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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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Mecha_Infantry
Banned
The cute geeky girl text me to meet up tomorrow
Really not in the zone to take her out. Got a 20k thesis to hand in next Friday and I'm stressing out too much man
I need a nice shirt.
Really not in the zone to take her out. Got a 20k thesis to hand in next Friday and I'm stressing out too much man
I need a nice shirt.
TheKaeptain
Banned
Nah, I got it off of tumblr, it was already like that. I'm curious what the match percentages were as well haha.
They have a way to help you choose:
http://www.okcupid.com/mybestface
You submit some photos, then it asks you to compare other people's, so yours get evaluated like you evaluated others', and when they feel it's done, they send you a report about it.
Been away from the site for a few years while I was in a relationship, trying to at least update the profile and pics, and that might be useful as soon as it manages to output a report.
Speaking of profile updates, dos the site ever stop saying you need to rate and message people to complete yours? It never subtracts from the amounts itmentions, it only changes categories, then back to a previous task with a bigger number, as far as I've tried...
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
Date tomorrow. All set
Man she just sent me a pix....she perrrrty
Man she just sent me a pix....she perrrrty
You know what you have to do. Send a pic back of just the tip.
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
Haha. I sent her a normalish pic instead!
She's mixed. Are you white? I'm starting to think I have that white boy look that attracts black woman who are into white guys. White girls show me no love. I'm ostracized by my own people. *cries*
Looking at match.com, see cute white girl... looking for white guy. Fuck. I guess I can't really say anything as I narrowed my search to white girls haha. Done dating Hispanic girls, done it practically my whole life. Time for a change
Whoa, I got a reply from my shitty message. Amazing. Though my second message is huge. Too many questions! Especially when I'm asked "tell me about you? ". You can't make that small.
She thinks I'm in a band too for some reason. I'm not. I hope that isn't why she liked me lol.
". You can't make that small.She thinks I'm in a band too for some reason. I'm not. I hope that isn't why she liked me lol.
y2kenjination
Member
Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong? I joined about 3 weeks ago, and messaged over 60 girls. My results:
7 replies. 4 of which who didn't even visit my profile.
2 people messaged me. One local, and one from Brazil. WTF?
I was having a good exchange of messages with one girl, and she just suddenly stopped responding. I messaged her like two more times, but no response. I sent her a message today, and she visited my profile...still no response.
Another girl seems interested in me, but she takes FOREVER to respond. She's online like all the time, and says it's because she's lazy. She can go days without messaging me, and I usually have to pester her. She said she'd add me on facebook two days ago, but still hasn't.
I just changed my profile pic a couple of hours ago in hopes of getting more messages. It used to be the second picture...what am I doing wrong? Is it because I'm Asian? Haha. I don't have anything witty written on my profile, but maybe I should.
This is usually what I write:
Probably won't get a reply, but thought I'd try anyhow. How's it going? We seem to have similar interests, and I think we'd get along well.
Feel free to check out my profile and critique me:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jamestak
7 replies. 4 of which who didn't even visit my profile.
2 people messaged me. One local, and one from Brazil. WTF?
I was having a good exchange of messages with one girl, and she just suddenly stopped responding. I messaged her like two more times, but no response. I sent her a message today, and she visited my profile...still no response.
Another girl seems interested in me, but she takes FOREVER to respond. She's online like all the time, and says it's because she's lazy. She can go days without messaging me, and I usually have to pester her. She said she'd add me on facebook two days ago, but still hasn't.
I just changed my profile pic a couple of hours ago in hopes of getting more messages. It used to be the second picture...what am I doing wrong? Is it because I'm Asian? Haha. I don't have anything witty written on my profile, but maybe I should.
This is usually what I write:
Probably won't get a reply, but thought I'd try anyhow. How's it going? We seem to have similar interests, and I think we'd get along well.
Feel free to check out my profile and critique me:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jamestak
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
Member
What is with all of you dudes and the self-hate and pity parties?This is usually what I write:
Probably won't get a reply, but thought I'd try anyhow. How's it going? We seem to have similar interests, and I think we'd get along well.
y2kenjination
Member
Don't know! I suck at starting conversations...I'm a total introvert.
