I do the same thing for the same reason. I'd rather not know if a chick I hit up but didn't reply visited my page. Wouldn't want to bruise my ego or get worried. And welcome back. I take it your modeling pictures have scored you dates?
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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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sorry that was me
It's the one in my avatar. It's just gotta be.
I'm jelly. Maybe I need someone to take a picture of me holding up a fake moustache and become a vegetarian. ;p The NYC single ladies haven't given some of us a chance but through the fire and flames we carry on.
Jesus this woman is proportioned like a comic book character
I want to see this girl now. I love anime-proportion women. Though, the one I dated turned out to be mentally insane.
I am on both! I just never check OKC because it creeps me out most of the time. Either Nice Guys in Fedoras, or one guy who messaged me like 15 times and like watched all my movements one day. "Looking at my profile huh?", "Guess you didn't like what you saw?", "Why not?", "Hi.", "Hey".
Haha, you'll find someone eventually! I'm cool with chilling out in this camp forever on my own.
I have this one homosexual dude who constantly looks at my profile and keeps contacting me. This has been going on for the past year.
And I might be moving from Florida in the very near future, so I am not sure what to do with this account. I might change it and let women know that I am only interested in short-term due to my possible relocation for a federal position (if I'm lucky it'll be in San Diego, San Franciso, or DC!).
Let me see your prof. Shoooww mmmee the prroffff.
That's a damn fine profile. Ladies aren't responding?
Though I will say you come off as a little too serious. You don't seem to have much fun. I'm sure you do but it's rather absent from your profile. Your personality isn't really showing through. Very 'business'y.
I haven't sent a message out in over 2 weeks save for a few this week to an Asian girl who rated me highly. We had a few exchanges but she hasn't responded. I've had a lot of messages fizzle on me after a few replies. I've only gotten 3 visitors this week. I will definitely edit it and make it sound more fun but my life lately has been boring so that's probably why. Which areas would you say need fixing?
Damn son! I didn't know you were a stud.
Jzero
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I did mention that I lift in the Why Do Workout thread. In person, I look more ripped. It's thanks to good genetics and a high metabolism. People assume I play baseball or basketball and can pass as a model.
Believe it or not, I'm a virgin.
That sucks man. It must hurt when you see that a woman's read your message but doesn't reply. Ignorance is bliss in this case. Gotta keep on trucking.That just happened to me
Being all knowing isn't as awesome as I thought.
A Human Becoming
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Well, my "date" went incredibly well; I'm still grinning about it over 90 minutes later. Along with other things that happened beforehand made it one of the best nights I've had in the last decade.
She turned out to be a very smart, driven and easy to talk to. Smart women is a huge turn on for me, something nothing beforehand indicated. I greatly appreciated how compassionate she was about the topics I asked her about. It's true that people love talking about themselves; my guess is the ratio was 5:1 in her favor. Hopefully she enjoyed our walk and talk for an hour as much as I did. Now I need an excuse to be in her area more often.
Even if nothing comes from it though, I had a great time. Not giving a fuck makes everything so much easier.
She turned out to be a very smart, driven and easy to talk to. Smart women is a huge turn on for me, something nothing beforehand indicated. I greatly appreciated how compassionate she was about the topics I asked her about. It's true that people love talking about themselves; my guess is the ratio was 5:1 in her favor. Hopefully she enjoyed our walk and talk for an hour as much as I did. Now I need an excuse to be in her area more often.
Even if nothing comes from it though, I had a great time. Not giving a fuck makes everything so much easier.
I do well but I don't do THAT well. I may get 1 or 2 a week depending on how active I am. I just get a decent response rate is all. You'd be surprised how many women refuse to message first.
I find that spending too much time messaging on there causes things to fizzle out pretty quickly. After that initial conversation, you should be looking to just meet up. I usually get to the point about three messages in unless we're talking about something SUPER specific where it would seem forced.
As for visitors, I find that it depends a lot on how active you are. Quickmatching helps out. But even editing your profile here and there can help. I'm talking little things like adding a period because that puts you on the activity page which is the home page. You get more visits that way I think.
As for your profile, the girl I'm currently seeing would say that it's a little too wordy. I had a very similar profile and she said it seemed like I was a little desperate. This may not apply to every girl that reads your profile but keep it in mind. You also repeat yourself a bit unintentionally. What I got from your profile is "I work a TON". As I said, your personality doesn't show through. You get a hint of it with your I spend a lot of time thinking about section. Other than that, there's no real indication of who you are. It's all about what you do which you get into on the date. Use the profile to sell who you are. I feel like it's important to give an idea of what a date would be like with you.
I'd also shorten your favorite, books, movie etc etc section. For one, no one reads that ever and it's makes your profile look longer than it has to be. I'd say overall your profile is pretty good in that you seem very genuine. I would just, again, let a bit more of your personality show through.
Take this all with a grain of salt of course. There's no be all end all way to do this thing. This is what I've discovered in my conversations about okc. I know a lot of women on this site so they always want to air their gripes.
Here's mine (since you provided yours). It's been described as "alienating" but I like women to know what they're getting into, Lol.
NihonTiger90
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I mentioned this a bit earlier in the thread, but I think my profile needs some serious reworking, along with some new, better photos. I am slightly below average in looks, so I feel like I need an amazing profile to make up for it ... but I don't think I have that. I get a lot of visitors, especially people I message, but no replies what-so-ever, so something is wrong on my profile.
