Well that kinda just makes me feel shittier in a way. I actually read the profiles and ask relevant questions about shared interests. "Hey, I see you like [author], what was your favorite book by him?" "Hey, I see you like [show], that's one of my favorites. If you like it, you might like [other show]. Have you ever checked that one out?" Stuff like that.
If that's the kind of stuff I'm up against and I'm still not getting replies, I must be really ugly and/or have a really bad profile.
Nah. You're just impatient. The thing with online dating is that you really have to only give fucks in bursts. The occasional night you jump on, find a few closely matched profiles and write an actual personal message. Have no expectations of a response and keep it moving.
Back when I was on it I usually got about 3 weeks of nothing and then a week of contact with a few people. Usually would waste time/money on 2 dates, and find a possibility in the third.
I always paid for dates. A woman has to know you've got some potential as a provider, and not paying on the first go around is a red flag. Also it stops you from dating basically anyone who responds, and just deciding to go out with the girls you feel could be worth the investment.
The message that hooked my GF was pretty bad but we're celebrating our one year anniversary so I decided to log back in in order to print our series of exchanges...thought it would be a cute gift.
"Hey! Just saw your profile and noticed that there were a lot of things that I liked. If you're interested in getting out and trying new things or want to talk with someone who's honest and believes in the type of chivalry that you talk about in your profile, lets talk. "
Lol, seems pretty basic but for whatever reason it worked.
