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[Pastry]

How could you even have 2x4s made of peanut butter, they wouldn't hold shape, cheese is the only logical answer. sure, peanut butter smells amazing, but cmon!

ok so I just used Az987's message on another girl, shes logged on already too, lets see! I'm not gonna lie, I'm a little embarrassed about this one! I've already messaged this girl before lol

any other suggestions?

If a girl talks a lot about books say something like this "My favorite novel is X by X but Taro Gomi's classic thriller Everybody Poops comes in at a close second. What's your favorite novel?"

(I don't know if poop jokes are kosher on OKC but I laughed when I thought of this)

I'm not using OKC yet but I will be soon, and expect GAFs help on my profile, but I plan on using this at least once for kicks and to see if I can get a response.

 

[mj1108]

My most successful okc experience started when i asked her about cheese

I think we have found the secret to online dating. Quick, someone patent the fuck out of it, publish it in a book, sell it and make a billion dollars.

Alright, I got onto OKC and just sent a chick this message as an experiment:
"I just need to know the answer to life's most pressing question, when it comes to crackers: cheese or peanut butter?"

We'll see what happens.

 

[Fix The Scientist]

I can't believe how much I shivered at this awkwardness.

Well it worked for me, it broke the cycle of emails and set up a date. Once a girl responds there's nothing wrong with playing the awkward angle, you can be more direct that way.

 

[Freezie KO]

Profile up. Messaged 3 people. Answered 50 questions. Time to despair?

 

[Az987]

How could you even have 2x4s made of peanut butter, they wouldn't hold shape, cheese is the only logical answer. sure, peanut butter smells amazing, but cmon!

ok so I just used Az987's message on another girl, shes logged on already too, lets see! I'm not gonna lie, I'm a little embarrassed about this one! I've already messaged this girl before lol

any other suggestions?

Ah, you used it on someone you already messaged!? Did she reply before? That's a tough one lol.

If you get a date out of my awesome message I expect a thank you haha.

 

[Ashhong]

I forgot who posted the message that was like "I think my friends are playing a joke on me because you are too good", but that didn't work when I tried it :'(

I will try again though.

 

[DiscoJer]

Profile up. Messaged 3 people. Answered 50 questions. Time to despair?

I've been on the site for 7 years now, messaged close to 200 women, have answered 3500 questions all without getting a date.

So take your pick. You can cut your losses now, or hang on to false hope.

Seriously though (though I am serious about my OKC experience), I wouldn't expect immediate results but at the same time, if you don't get much interest off the bat, you're probably not ever going to get much.

 

[Freezie KO]

I've been on the site for 7 years now, messaged close to 200 women, have answered 3500 questions all without getting a date.

So take your pick. You can cut your losses now, or hang on to false hope.

Seriously though (though I am serious about my OKC experience), I wouldn't expect immediate results but at the same time, if you don't get much interest off the bat, you're probably not ever going to get much.

D:

Thanks for the pep talk. When do I start getting shown the attractive people? Isn't there a group of elites that I have to graduate to? If I get voted attractive or something?

 

[Necrovex]

I've been on the site for 7 years now, messaged close to 200 women, have answered 3500 questions all without getting a date.

So take your pick. You can cut your losses now, or hang on to false hope.

Seriously though (though I am serious about my OKC experience), I wouldn't expect immediate results but at the same time, if you don't get much interest off the bat, you're probably not ever going to get much.

Youch. I think you're more of the outlier than the norm. I didn't even know OkCupid or PoF were around for so many years.

D:

Thanks for the pep talk. When do I start getting shown the attractive people? Isn't there a group of elites that I have to graduate to? If I get voted attractive or something?

I'm 99% sure that is bullshit. Everyone gets the "You're so attractive! See these other good-looking people who are looking at you right now!" emails. You already have access to see these attractive people. Start digging, mate! Post your profile on here after you edit it, and we will assist in creating an ideal profile.

 

[Freezie KO]

I'm 99% sure that is bullshit. Everyone gets the "You're so attractive! See these other good-looking people who are looking at you right now!" emails. You already have access to see these attractive people. Start digging, mate! Post your profile on here after you edit it, and we will assist in creating an ideal profile.

