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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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Red_taiyaki
Member
Congrats bro and g/l!
I closed mine for about a month and a half in November/December as I needed a breather from the daily grind. I was getting messages, but it was becoming tedious.
Maddocks
Member
I closed mine, because the number of girls I rated and messaged was reaching crazy stupid numbers. It was showing me girls in san diego as girls near me (I live in los angeles) so it let me know I need to take a step back
Perspicacity
Banned
I've also closed mine off for a while. Give it a few weeks/months then come back. There will be a lot of fresh faces and you'll have a new approach.
EDIT: I mean I've closed mine off in the past currently have a few potentials and a date on Saturday.
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
Closed mine down for several months after no results and getting pretty frustrated with it and exhausting my very, very limited supply of women age 18-29 in South Dakota. It started suggesting girls 500 miles away, lolol.
Power Glove
Member
Is there any way that someone can use a google phone number for nefarious reasons? This new girl popped up with her screen name as her phone number. I used google voice to call it and it rang till the answer message came on telling me that "this google phone customer is not available, please leave a message". I then texted it from my cell phone and she responded. I gave her a fake name. Guys?
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
Well, just had my first OkCupid date. I think it went okay, but she bolted after we finished dinner so I don't expect a follow up. On top of my face breaking out, I heard some very bad news about my job 90 minutes beforehand; I was not in the best mood. She offered to pay, which surprised me. All I had was a twenty and two dollars so I couldn't even leave a good tip. After how long should I send a text telling her I had a good time? I didn't feel any chemistry between us but I don't regret meeting up with her.
Mistakes I made after some reflection:
-Talked with food in my mouth.
-Got food on my face too often.
-Talked too negatively.
Oh well, it's experience!
Mistakes I made after some reflection:
-Talked with food in my mouth.
-Got food on my face too often.
-Talked too negatively.
Oh well, it's experience!
WascallyWabbit
Member
If there's no chemistry, why bother texting at all? If you feel you must, just send one now that says thanks or w/e
My god the negativity in this post lol. You might as well have jumped out the nearest window.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
I'm actually not sure whether we had no chemistry or my bad day just made it to difficult for me to feel that way. I figured I should out of politeness.
What? I enjoyed myself, the very bad news from work just dampened my spirits.
The best thing I can say about the evening is she smiled a lot and there were very few moments of silence. Nearly non-stop talking.
well, just text her you had a good time and you'd like to see her again, see how she responds.
girl I've been talking to wants to meet up! I can't believe she responded to my message, let alone seems interested. I was sure I wasn't gonna be her "type", she's definitely one of the better looking girls I've talked to and it's nice to see she's into our conversations, not like pulling teeth like some of the other convos I've had
girl I've been talking to wants to meet up! I can't believe she responded to my message, let alone seems interested. I was sure I wasn't gonna be her "type", she's definitely one of the better looking girls I've talked to and it's nice to see she's into our conversations, not like pulling teeth like some of the other convos I've had
Haha this perfectly describes my situation right now, meeting with her tomorrow. This chick is the coolest one I'v talked to, fingers crossed I don't get catfished (I don't think I will).
I need to disable mine for now, but I left it up for tonight to get 1 more # from a cute girl who I messaged a lot on there.
At this point I have 8 people I haven't even responded to, and signed in tonight to quite a few more new girls I've never chatted with on there trying to spark conversation, a few of which were cute.
...idk wtf the universe is about to set up for me, perhaps I'm going to get hit by a bus, but I'm terrified.
One of the women I was texting...asked ME out on a first date. I was like woah...wtf? Which is great since we actually do have like a 90% match on friend and romance, and she isn't needy to text me a lot each day. We get to message each other once or twice at most due to our crazy schedules, and when we do it's lengthy ones to make up for the fact we can't all day due to the jobs as mentioned.
So, here's another problem now. I'm texting all these women, have dates lined up, have the money to do so, but my job just today axed a shit ton of people, promoted me and has me training people, and now for the next 2 weeks I have OT each day and no days off.