Take a hint. If you don't get a reply, don't keep messaging. Some never reply, some stop replying. That's online dating.
Pester her? Honestly, that makes me cringe. Pestering someone to interact with you is possibly the WORST thing you can do. She said the FB thing to shut you up. If a conversation is slow, then it's slow. If it dies then move on.
Probably won't get a reply, but thought I'd try anyhow. How's it going? We seem to have similar interests, and I think we'd get along well.
Starts off with you sounding really insecure. Instantly bad and a major turn off. It's also bland and just any copy & paste they'd see a hundred times. Point out some things in her profile, add a joke or two, ask a question.
Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong? I joined about 3 weeks ago, and messaged over 60 girls. My results:
7 replies. 4 of which who didn't even visit my profile.
2 people messaged me. One local, and one from Brazil. WTF?
I was having a good exchange of messages with one girl, and she just suddenly stopped responding. I messaged her like two more times, but no response. I sent her a message today, and she visited my profile...still no response.
Another girl seems interested in me, but she takes FOREVER to respond. She's online like all the time, and says it's because she's lazy. She can go days without messaging me, and I usually have to pester her. She said she'd add me on facebook two days ago, but still hasn't.
I just changed my profile pic a couple of hours ago in hopes of getting more messages. It used to be the second picture...what am I doing wrong? Is it because I'm Asian? Haha. I don't have anything witty written on my profile, but maybe I should.
This is usually what I write:
Probably won't get a reply, but thought I'd try anyhow. How's it going? We seem to have similar interests, and I think we'd get along well.
Feel free to check out my profile and critique me:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jamestak
Damn, even I don't pester girls like this. I wouldn't go messaging 2-3 more times if they dont reply.
y2kenjination
Member
Good advice, everyone. Although I kind of disagree about the pestering. If they don't respond after we had a good exchange of messages, I usually try messaging them 2-3 more times, and move on after that. They could just ignore my messages, so I don't see what the big deal is. This is the Internet after all-- it's not like I'm calling her or knocking on her door. Just my opinion though.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
Member
It's self-respect. If a girl wants you, she will talk to you.
y2kenjination
Member
Didn't know there was some unwritten rule about this. Of course I'd never pull this stuff in real life.
y2kenjination
Member
Hmmm...desperate, or anxious? Shows that I'm very interested in the girl. I only did this with two girls that actually really interested me, and that I had a good exchange with. Just seems like a waste to stop contacting them. I don't know, these are all just my opinions.
Anxious is also bad. They are random internet people, if you come off TOO interested it can be clingy or seem very needy. You just need to chat like you would a friend, make some jokes, flirt a little here and there and then ask to meet. And yes, online dating is a 95% waste of time. We're all over that 5%.
y2kenjination
Member
Point taken, good stuff. And you've got that right, haha.
Freezie KO
Banned
Fucking OK Cupid! I'm at 24 messages sent out. No replies yet.
Then... I get a message. A beautiful pink notification.
It was "Chris" from OK Cupid in an automated message. Fuck you, Chris.
Then... I get a message. A beautiful pink notification.
It was "Chris" from OK Cupid in an automated message. Fuck you, Chris.
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
Killer!
Haha the joys of seeing that pink notification, the heart rate flutters...you think "who could it BEEEEE?!"...
Then the inevitable let down!!
Lone_Prodigy
Member
It's like when you get an email from POF, and then you realize it's just the "new matches for X date" one.
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
Every. Single. Week.
Your profile doesn't make you out to be particularly exciting. Think of it like a resume - pick a strong point about yourself and emphasize it. You don't really talk much about yourself. Why should someone be interested in meeting you?Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong? I joined about 3 weeks ago, and messaged over 60 girls. My results:
7 replies. 4 of which who didn't even visit my profile.
2 people messaged me. One local, and one from Brazil. WTF?
I was having a good exchange of messages with one girl, and she just suddenly stopped responding. I messaged her like two more times, but no response. I sent her a message today, and she visited my profile...still no response.
