Fix The Scientist
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Damn son. Was she bigger than her photos let on? i'm always scared of this.
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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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wind_steaker
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Yeah I reckon some of them were a bit old, and there were no clear body shots really - they were all obscured a little
This has happened to me multiple times :O
Biff
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Doesn't seem like many other people replied so I'll give a quick impression:
1. Your very first sentence has to go. No girl, I repeat, NO GIRL wants to meet a guy online who is interested in "military technology and firearms". Come on, dude... That'll scare them off right away.
2. You mention "anti-depressant" in your first paragraph. Girls want to find guys who are fun and confident. This is a universal truth. Trust me, I know how horrible depression is... But your profile isn't the place to share it. If you get far enough with a girl (i.e. enough dates where it is going to become a real relationship), then it's time to have an open discussion about any issues you may have. Not on your public profile.
3. What is "vidya"? Also the line about going through your backlog is very NeoGAF-y (in a bad way).
4. Your "most private thing" line has to go. OkCupid is retarded when it comes to their profile questions. I hated that question when I was on it.. I don't remember what I put but it certainly didn't have to do with hating fun. I switched to PoF after getting fed up with the immaturity of OkC and never looked back.
Sorry if I sound harsh. I'm actually trying to help, and unfortunately brutal honesty is what you need right now, in my opinion.
Power Glove
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Just be careful she doesn't slip some alternative medicine in your drink.
FelixOrion
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Red-est of red flags
You gonna get drugged
I'll just remember to take the used condom with me if i get lucky!
Mecha_Infantry
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Second date confirmed for Thursday
I told her she might have to think about what we are going to do otherwise we will have to resort to cinema/dinner/drinks if we can't decide, then she said it sounds perfect
Which I'm realllly glad, because I love going to the cinema, but with female company it's even better
Been texting alot so kinda excited to see her again...lol...a LITTLE excited! Gotta be careful
I told her she might have to think about what we are going to do otherwise we will have to resort to cinema/dinner/drinks if we can't decide, then she said it sounds perfect
Which I'm realllly glad, because I love going to the cinema, but with female company it's even better
Been texting alot so kinda excited to see her again...lol...a LITTLE excited! Gotta be careful
POWERSPHERE
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Mecha_Infantry
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I hope so!
I'm the first date she's been on from the site, although she's been on there a few months. She's a really attractive chick so I'm not sure how to read it
I don't think she is lying as I told her she's not my first. So gonna take this one easy
How you getting along Ashong?
I'm the first date she's been on from the site, although she's been on there a few months. She's a really attractive chick so I'm not sure how to read it
I don't think she is lying as I told her she's not my first. So gonna take this one easy
How you getting along Ashong?
Did you ask her why she didn't go on any dates with anybody else?
It's going pretty slowly for me. Been out with only 1 girl so far, and she's cool and we get along but I'm not sure is there's a real spark. If anything she will make a great friend.
Other then that though, I message girls with pretty decent thoughtful messages, they visit me, but then don't message me Touching up my profile right now..
It's going pretty slowly for me. Been out with only 1 girl so far, and she's cool and we get along but I'm not sure is there's a real spark. If anything she will make a great friend.
Other then that though, I message girls with pretty decent thoughtful messages, they visit me, but then don't message me
Touching up my profile right now..Mecha_Infantry
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Did you ask her why she didn't go on any dates with anybody else?
It's going pretty slowly for me. Been out with only 1 girl so far, and she's cool and we get along but I'm not sure is there's a real spark. If anything she will make a great friend.
Other then that though, I message girls with pretty decent thoughtful messages, they visit me, but then don't message me
I asked her yea, she said she just wasn't interested and the messages were a little creepy. She said mine caught her eye and she thought I was nice so she hollered.
I hear what you're saying about sending out messages and getting no response. It's slow, but sometimes you get a response, but keep it going!
After yet another failed first date this threads making me real depressed.
Don't give up man. I had a few bad dates, but also had some good ones. Some of them turn into something special... just keep at it.
