OKC-GAF, I need advice.
I have found two relationship thanks to OKC and it looks like I am entering into number three.
We have been dating for about a month and Friday night was our 5th date (I was on a business trip at one point so our dates became spaced out a bit). We went to dinner and a movie and after the movie I invited her back to my neighborhood for a drink (with the clear implication that we would end the night back at my apartment). She declined the invite back to Brooklyn but we decided to split a bottle of wine at an Italian restaurant closer to the theater.
While at the restaurant the topic of what had occurred earlier (her rejection of my invitation) sort of hung over our heads until eventually she stated pretty directly that she is looking for a relationship and does not do hook-ups. I responded that I like her a lot and that I am fine with waiting until she is ready. Neither of us really knew what to say next until we eventually got onto a different topic of conversation. Beyond that one sort of awkward moment the date went really well (in total it lasted about 5 hours) and at the end of the night she invited me to a Super Bowl party where in I will meet her friends.
I disabled my profile yesterday morning and when I checked her's last night she had followed suit.
I am crazy about her and I would definitely like to get into a relationship with her but I'm not sure what the next step is. My profile had been pretty direct in saying that I am looking for a relationship and her's was, if anything, less clear on this topic. I never expected to get into such a direct conversation on the topic. On Friday night I got the sense that she was looking for me to directly state my intentions.
This the first time I've really fallen into the "are we in a relationship" "are we boyfriend/girlfriend" trap. In all of my previous relationships, after dating exclusively for two months or so it just became self-evident that we were in a relationship. I never really had that conversation with any of my exes. In the past the big moments have always been when we met each other's friends/family and I am meeting her friends tonight.
What say you GAF? We have been dating for a month, we have both removed our profiles from OKC, and I am meeting her friends tonight. Should I just continue to ask her on dates until she says she is ready or should I be more direct in saying that I want a relationship? I am probably going to drive her home tonight after the party and I am currently planning to bring the topic up again while we're in the car.
I have found two relationship thanks to OKC and it looks like I am entering into number three.
We have been dating for about a month and Friday night was our 5th date (I was on a business trip at one point so our dates became spaced out a bit). We went to dinner and a movie and after the movie I invited her back to my neighborhood for a drink (with the clear implication that we would end the night back at my apartment). She declined the invite back to Brooklyn but we decided to split a bottle of wine at an Italian restaurant closer to the theater.
While at the restaurant the topic of what had occurred earlier (her rejection of my invitation) sort of hung over our heads until eventually she stated pretty directly that she is looking for a relationship and does not do hook-ups. I responded that I like her a lot and that I am fine with waiting until she is ready. Neither of us really knew what to say next until we eventually got onto a different topic of conversation. Beyond that one sort of awkward moment the date went really well (in total it lasted about 5 hours) and at the end of the night she invited me to a Super Bowl party where in I will meet her friends.
I disabled my profile yesterday morning and when I checked her's last night she had followed suit.
I am crazy about her and I would definitely like to get into a relationship with her but I'm not sure what the next step is. My profile had been pretty direct in saying that I am looking for a relationship and her's was, if anything, less clear on this topic. I never expected to get into such a direct conversation on the topic. On Friday night I got the sense that she was looking for me to directly state my intentions.
This the first time I've really fallen into the "are we in a relationship" "are we boyfriend/girlfriend" trap. In all of my previous relationships, after dating exclusively for two months or so it just became self-evident that we were in a relationship. I never really had that conversation with any of my exes. In the past the big moments have always been when we met each other's friends/family and I am meeting her friends tonight.
What say you GAF? We have been dating for a month, we have both removed our profiles from OKC, and I am meeting her friends tonight. Should I just continue to ask her on dates until she says she is ready or should I be more direct in saying that I want a relationship? I am probably going to drive her home tonight after the party and I am currently planning to bring the topic up again while we're in the car.