I appreciate the offer, but I'm seriously too embarrassed to do so. I'll think about it.

As for the attractiveness, I got a lot of attractive match suggestions when I first joined, but now... eh. I don't want to be mean, since I'm probably someone else's "fat chick," but my recent suggestions have been all 200lbs or over. I don't think much of myself, but I at least try to stay in somewhat decent shape.

Maybe I got voted ugly!

 

[Bleepey]

I've been on the site for 7 years now, messaged close to 200 women, have answered 3500 questions all without getting a date.

So take your pick. You can cut your losses now, or hang on to false hope.

Seriously though (though I am serious about my OKC experience), I wouldn't expect immediate results but at the same time, if you don't get much interest off the bat, you're probably not ever going to get much.

I have messaged probably well over 1000, i found with sites like POF and OKCupid you need to send 10-20 messages a day to get anything out of it.

 

[Necrovex]

I appreciate the offer, but I'm seriously too embarrassed to do so. I'll think about it.

As for the attractiveness, I got a lot of attractive match suggestions when I first joined, but now... eh. I don't want to be mean, since I'm probably someone else's "fat chick," but my recent suggestions have been all 200lbs or over. I don't think much of myself, but I at least try to stay in somewhat decent shape.

Maybe I got voted ugly!

No one here will be douchey when it comes to your appearance. At worst, we'll simply say which pictures do a poor job in portraying you.

And hey, I get a decent amount of traffic and messages from 200 lb women. I simply ignore them and talk to the attractive ones. You should do that too! ;-)

 

[Freezie KO]

No one here will be douchey when it comes to your appearance. At worst, we'll simply say which pictures do a poor job in portraying you.

And hey, I get a decent amount of traffic and messages from 200 lb women. I simply ignore them and talk to the attractive ones. You should do that too! ;-)

Well, I'm at four messages for tonight. OKC is begging me to hit five. So I'll find one more.

As for my profile... give me some time. I might post it.

 

[A Human Becoming]

I've been looking at this girl's profile for a while, but couldn't figure out how to start a conversation. I took the dumb message approach sending this:

Iway oughtthay ethay ungerhay amesgay oviemay asway uchmay orseway anthay ethay ookbay. Atwhay oday youway inkthay?

If I get no response within a couple days the next person will receive a message about cheese.

EDIT: Fuck it I sent this message to a different girl:

Scenario: You are forced to choose either cheese or peanut butter to ONLY eat for the rest of your life. You get a free unlimited supply and you're able to drink whatever you want with your choice. What do you choose? This is the most important question of your life. Lives are at stake.

 

[Fix The Scientist]

What sort of photos do you guys go with for the main pic? Your best angle or a more plain photo?

 

[GameplayWhore]

What sort of photos do you guys go with for the main pic? Your best angle or a more plain photo?

I never care about the angle. I'm happy with any pic that clearly shows me doing something interesting.


By the way, the whole silly message thing sounds brilliant. I think I'm going to play around with the idea.

 

[crush7337]

Ended up chatting on Skype for 2 hours last night with the girl I've mentioned prior. Had a good amount of joking and some sexual innuendo going back and forth.

Don't know how many of you have seen the question that asks, "If you came home to see your partner pouring red wine over a stranger's naked body, what would bother you most." We discussed how absurd this question was for about half an hour and she mentioned that it would end up staining the floor/bed pretty badly. To which I replied, "Not if you have a steady pouring hand", which led her to suggesting that she'll find out on Sunday. 0.0

 

[Darklord]

I don't get this shit sometimes. I'm chatting to one girl, back and fourth. Everything is going well, she seems into it, so I ask her out. She says that would be cool. Then 3 messages later she stops replying. Why did you agree to meet and chat for like 2 hours then change your mind?! Ugh, dating sites can be such a colossal waste of time. Oh well, back to throwing pointless first messages out.