Universe karma trying to curb stomp me. Here's hotties zlatko, but you just can't hang out with them since you are busy. Ugh...
Annoyed.
I paid for a month of match.com (curiosity... :/) and I was talking to someone that may have been a nice friend or something. I need some male friends that aren't online, maybe it would help me get over my fear. I even told him that I was just looking for friends and he said that was cool.
And we were just talking about jobs and stuff and then he just stopped talking to me.
Whatever. It's annoying. Haha. Someone did it last week too. We were talking about travelling and he just stopped talking.
I paid for a month of match.com (curiosity... :/) and I was talking to someone that may have been a nice friend or something. I need some male friends that aren't online, maybe it would help me get over my fear. I even told him that I was just looking for friends and he said that was cool.
And we were just talking about jobs and stuff and then he just stopped talking to me.
Whatever. It's annoying. Haha. Someone did it last week too. We were talking about travelling and he just stopped talking.
IAmtheFMan
Member
Yeah it goes both ways unfortunately. I've had situations where we're talking for weeks, and it'll even end with her asking a question and me answering and "boom!" no reply.
Pretty much. I asked a few questions and no reply.
Whatever. Haha. I guess it's better than him shooting back a "you're too yuck/boring/whatever for me to talk to bye". Haha.
Oh well.
Possible he just started dating someone and didn't feel right talking still. Or maybe he got bored. Who knows.
I have gotten very bored with back and forth conversation with some people. Especially if I have to direct all the conversation or the other person refuses to acknowledge me.
Maddocks
Member
When it comes to pay sites, they are usually catered to dating and relationships more then friends because of the nature of the site. You are paying money to shine. While you might be a great person, you are also only looking for friends with nothing more then just that. While other women on the site are looking for relationships. He has a option. See where the friendship goes, where you clearly laid it out that it will not go anyplace other then hanging out. While other women are messaging him back and him messaging girls with the main aim of going out to be in a relationship.
Don't give up, there is someone who is just like you who just wants a friend to talk to and share stories with. I'm the same way, I actually resigned up to okc awhile back just to get female friends because I had none. Then I realized I'm not cute enough to even win them over lol It happens. I now have one female friend and even with her things are distant. I'm treated more of a time waster in between her doing things then I am treated as a friend. So I think its better to have a person ignore you then you try to drag a friendship out of a person.
End of line.
Don't give up, there is someone who is just like you who just wants a friend to talk to and share stories with. I'm the same way, I actually resigned up to okc awhile back just to get female friends because I had none. Then I realized I'm not cute enough to even win them over lol It happens. I now have one female friend and even with her things are distant. I'm treated more of a time waster in between her doing things then I am treated as a friend. So I think its better to have a person ignore you then you try to drag a friendship out of a person.
End of line.
So I posted earlier last month about a girl that I started talking to around early December. We talked a bit before finally meeting. We hit it off from the start and through out the last month tried to spend as much time as possible with each other despite work schedule conflicts. We actually both played hookey from work one day so we could spend the day with each other. Things continued from there up until now where we both decided that we are going to be together. Things just feel natural when we are together, something I haven't felt in a long time with someone. She's an awesome girl, and I can't believe online dating actually worked for me, since I was super skeptical going into this. Thanks to everyone that helped with my profile and all the tips and positivity. There were definitely some points during this process where I wanted to just delete my shit and never go back out of frustration, but I'm glad I didn't. I actually did end disabling my account a couple of weeks ago, but I'll probably continue to watch this thread and hopefully get to read many more success stories.
Thanks guys/gals and good luck!
Thanks guys/gals and good luck!
I know that feel. You're so right.
NobleGundam
Banned
Bad Triple Date Story.
>Went to the movies
>Friend gets kidnapped in a mini van
>Over 90mph car chase
>Crazy B*tches speeding to get Coffee at a Starbucks... At 1:00 in the morning!!
>Snatched our friend back and took off.
>Asked him if he knew these girls. Says Yes.
Asked him where. And says "MySpace".
Moral of the Story. Don't Date Anyone on Myspace, OkcGAF. Feels like something out of a movie almost...
