Maddocks
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Get used to it friend, it happens more times then I can count. It's worse when you send a message and the girl never even visits your profile. That is when you know you got straight deleted.
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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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Get used to it friend, it happens more times then I can count. It's worse when you send a message and the girl never even visits your profile. That is when you know you got straight deleted.
Mikey Jr.
Member
Thank you friend.
I think everyone's had that happen.
No..I'd rather that happen honestly lol. If she saw my profile and such that means she straight up doesn't like my personality and/or face. Or she could be invisible iuno.
I know. I was just saying how much I hate it.
HP_Wuvcraft
Banned
It's the fucking internet. Nobody will care.
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
WascallyWabbit
Member
Most of the time I see it in the "questions answered" section, that's solid advice, thanks!
Oh and I guess I'll get it on the mutual five-starring if anyone is willing, quote to see my tag
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
This feel runs deep.
In other news, my first reply in a week or two came from a girl who had no profile filled out and I was just in a fuck it kind of mood, so I just said, "Your tats are rad, are you rad as a person?"
Immediate reply. Fuck reading profiles and commenting on them.
Edit: nevermind, the new replies make it seem like it is a joke account/
Edit: troll account confirmed, thank you google reverse images
feels bad man though =/
Buckethead
Banned
After months of talking my friend met a girl from MySpace back in the day.
Turned out to be a really fat girl who lied about everything (including her image obviously).
When he tried to leave, she went psycho on him, started yelling and told him she'd key his car.
Turned out to be a really fat girl who lied about everything (including her image obviously).
When he tried to leave, she went psycho on him, started yelling and told him she'd key his car.
Lol did he let her touch his penis?
Buckethead
Banned
No he eventually filed a restraining order because she found his number in the phonebook, showed up at his work, and made t-shirts with his picture on it and other sorts of crazy shit.
Buckethead
Banned
Never S your D in C, my homie.
Did you not see the above vid. I can only recall fucking one crazy chick. She had a good heart, just insecure.
So I have a date possibly lined up soon and was wondering where others tend to go. I haven't been to a date through online dating so I have no idea. She said coffee would be fine but she also said it can be awkward if you run out of things to talk about. Anyone have any ideas or experience with not making the first date so "on the spot"?
jamesinclair
Banned
Id say no for coffee because it can feel like more of an interview.
Try something like exploring a book store (ie, picking out hilarious books), an art museum, or somewhere were you can talk but dont have to stare at each other and can cover up silence by looking at stuff. And theres always new stuff to talk about (the next book or painting).
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
Interesting advice. The best thing I have to do here is coffee, but I get the reasoning. I'll start to think of some other stuff to do, you know, if anyone ever accepts anything on this site.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
Coffee to start. You don't know if they're crazy or flaky so once that's established, then you can do something else.
You're not tied to the coffee place so you can always get up and walk around.
I had one date that started at a coffee place and ended at the library.
You're not tied to the coffee place so you can always get up and walk around.
I had one date that started at a coffee place and ended at the library.
If it's any consolation, eventually the right girl will reply. What you mentioned happened to me dozens of times and it was discouraging each time it happened. I kept on keeping on, and then one day I wrote this one girl who I thought was outrageously beautiful and seemed very decent. I actually had no faith that she would reply, I specifically remember thinking "It's impossible that this girl will reply, she's completely out of my league." To my amazement, she replied. 5 months later, we were married.
Moral of the story: Don't give up!
I don't think I've ever ran out of things to talk about on a date.
Was llinked to this yesterday, thought some of you might like it http://girlsofokc.tumblr.com/
Was llinked to this yesterday, thought some of you might like it http://girlsofokc.tumblr.com/
MetalGuardian
Banned
Congrats man. That's a heartwarming tale
Maddocks
Member
I message girls out of my league all the time lol The point is never get discouraged because hey, they are on the site too. no one forced them to sign up so they want a connection also.
so if you go....ill never get her/him. give it a try. like the great one said,"you miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
so if you go....ill never get her/him. give it a try. like the great one said,"you miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
At one point I had about 6 numbers from chicks out of my league. A lack of money is stopping me from doing as much as I'd like about it. :-(
WascallyWabbit
Member
Fuck you, that's awesome
electricshake
Member
Oh god those girls are all so hot...I'm fucked.
Contrast and all but 5 months!?
Maddocks
Member
I have a question. how often do you all edit your profiles? I usually edit mine every 2 days. Not to add info, but to take out a word and then replace it.
reason being is because then you will be higher on the activity feed, which means new members will see you more and thus more views and more traffic to your profile. So ya never know a new member might check you out and you might be her/his first choice to message.
reason being is because then you will be higher on the activity feed, which means new members will see you more and thus more views and more traffic to your profile. So ya never know a new member might check you out and you might be her/his first choice to message.
I don't the smoking hot, pole dancing, gymnast, one of the top in her class, computer science graduate from an elite school, investment banker so much as looked at my profile. No I did not exaggerate any of that. :-( So be glad for that.
as for editing my profile rarely. Maybe once a month.
Holy shit 5 months! I guess when you know, you know. Congrats!
Thanks guys, and yes 5 months isn't a long time, and I would have thought the exact same thing prior to meeting her. I dated like crazy when I first moved to LA for college, so I had plenty of experience to gauge what I was looking for. When I met my wife, I knew instantly that she was perfect for me.