 

[C.Dark.DN]

Yeah, I just had a girl stop replying and eventually sign off after a 4 hour skype convo. The last thing she said was to not be offended if she doesn't talk about personal things yet and she said she might show me some of her art in the future because it's also personal a few hours earlier.

I know she was multi-tasking, because she took it upon herself to apologize if her replies seemed late. Which is cool.

With my friends we multi-task a lot and reply when we reply and never say "bye, nice talking, catch you later" because it doesn't really need to be said but with a new person I was thrown off because I don't know if we'll be talking again.

We either will or wont, and I'll find out soon, but yeah.

 

[Necrovex]

I don't get this shit sometimes. I'm chatting to one girl, back and fourth. Everything is going well, she seems into it, so I ask her out. She says that would be cool. Then 3 messages later she stops replying. Why did you agree to meet and chat for like 2 hours then change your mind?! Ugh, dating sites can be such a colossal waste of time. Oh well, back to throwing pointless first messages out.

She could have simply left her computer to perform other tasks today. If you haven't heard from her within 48 hours, then yeah, that avenue may have died.

 

[dralla]

I don't get this shit sometimes. I'm chatting to one girl, back and fourth. Everything is going well, she seems into it, so I ask her out. She says that would be cool. Then 3 messages later she stops replying. Why did you agree to meet and chat for like 2 hours then change your mind?! Ugh, dating sites can be such a colossal waste of time. Oh well, back to throwing pointless first messages out.

that's why I always push for an in-person meet up ASAP, 2 hours is too long imo.

ps. got another number! my intro message was talking about bad shows on SyFy, lol this shit is crazy. the girl looks really different in each picture though, it's really strange. either way she seems really cool, gonna try and meet her this week sometime.

 

[Darklord]

that's why I always push for an in-person meet up ASAP, 2 hours is too long imo.

Anytime I try that I get the "I prefer getting to know someone a bit more online first" thing.

 

[Ferrio]

I've been looking at this girl's profile for a while, but couldn't figure out how to start a conversation. I took the dumb message approach sending this:



If I get no response within a couple days the next person will receive a message about cheese.

EDIT: Fuck it I sent this message to a different girl:

eh...?

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

Girls that just want to talk aren't worth your time. You're on an online DATING site. If you want to meet people, there are other sites for that.

 

[Necrovex]

Girls that just want to talk aren't worth your time. You're on an online DATING site. If you want to meet people, there are other sites for that.

Essentially my philosophy too. I like to move things off the site as quickly as possible.

 

[Darklord]

So I send a meme image to a girl. Forget cheese and peanut butter, man. We gotta go lower!

 

[A Human Becoming]

eh...?

Dumb messages yo.
First woman checked my profile early this morning. She hasn't sent a message, but it's no lose since it was unlikely I would have messaged her otherwise.

 

[subversus]

So I send a meme image to a girl. Forget cheese and peanut butter, man. We gotta go lower!

now that is low

but may work... maaaaaay be.

 

[Booter]

Profile up. Messaged 3 people. Answered 50 questions. Time to despair?

only takes 1 for success!

 

[dralla]

oh god, the cheese and peanut butter worked [first girl, with darklord's message]..this girl is absolutely gorgeous too. now im not sure how to follow it up lol

 

[Necrovex]

oh god, the cheese and peanut butter worked [first girl, with darklord's message]..this girl is absolutely gorgeous too. now im not sure how to follow it up lol

Get drunk and then write back.

 

[ianp622]

I've gotten 6 dates from OkCupid in less than 6 months. From experience, and from talking to girls on the site, my advice is to structure your messages as follows:

First message - this is where you show that you are not a creeper. A thoughtful message, less than two paragraphs, commenting on their profile. Don't be too forward. Make sure you have something that merits a response (something extremely witty or a question or two).

Second message - Respond to her message, and drop something subtle about her appearance unless you've got some really interesting stuff to respond to. Don't do this in the first message!

Third message - ask for a date. If she is hesitant but interested in continuing to talk, be patient for a bit. However, she should realize she has to show a bit more interest after that.

If they are on chat, CHAT! Almost every time I start chatting with someone, it eventually leads to a date.