Mecha_Infantry
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After yet another failed first date this threads making me real depressed.
Don't worry about them.
Makes you realise what you want in a woman or need to do next time
I met someone on Friday at Kohl's! We were supposed to have a date but she lent her phone to her mom who was supposed to send out a all contacts text but I guess didn't know how so she messaged me late on Friday to come meet her if I wanted to.
I thought it went ok. She said "definitely text me tonight" a couple times when we were saying goodbye but she hasn't messaged me back lol so I'm guessing it didn't even though she could have lent her phone again. I sent her a couple texts and then I was at the mall and I saw her getting into her car haha.
I was like "OH NO! If I walk up to her and she doesn't want to talk to me she'll think I'm a crazy stalker. RUN!" So I ran into the mall lmao.
I thought it went ok. She said "definitely text me tonight" a couple times when we were saying goodbye but she hasn't messaged me back lol so I'm guessing it didn't even though she could have lent her phone again. I sent her a couple texts and then I was at the mall and I saw her getting into her car haha.
I was like "OH NO! If I walk up to her and she doesn't want to talk to me she'll think I'm a crazy stalker. RUN!" So I ran into the mall lmao.
Jim E. Rossler
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No I don't have any depression, but I can see now why it would seem that way
So all the stuff that makes you who you are has to go haha (I understand what your saying)
#3 No normal person knows what that is so I thought having it there wouldn't scare anyone off, but I dont want anyone to hurt themselves in their confusion so it'll go.
#4 was a joke, I guess if you thought I was actually depressed it would sound horrible
Maybe the issue with with my area and it's not that common in places where the site is more popular, but it's kind of annoying when they have profiles with nothing written on them and/or no questions answered - I have no problem with a lack of photos (I'm pretty much just updating my profile and not putting a lot of expectations into the site, but I do want to make it easier for things to happen through it), but what the hell is a guy supposed to write to someone who writes nothing about herself?
Stupid "send 25 messages to complete your profile" thing...
Oh well, at least I've exchanged some fun messages about movies with someone who's in another country.
Stupid "send 25 messages to complete your profile" thing...
Oh well, at least I've exchanged some fun messages about movies with someone who's in another country.
Jim E. Rossler
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What happens when your profile is 100%?
You unlock an achievement.
Haha. This can be true sometimes.
My current girlfriend and I were actually friends/co-workers for a year and half before we decided to become more than that. We dated other people at first and what not, and then it's like we realized what was right in front of us all this time.
OriginofHysteria
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I was aiming for 100%, but then I saw I had to do like "3500" of something so then I was just like "lol no"
Biff
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This is an unfortunate half-truth of online dating. You can let trickles of the "real" you (i.e. the stuff that would probably scare off most) during messages when you can CONTROL their release.
Putting everything on a profile for people to interpret however they choose to is the problem (hence my confusion towards your non-existent depression). In private messages, you can each share things at a pace appropriate to your level of intimacy.
Future Foundation
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So, I started OKC about three weeks ago. Filled out the profile, sent some messages, got some responses. One girl in particular was really interesting. We'd been talking, and everything was going fine, but then she stopped. This was a few days ago, do I write a quick message asking what's up, or just leave it?
I like seeing success stories on here...keep up the good work, gentlemen.
I can't seem to attract anyone without lots of baggage lately...current girl is cute and really great to talk to, but in a 5-year relationship where the guy is keeping it open and she wants him to commit. He's currently on "vacation" for three months, basically smanging his side women on the West coast. Can't tell if she's looking for a good excuse to jump ship, or is using me for emotional fulfillment until this dumb man-whore of hers comes back. As it stands right now, she doesn't want to meet just yet.
I'm also going on a "dinner date" tonight with this woman I've been talking to at Target. We'll see how it goes.
99% of the time this just means she's bored with you. If you really want to message her again, go for it, but be coy about it. Don't ask why she stopped talking, just maybe induce a topic change. You still aren't likely to get a response back, but asking women about why they haven't messaged you back is 100% assured failure.