I can't convince some people that the whole "you know right away" expression is true unless they've experienced it themselves. I think it's much easier to figure out if you've met "the one" if you have had plenty of prior dating experience. Without that, you don't necessarily know if it's infatuation or the real thing.
I've posted this picture in the "Show off your wife/gf" thread, but I'll post it here to show what's possible. I kind of wish I had someone to tell me to keep my head up and not give up when I was dating, because I seriously started to believe at one point that I would never find someone to spend my life with, especially online. And this was all from OKC.
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Deleted member 81567
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Wanted to show my OKC profile as I recently broke up and have no idea what I'm doing.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/DGrapsas
Tell me what to fix, and I'll do it immediately.
Put a pic of me and my ex since people told me it might attract some females. What do you guys think?
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/DGrapsas
Tell me what to fix, and I'll do it immediately.
Put a pic of me and my ex since people told me it might attract some females. What do you guys think?
You might want to have her face covered in the pic unless you know she's OK with appearing in it...
I've been on and off the site for a couple years and think I do well with it, so I'm sharing in case it might help anybody out:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LaneD
Found that being myself (i.e. not taking myself at all seriously, or the site itself) seemed to yield good results (I've answered a ton of questions and provided many dumb explanations, which I think helped).
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LaneD
Found that being myself (i.e. not taking myself at all seriously, or the site itself) seemed to yield good results (I've answered a ton of questions and provided many dumb explanations, which I think helped).
Thanks guys, and yes 5 months isn't a long time, and I would have thought the exact same thing prior to meeting her. I dated like crazy when I first moved to LA for college, so I had plenty of experience to gauge what I was looking for. When I met my wife, I knew instantly that she was perfect for me.
I can't convince some people that the whole "you know right away" expression is true unless they've experienced it themselves. I think it's much easier to figure out if you've met "the one" if you have had plenty of prior dating experience. Without that, you don't necessarily know if it's infatuation or the real thing.
I've posted this picture in the "Show off your wife/gf" thread, but I'll post it here to show what's possible. I kind of wish I had someone to tell me to keep my head up and not give up when I was dating, because I seriously started to believe at one point that I would never find someone to spend my life with, especially online. And this was all from OKC.
Damn, she's hot! Nice job
She's probably fine with it if he put it in the show off thread
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Deleted member 81567
Unconfirmed Member
I guess. Is it a good idea to keep the pic though?
Thanks guys, and yes 5 months isn't a long time, and I would have thought the exact same thing prior to meeting her. I dated like crazy when I first moved to LA for college, so I had plenty of experience to gauge what I was looking for. When I met my wife, I knew instantly that she was perfect for me.
I can't convince some people that the whole "you know right away" expression is true unless they've experienced it themselves. I think it's much easier to figure out if you've met "the one" if you have had plenty of prior dating experience. Without that, you don't necessarily know if it's infatuation or the real thing.
I've posted this picture in the "Show off your wife/gf" thread, but I'll post it here to show what's possible. I kind of wish I had someone to tell me to keep my head up and not give up when I was dating, because I seriously started to believe at one point that I would never find someone to spend my life with, especially online. And this was all from OKC.
Hey, I remember you from the "Post Your Lover" thread. Everyone was going gaga over her.
Congrats...she's gorgeous.
Invisible Man
aka SexyNerd
Which ones do you use?
Which sites.
HP_Wuvcraft
Banned
Thank you for showing me this.
"Wat? You ain't gettin' your tings?"
"A owl?"
"A owl."
"A owl?"
"A owl. Sitting on her back. Starin' at me."
"... a owl?"
The Show is called Phoneshop and it is fucking hilarious.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=msfIAUDJ8CI
starchild excalibur
Member
Coffee date on OKC went well, but I think there was mutually no connection.
I've started using POF. I don't think my message to response rate is much higher, but I find it easier and faster to just message girls out of the blue because:
-no match percentage, so I message girls that I may have avoided on OKC
-no "replies selectively/often" meter, so I don't overthink messaging girls who may not respond
-no multiple categories on profiles, so the profiles tend to be a lot briefer and easier to go through for formulating questions
Slight downside is that, because of the demographic, I tend to find less "sophisticated-looking" (though not necessarily sophisticated) hipster girls to swoon over. But it wasn't like I was really finding much luck with them on OKC anyway.
I'm actually chatting with a couple of girls on there right now - one every day, one that responds every couple of days. Already have made tentative plans with the first one for coffee next week. We'll see how that goes.
I've started using POF. I don't think my message to response rate is much higher, but I find it easier and faster to just message girls out of the blue because:
-no match percentage, so I message girls that I may have avoided on OKC
-no "replies selectively/often" meter, so I don't overthink messaging girls who may not respond
-no multiple categories on profiles, so the profiles tend to be a lot briefer and easier to go through for formulating questions
Slight downside is that, because of the demographic, I tend to find less "sophisticated-looking" (though not necessarily sophisticated) hipster girls to swoon over. But it wasn't like I was really finding much luck with them on OKC anyway.
I'm actually chatting with a couple of girls on there right now - one every day, one that responds every couple of days. Already have made tentative plans with the first one for coffee next week. We'll see how that goes.
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
There's a girl on the second page of that site that messaged me last month lol
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