Here it is. Feel free to go to town on it. I'm probably going to tear each section apart and rewrite it all eventually, so why not get a headstart on finding help?
Here it is. Feel free to go to town on it. I'm probably going to tear each section apart and rewrite it all eventually, so why not get a headstart on finding help?
I took a look at your profile, rated you, and trimmed down my content significantly after gleaning it. It's remarkable that we have similar subway mannerisms. It should be much easier to read now. By the way, I still have your number.
I've been answering questions publically in the hopes of increasing my visibility. I've become incredibly more cynical about sending out messages hence why I stopped doing the daily messaging grind. But it'strue that it's better to get the number sooner rather than later because it does feel like the messaging is being dragged out at times. Women are there to meet up in person first and foremost although I had a case where I went for the number early and got declined because the girl said I was still a stranger. She was 19.
I looked at your profile and to be honest, I just skimmed through it; I couldn't read the whole thing. I understand why though since I have an AA in English but maybe you should trim down the content and a lot of the specifics for in person. I rated you by the way.
By the slightly off-topic but are you going to the NY Comic Con this year again? I just got accepted to work there again so I'll definitely be making the thread for it again soon.
A Human Becoming
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First off, you're not slightly below average in looks; you're a pretty handsome guy. Only picture I would suggest dropping is the first one since it is too far away and doesn't show you having fun.
The myself summary is great; You shouldn't change it at all. Maybe make it a little more upbeat, but I don't think it's necessary.
Remove that. I think some negativity is okay, but not in regard to your happiness. I'm interested in what you do for work, so maybe add details on that, but it doesn't mean the ladies would be.
"I'm really good at" is also well written.
I wouldn't say that. It's turning a positive into a negative. Not being 6'5'' thus suck at basketball is the sort of negative that is fine IMO since it's funny.
Favorites, six things, typical Friday and private thing are also fine.
NO NEGATIVES! Don't bring attention to something negative that's not even true! "Always willing to chat" rubs me the wrong way for some reason, but I would recommend getting further opinions here. Maybe don't start with "You think I'm interesting" either.
Change the end to "I am". It's probably fine again it just feels wishy-washy. Rest is solid.
I think your profile is pretty great; you come of as a rad guy. You might just want to work on your opening messages instead. Any girl who doesn't give you a chance is missing out, dude.
NihonTiger90
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A Human Becoming
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For me it is and I don't have many unacceptable answers. If you really think something is unacceptable don't change it just to work the numbers. You should only alter answers where you've been persuaded/re-evaluated the question. For example, while I hate smoking and originally said it was unacceptable to smoke, when I thought about it further it's their choice as long as they are courtesy about it.
Income: More than $1,000,000
If this is true then I don't think you need to worry about your profile...
stn
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Nononono, hahahah. What I was trying to say was that each guy should think and believe that he's the shit. But yes, never lie about your traits and characteristics. Part of being confident is accepting who you are.
It didn't mention in what time periode...
NihonTiger90
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Yeah, it's pretty normal.
I think some people get really caught up in the numbers as a be-all, end-all instead of just a metric, though.
Jzero
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The person i've "liked" the most had a match of 96 and a friend percentage of 70. Too bad she was the only person that didn't reply.
Yeah anything more than one line is the kiss of death. I got a girl to reply to me after I sent her an anti-joke but then I fucked it up by typing a 3 line long message about something stupid. I regretted sending it immediately. It's weird how you forget everything you've ever learned about online dating when you're interested in banging a hot girl.
A Human Becoming
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Indeed. It's best not to be too invested in any woman in general until you're dating.
Cow Mengde
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I think I now know how the ladies feel when they are the target of yellow fever. That said, can woman have yellow fever? I felt offended when the guy she likes matches me perfectly. But damn she's hot as hell. Then I noticed she's unemployed and the hotness drops back down to 0. I ended up running into 2 girls like that in one day. The yellow fever part, not the unemployed part... thank god.
I am so confused.
A Human Becoming
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Women can have yellow fever. It's probably much less common.
He's talking about white guys who like women of Asian decent.
Cow Mengde
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Except in my case, I have white women who likes Asian guys. Two of them paid me a visit in one day.
Great profile man. I'm jealous. I don't have any good recent pictures and hate taking "selfies."
I really like how you did the interest section. Short, but each category gives insight on what you like and isn't just a laundry list. Definitely need to redo mine.
Here's mine for you guys again (last time I posted [and updated] was over a year ago) so I think some more critique may do me some good:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ADivineUnicorn/photos?cf=profile
lol yeah me too. Honestly, that's kind of a turn off.
I feel like profiles should present the person's life in a concise manner. I feel like some people try to tell their whole life story and all the itsy bitsy details of their personalities too much. Let me find that out on my own.
Definitely agree with the wordy profiles being a chore to read; chicks can say how awesome they are with less words. I just encountered several profiles like that and skimmed through them since I don't care to read how chicks are sarcastic or have traveled to the 8 corners of the world. It's overwhelming and TMI. Save stuff such as being an INFJ or accents for in person. It's insane. I can't deal with wordy profiles all that well.
False Witness
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Hm... I'm definitely in the camp that prefers lengthy profiles. I'm online; I have time to sit down and read through stuff. I know that no matter how long their profile may be, they probably have a million more things to talk about. In fact, it's far more likely that the smaller the profile, the less background information there is behind it. They end up being far less interesting. Not always the case though.
I guess I'm just a reader.
I guess I'm just a reader.
Jzero
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Seems legit.
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