I can't seem to attract anyone without lots of baggage lately...current girl is cute and really great to talk to, but in a 5-year relationship where the guy is keeping it open and she wants him to commit. He's currently on "vacation" for three months, basically smanging his side women on the West coast. Can't tell if she's looking for a good excuse to jump ship, or is using me for emotional fulfillment until this dumb man-whore of hers comes back. As it stands right now, she doesn't want to meet just yet.
I'm also going on a "dinner date" tonight with this woman I've been talking to at Target. We'll see how it goes.
99% of the time this just means she's bored with you. If you really want to message her again, go for it, but be coy about it. Don't ask why she stopped talking, just maybe induce a topic change. You still aren't likely to get a response back, but asking women about why they haven't messaged you back is 100% assured failure.
I feel like I'm on a different site than you guys or something.
1. Only had to answer 100 questions and upload pics, never had to rate people for 100%
2. I can browse privately and still see my visitors
3. some other things I forgot now
edit: I see so many girls putting "just lounging around, watching a movie" on their Friday night question. That's what I want to put, but I thought girls wouldn't want a lazy guy lol. Is it acceptable for a guy to put that as well?
1. Only had to answer 100 questions and upload pics, never had to rate people for 100%
2. I can browse privately and still see my visitors
3. some other things I forgot now
edit: I see so many girls putting "just lounging around, watching a movie" on their Friday night question. That's what I want to put, but I thought girls wouldn't want a lazy guy lol. Is it acceptable for a guy to put that as well?
HappyBivouac
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I'm having a hard time believing it, but I guess I signed up for this shit. Had two somewhat interesting girls message me in the first few hours. Pickings seem slim in the area. It's a college town so it's not like I or anyone else has trouble meeting people. Just thought I'd see what's there.
All you can do now is move on, do not contact her anymore, and have a drink.
There's a difference between a flattering picture and then an angle shot to disguise the fat on a woman.
And workshopping =/ lying on one's profile. That's at least what I'm gathering from your comparison.
Hey, I don't know what you're talking about.
That picture of a shirtless man without a head is totally me. I just gained a little weight since it was taken!
I don't think he's full of shit at all.
I do want to know what the full deets on his story is though, but I feel like GAF is just giving him shit for the sake of shit, so I suppose I wouldn't respond either.
I may become reactive in this thread soon unfortunately. After a giant messy fight and a lot of bull shit this last week, I want to call it off with this girl. Giving her another chance, but I only give one extra one.
:/
I had a girl view my profile and rate me highly. So I messaged her. She replied back and seemed really interested in me. I sent a second message and...no reply. I don't even know what I said wrong. I just replied to her comments, added a bit about my self like she asked, and asked a couple questions, that's it. :\
Haha yea, these girls are just extremely fickle it seems. My latest strategy is finding the new girls who sometimes don't even have a profile yet, hoping they haven't been flooded with messages. I send off a quick message saying
"Hey how's it going? The OKCupid Robot told me to ask you why your profile is blank so here I am. blah blah blah"
100% success rate so far lol. Pretty hard continuing the conversation after message 2 or so because of the lack of information in her profile..
"Hey how's it going? The OKCupid Robot told me to ask you why your profile is blank so here I am. blah blah blah"
100% success rate so far lol. Pretty hard continuing the conversation after message 2 or so because of the lack of information in her profile..
Maybe say that you want to know more about her, her interests, what she does, ect. Whatever she replies with go with that. Or just start asking questions YOU'RE interested in. They can be totally random.
johnny_park
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This is exactly what I do on here and pof, Message the new girls before they get bombarded by messages. I've been a lot of girls first meet up.
Yea that's what I try. Awkward sometimes because I can see that she's in the middle of slowly updating her profile. I wonder to myself, should I wait until she's done? Should I just ask? I think too much
Get in first. Even make a joke about how you want to find out before all the riff raff get to read it, VIP info. Or...you know, something like that.
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