>Went to the movies
>Friend gets kidnapped in a mini van
>Over 90mph car chase
>Crazy B*tches speeding to get Coffee at a Starbucks... At 1:00 in the morning!!
>Snatched our friend back and took off.
>Asked him if he knew these girls. Says Yes.
Asked him where. And says "MySpace".
Moral of the Story. Don't Date Anyone on Myspace, OkcGAF. Feels like something out of a movie almost...
What the hell. Did you meet these people in a trailer park or something? Also how did your friend get kidnapped lol
NobleGundam
Banned
Red_taiyaki
Member
Who the heck even uses MySpace anymore? @.@
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
SuperAndroid17
Member
Reactivated my account after a year for shits and giggles
Behold! its the same fucking girls and very few new ones.
Go figure
Behold! its the same fucking girls and very few new ones.
Go figure
Keep your pride, say nothing.
Red_taiyaki
Member
Exactly! Though if you feel though that there's a small enough reason for you to try and date her one more time then do text the day after (today?). If even there's the smallest margin of chemistry left over then do it. Tbh, I've learned that coffee dates make the best first dates since it's low pressure, relatively inexpensive and easy exit.
Way to keep your spirit up though and look at it as a learning experience! Or as Jim Harbaugh so meticulously put it, "(The Super Bowl loss) certainly hurts, but you can live with regret. Becoming dispirited and not competing, you can't live with that."
That said....I just started talking to an awesome girl on OKC who's into anime. Usually I suggest meeting about four emails in on whether or not they'd be interested in meeting on a Wed or Thu... and well, the time has come for that fourth email. I'm planning to ask her out over OKC soon but with Vday coming up is that even a viable day to suggest meeting her for a first date? Am I overthinking this (high probability)? HELP ME OKCGAF!
donkey show
Member
Depends how into you she is. Personally I'd say not yet and pick another day. Pick the day before and lead your date into Valentine's Day midnight and woo her then.
not serious about the last part
False Witness
Member
Annoyed.
I paid for a month of match.com (curiosity... :/) and I was talking to someone that may have been a nice friend or something. I need some male friends that aren't online, maybe it would help me get over my fear. I even told him that I was just looking for friends and he said that was cool.
And we were just talking about jobs and stuff and then he just stopped talking to me.
Whatever. It's annoying. Haha. Someone did it last week too. We were talking about travelling and he just stopped talking.
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Pretty much. I asked a few questions and no reply.
Whatever. Haha. I guess it's better than him shooting back a "you're too yuck/boring/whatever for me to talk to bye". Haha.
Oh well.
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]He was just looking at my profile and has a few times today. Haha.
Whatever man.
Oh well.
Honestly, I bet either one of your messages or his replies got eaten by the site. That shit has happened so many times to me on OKC that I barely even bother starting up conversations anymore. I'll reply to a message and then check back a bit later to see that the damned thing had never been sent.
Red_taiyaki
Member
You sir, are brilliant.
edit: If it matters, she's been getting back to me within the same hour of me messaging her. Never had that happen before...
WascallyWabbit
Member
Um, no? We need a little context, i guess. Like how long have you been dating, etc.
It said it was delivered (and in my sent folder) so I doubt that's it. Haha. Oh well.
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
My date is in 2 and a half hours. I'm so pumped.
WascallyWabbit
Member
Nice! But chill, man. Be cool haha
Red_taiyaki
Member
This x1000
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
Lol, I'm not that overzealous right now. Sheesh, guy can't get excited?
We've only gone out once and that was this past Sunday.
n64coder
Member
What about using meetup.com? Find some activities that you are interested doing and then do it?
WascallyWabbit
Member
I paid for a month once. Waste of money for me. OKC seems to get the best results for me than match. Like no one replies on that site or did in the time I used it. :/
Red_taiyaki
Member
The one thing that Match has going for it that OKC doesn't is the ability to check whether or not someone's read your email/message. Other than that, OKC is superior.
Eeeh both are no good
I can't see if people read mine unless I give them ~even more money~. Pft.
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