Another girl seems interested in me, but she takes FOREVER to respond. She's online like all the time, and says it's because she's lazy. She can go days without messaging me, and I usually have to pester her. She said she'd add me on facebook two days ago, but still hasn't.
I just changed my profile pic a couple of hours ago in hopes of getting more messages. It used to be the second picture...what am I doing wrong? Is it because I'm Asian? Haha. I don't have anything witty written on my profile, but maybe I should.
This is usually what I write:
Probably won't get a reply, but thought I'd try anyhow. How's it going? We seem to have similar interests, and I think we'd get along well.
Feel free to check out my profile and critique me:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jamestak
Your first message sucks. It gives no indication that you've even read the girl's profile, nor does it entice a reply. Put some more thought into it - tailor it for that girl in particular. If she doesn't respond, move to the next one. Or don't even wait, just go to the next profile that interests you.
Doctor West
Member
I don't know about this site man, it's like a damn circus. The first thing I did was put up a pic and I immediately got an uncomfortable message. I don't like that my profile went live before I even started filling it in. I'm a dude by the way and the chick was not attractive at all, but it was interesting to see how creepy desperation can be. I guess that's what girls must feel like when reading most guys' messages.
Also, has anybody gotten a serious relationships with this site? It seems more like classier version of Craig's List where people try to get one night stands and I'm not into that.
Also, has anybody gotten a serious relationships with this site? It seems more like classier version of Craig's List where people try to get one night stands and I'm not into that.
Power Glove
Member
Perfect description
Just got back from meeting up with OKC girl, this is number 4. Her parents don't want her driving at night so I went to pick her up, I met her family lol It went well, apparently I'm a likable dude It was really late though, we went to get sushi and all the places were closed, so we just drove around looking for a random place, we finally found a place that let us do takeout, so we get some sushi and came back to my house, sat on my bed eating sushi, watching family guy lol. Then I taught her how to drive on the highway on the way home lol, it was a strange "date". She made it very clear she's not looking for anything serious and just looking for people to hang with, and that's perfectly OK with me. We'll hang out again for sure.
It was really late though, we went to get sushi and all the places were closed, so we just drove around looking for a random place, we finally found a place that let us do takeout, so we get some sushi and came back to my house, sat on my bed eating sushi, watching family guy lol. Then I taught her how to drive on the highway on the way home lol, it was a strange "date". She made it very clear she's not looking for anything serious and just looking for people to hang with, and that's perfectly OK with me. We'll hang out again for sure.y2kenjination
Member
I revised my profile if anyone's interested in looking at it again. I think it looks a lot more interesting now, haha.
and back to pestering-- the girl added me on facebook. Hooray?
and back to pestering-- the girl added me on facebook. Hooray?
soul creator
Member
I'm polyamorous, so my definition of "serious" probably differs from most people, but I've met lots of friends/lovers that have been a part of my life for 2+ years now (coming up on a 3 year anniversary for one person in particular, heh).
Freezie KO
Banned
I got a reply! Hooray!
Granted, it was a two line pithy reply, but it included a question. That's good, right? She wants to volley the conversation back to me?
Of course, I instantly replied back, and then she hung around online a little longer. And then didn't reply back to me.
So... should I have waited? Did I violate an unwritten rule? Did I seem desperate? I was already online! Should I have not sent a message? :/
And could you save some for the rest of us?
Granted, it was a two line pithy reply, but it included a question. That's good, right? She wants to volley the conversation back to me?
Of course, I instantly replied back, and then she hung around online a little longer. And then didn't reply back to me.
So... should I have waited? Did I violate an unwritten rule? Did I seem desperate? I was already online! Should I have not sent a message? :/
And could you save some for the rest of us?
y2kenjination
Member
Also, why are all the hot girls fake accounts? Blasted!
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
Member
It's probably fine. She may just be playing the waiting to reply game. Also, never forget that women are bombarded with messages. Never assume that it's personal.
Now that you're no longer banned, where's our UPDATE?
Freezie KO
Banned
Okay. Thank you. I take everything personally. I'll keep GAF updated on all my failures. I mean, successes.
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