 

[FairyD]

Hmm I shall try those methods and will see what happens.

 

[Ashhong]

My second message is always where I stumble I think.

 

[Freezie KO]

only takes 1 for success!

0-8 so far. Will keep trying...

 

[UFRA]

0-8 so far. Will keep trying...

lol that's nothing.

Come back after you sent 50+ messages with minimal responses, then feel bad.

 

[dralla]

damn, you guys make me feel good with my luck lol. I've sent about 80 with 20 responses. got 2 numbers this week

 

[Az987]

You guys are setting yourselves up for failure because you're not really retar... er.. funny. You'll be found out eventually! Its only a matter of time.

 

[TheKaeptain]

My second message is always where I stumble I think.

Same here bro.

 

[commedieu]

You guys are setting yourselves up for failure because you're not really retar... er.. funny. You'll be found out eventually! Its only a matter of time.

This is true. Be yourself, and you'll find someone that fits your parts just fine. You'll be relaxed, and things will happen natrually.

 

[shintoki]

Girls that just want to talk aren't worth your time. You're on an online DATING site. If you want to meet people, there are other sites for that.

Which sites? *wiggles*

 

[TheKaeptain]

You guys are setting yourselves up for failure because you're not really retar... er.. funny. You'll be found out eventually! Its only a matter of time.

I'm funny dammit.

 

[commedieu]

I'm funny dammit.

Prove it.

 

[dralla]

You guys are setting yourselves up for failure because you're not really retar... er.. funny. You'll be found out eventually! Its only a matter of time.

you're just jelly that darklord's message worked and yours didn't.

 

[Ashhong]

Prove it.

I think he just did

 

[Az987]

you're just jelly that darklord's message worked and yours didn't.

Oh no he didn't!

 

[Az987]

Its because you suck at sending funny messages, bro.

Check out this message I just sent.

Hey! You seem really smart and I've been having a disagreement with my friend and I need someone to side with me because I'm right and hes dumb. OK, so he says building a log cabin out of cheese (the hard gross french kind) would be more structurally sound than an igloo made out of peanut butter.

I told him hes crazy and his cheese house would stink really bad but hes sticking to his guns. Not to mention peanut butter gets REALLY hard when its frozen and igloos are only built in cold places and if used the chunky kind there's no way it would fall! Chunky peanut butter makes everything better.

So what do you think? Hes stupid, right?

I made that entire thing up in like 2 minutes! Lets see if she responds. If she does I WIN!

I just hope we don't start dating and she asks to meet my imaginary cheese loving friend.

Edit: Oh fuck, I left out "you" between if and used at the end with the chunky peanut butter. Now shes going to think I'm dumb! lol

 

[ianp622]

My second message is always where I stumble I think.

Yeah, I had that problem too. That's why I think you have to be more flirty with the second one. Take more risks each time. Hell, I've even been talking about fetishes and porn tastes before the first date. And cybered with one.

Its because you suck at sending funny messages, bro.

Check out this message I just sent.



I made that entire thing up in like 2 minutes! Lets see if she responds. If she does I WIN!

I just hope we don't start dating and she asks to meet my imaginary cheese loving friend.

Edit: Oh fuck, I left out "you" between if and used at the end with the chunky peanut butter. Now shes going to think I'm dumb! lol

You can do even better than something like that if you tailor it to her profile. Make a joke that references something she said or something in her profile pic.

 

[Ashhong]

Its because you suck at sending funny messages, bro.

Check out this message I just sent.

I made that entire thing up in like 2 minutes! Lets see if she responds. If she does I WIN!

I just hope we don't start dating and she asks to meet my imaginary cheese loving friend.

Edit: Oh fuck, I left out "you" between if and used at the end with the chunky peanut butter. Now shes going to think I'm dumb! lol

I just found a pretty hot girl who seems really smart. I am going to use something similar, will report back!

 

[Fix The Scientist]

Seems like every second girl in my city is bisexual, that shit is intimidating.

Wouldnt it be amazing if someone released an add-on or something where you could spam every single girl in a 50 mile radius with a single message. I wonder how many replies you'd get.