im beginning to agree with this, I had 3 girls with 80~85% match percentage and everyone stopped replying my messages :|
Im beginning to agree with this, I had 3 girls with 80~85% match percentage and everyone stopped replying my messages :|
RedAssedApe
Banned
Did she give a reason for this? Go make a Google Voice one and give that out haha
I guess she's just shy, I'm hoping that her PC broke or something like that because she seems really cool. I'm totally going to try Google Voice if she comes back.
For some weird reason, nearly every time you start a new search, the system automatically changes to "special blend", which'll cause results from all over the country to appear. Just change that to something else, and you should be good.
At least, I'm assuming that may be your problem.
Maddocks
Member
Yeah, I agree now. Mostly because I was playing the 4-5 star game and really only wanted top matches instead of.....skip......skip.....skip.....4 stars.......skip....skip...
but now I just go match % read the profile, look at questions answered and then message them.
then I get zero replies. Which is fine, hard to get people to click or have them understand humor if they don't know your kind of humor. What is best type of short message to send from all of your view points? I like to be detailed, to prove I actually read their profile, but im afraid it might come off as nitpicking.
So my conversation with the white chick that hit me up a couple of days dried up; she didn't reply to my response. She last logged in on Friday when I checked yesterday. Should I try to rekindle her interest and send her a second message or move on?
I sent a couple of more messages out yesterday. One chick replied today. I just replied a few minutes ago. How do you guys keep messages from going dry since that always seems to be the case with me? Do you go for the number after about 3 exchanges? I knew I should've gone for number after the third exchange.
Otherwise, since I'm talking to chicks at school, OKC isn't really a high priority for me. It's more supplemental. The only reason I've even hit up chicks and updated my profile/pics is because that one hit me up.
I sent a couple of more messages out yesterday. One chick replied today. I just replied a few minutes ago. How do you guys keep messages from going dry since that always seems to be the case with me? Do you go for the number after about 3 exchanges? I knew I should've gone for number after the third exchange.
Otherwise, since I'm talking to chicks at school, OKC isn't really a high priority for me. It's more supplemental. The only reason I've even hit up chicks and updated my profile/pics is because that one hit me up.
My rule is that if I send the first message, she replies, I send again, she replies, then I ask for the number. This is of course if this happens over a full day or 2 days. If you're sending messages back and forth in the span of 20 minutes or so, I'll hold off a little longer. As I've found out, the longer you wait to ask, the less likely they'll give it to you.
The worst are the girls that take 2 or more days to reply. That makes it so much harder to abide by the rule because by the time you ask her, it could be the weekend already or she's already talking to some other dude. In those cases, I ask after she replies the first time. I hate having my time wasted on these sites so I go in for the kill ASAP.
The worst are the girls that take 2 or more days to reply. That makes it so much harder to abide by the rule because by the time you ask her, it could be the weekend already or she's already talking to some other dude. In those cases, I ask after she replies the first time. I hate having my time wasted on these sites so I go in for the kill ASAP.
grap3fruitman
Banned
Wait, you actually get responses?
Buckethead
Banned
I started up again awhile ago and 99% of the people are out for sex.
They won't always say it but kinda obvious. So if you want that this site seems perfect for you.
They won't always say it but kinda obvious. So if you want that this site seems perfect for you.
How can you tell.
Not as many as I'd like, I have crazy streaks. I've gone like 3 months without any replies, but then today I got replies from 2 different girls. I have a feeling they'll stop replying though. Dunno why, just get this feeling.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
Messaged a girl that seemed like a good match, then saw she hasn't logged on for about a month.
Haha, love how direct and obvious you are.
I only sign on once every few days now (too poor to be dating anyways) and just sort by who's new. Cute girls that fit my search filter used to pop up like 3 or so a day. Now I'm lucky if there's 1 every couple days.
Haha, love how direct and obvious you are.
I only sign on once every few days now (too poor to be dating anyways) and just sort by who's new. Cute girls that fit my search filter used to pop up like 3 or so a day. Now I'm lucky if there's 1 every couple days.
lol. I got about 5 numbers in the past two days. 3 of these girls are reeeeeeeeeeealy hot. Seriously smoking.
jamesinclair
Banned
Folks, dont give up.
Chatting with a girl, asked her for her number to text.
No reply.
Three days later I said fuck it, and messaged her again, a joke about her not liking texting. She replied and gave me her number.
A week later, different girl...
Same scenario, chatting it up, I ask for her number on Thursday.
No reply.
On Sunday I make the same joke about texting. She replies, says she doesnt want to give me her number yet because she thinks wed text too much and she has midterms this week, will give me her number on Thursday.
So if she doesnt reply....just give it a shot, theres zero to lose, and a lot to gain.
Chatting with a girl, asked her for her number to text.
No reply.
Three days later I said fuck it, and messaged her again, a joke about her not liking texting. She replied and gave me her number.
A week later, different girl...
Same scenario, chatting it up, I ask for her number on Thursday.
No reply.
On Sunday I make the same joke about texting. She replies, says she doesnt want to give me her number yet because she thinks wed text too much and she has midterms this week, will give me her number on Thursday.
So if she doesnt reply....just give it a shot, theres zero to lose, and a lot to gain.
jamesinclair
Banned
Nothing specific, just it went like this:
Me:
Hey you seem fun to talk to, but it's easier for me to talk over texts than to keep checking this website. Would you mind doing that instead?
Her: NO REPLY FOR THREE DAYS
Me:
I take it you despise texting then? lol.
Her:
I've just been super busy that's all. Can we just keep talking on here until my midterms are done XD seriously they end Thursday. Until then because if I get your # I'd prob love texting u and stop studying. Which would be bad.
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